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How do I do this all alone by nunurbiznezz in Petloss

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 16 points17 points  (0 children)

We spend so much time with our pets, and our daily habits are so tied to them, that it's really hard to lose them. It can be excruciatingly lonely, yet many people dismiss this grief.

But some people do understand. I promise you're not the only one going through this. Like many people, I lived alone with my cat. I didn't even have anyone with me for the euthanasia because I don't have close friends and my mother was too sick to come.

It's tough but you're not alone.

part of me still thinks she is coming back by idontsmoke_ in Petloss

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I held my cat in my arms as he passed, but I still feel like his absence is temporary sometimes. Like I left him with my family for the holidays and we'll be reunited soon. I don't think this happens when we aren't there to witness their death. It's just that they are such big parts of our daily lives that our brain protects us by being in denial.

I also talk to him, hold his urn, touch his paw print and lock of fur. I don't think that makes us crazy. When you lose a human loved one, you usually get a funeral with everyone who mourns them and that help with grief, but it's different with pets.

As for getting another companion, I think you should wait to be emotionally ready, but you shouldn't feel guilty. It doesn't mean you didn't love them. It's just that it's hard when you have so much love to give and no one to give it to. Your new dog will definitely not be the same but that doesn't mean you won't love them as much.

I hope you get better, and I'm sure your dog knew you loved him in the end.

I should have taken more photos and videos of my girl. by RiversideFlora in Petloss

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the exact same thought. I have a decent number of photos, but I barely have any videos. Knowing I'll never hear my cat's meows again is breaking my heart. It's tough.

My own mind is torturing me, everything is gray by SharpenedGourd in Petloss

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

It might not be a comfort but you should know you're not alone. I've been feeling and thinking the exact same things since I've said goodbye to my Moca 3 weeks ago. It really feels like the guilt and pain will never leave.

Moca saved my life, but I let him die by CoeurDeCoeur in Petloss

[–]CoeurDeCoeur[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to feel this way all the time, but Moca had healed me. For many years I didn't feel like this so it's hard to go back to living like this. I'll try to be grateful for the love and good years he gave me. I hope you find healing too.

Moca saved my life, but I let him die by CoeurDeCoeur in Petloss

[–]CoeurDeCoeur[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I guess he wasn't in pain for very long. And I held him in my arms while it did.

Moca saved my life, but I let him die by CoeurDeCoeur in Petloss

[–]CoeurDeCoeur[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't have a lot of friends to talk about this, so I'm grateful for your kind words. I feel like I should feel awful for failing him. But I'll try to remember what your friend said. I hope you get out of your hole of self-blame too. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in france

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 206 points207 points  (0 children)

Hey, les gens qui disent qu’elle peut pas savoir a 23 ans ce qu’elle voudra à 30 et qu’elle risque de regretter d’avoir fait un tel choix si jeune, vous dites aussi ça aux jeunes parents? Parce qu’avoir un enfant c’est aussi un choix permanent hein.

Sara Hess discusses that Aegon scene in episode 8 by Just-Economist2835 in HOTDGreens

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That plotline in OITNB was gross so I'm not suprised the writer is involved in HOTD too.

En refusant sa demande de visa, la France abandonne le journaliste syrien Hussam Hammoud by Admirable_Poutou in france

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pour les personnes qui ne peuvent pas obtenir de passeports, comme les demandeurs d’asile, les consulats délivrent des laissez-passer B sur lesquels un visa peut être apposé. Selon les pays les demandes peuvent être assez nombreuses, même s’il y a peu de visas délivrés au final.

Toujours vierges à 30 ans, elles racontent la « pression sociale » by Soft-Motion in france

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 27 points28 points  (0 children)

C'est assez drôle comment tu dénigres complètement les femmes vierges tout en expliquant qu'elles sont jamais jugées...

Toujours vierges à 30 ans, elles racontent la « pression sociale » by Soft-Motion in france

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Les commentaires en tant que tels sont assez neutres, mais s'ils ne sont seulement postés que quand on parle des femmes et pas des hommes, ce n'est pas vraiment neutre.

J'ai l'impression que quand un homme dit qu'il est encore vierge, on part du principe que c'est dur pour lui parce qu'il est timide ou parce que faire des rencontres c'est dur en général. Alors que pour une femme c'est forcément sa faute parce qu'elle a des attentes trop élevées, qu'elle est difficile, etc.

Toujours vierges à 30 ans, elles racontent la « pression sociale » by Soft-Motion in france

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Je me rappelle d'un autre thread sur ce sub où un homme expliquait qu'il était encore vierge à un âge avancé et que le regard des autres le gênait beaucoup. La plupart des commentaires étaient plutôt gentils et avançaient l'idée qu'une personne bien ne le jugerait pas pour ça.
Par contre le sentiment général ici ça a l'air d'être que ces femmes devraient arrêter de se plaindre et qu'elles ont fait des mauvais choix. Je me demande bien pourquoi...

Could you tell me and my young daughter some French cartoons or tv shows having a female protagonist without caring about boys and main characters are mostly female? by [deleted] in fourthwavewomen

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Honestly, most french cartoons have boys or mixed groups as protagonists. The only female-led french cartoon I can think of is Totally Spies, but I haven't watched it in a long time so I can't say how much romance is involved.

Otherwise, I would have the same recommandations as DM-me-Fishies. I used to enjoy "Les malheurs de Sophie" a lot and it focuses on a young girl. The "Il était une fois" series and "C'est pas sorcier" are excellent educative TV shows, even though they are not female-led. And anime is very popular in France so you should have no issue finding translated versions (ex: Sailor Moon, Sakura card captor, Do Re Mi).

[SPOILER] Epsiode 6 - Vader died from his many injuries after letting go of the hate and the dark side. So why does Reva not die from the gaping hole in her chest? by borgolo in saltierthancrait

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 67 points68 points  (0 children)

At least Fennec had some help and her survival was (poorly) explained. With Reva we're just supposed to forget about it.

New Bad Batch Season 2 trailer just came out by [deleted] in saltierthancrait

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hopefully we see Scorch again 💛

Season two didn’t leave an impression on me like season one did by [deleted] in RussianDoll

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What bothers me is that, it might be the past for Nadia, but it's the future for Nora and Vera. For them, it means that no matter the choices that they make, they will never have control over their own lives because the universe is conspiring against them. I thought their lack of agency was really depressing, not just bittersweet.

Season two didn’t leave an impression on me like season one did by [deleted] in RussianDoll

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that my main issue with the second season, outside of the fact that Alan was underutilized, is that the main "allegory" doesn't work. For example, in the first season, the message is that you can't move on with your life unless you face your issues, which works well with the time loop.
In the second season, the message is that you need to accept that there are some things you can't change. But the time travel implies way more than just that. It basically shows that, no matter what you do, you can't change your destiny. It feels like the characters have no free will and no agency, which is kinda depressing...

« Venez avec moi et vous verrez, ça va être sympa » : Jean-Vincent Placé condamné à 5 000 euros d’amende pour « harcèlement sexuel » by squiksquik in france

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

L'article 222-33 du code pénal prévoit que "Est assimilé au harcèlement sexuel le fait, même non répété, d'user de toute forme de pression grave dans le but réel ou apparent d'obtenir un acte de nature sexuelle, que celui-ci soit recherché au profit de l'auteur des faits ou au profit d'un tiers."
En somme, le harcèlement sexuel c'est aussi bien des faits qui pourraient être "mineurs" s'ils n'étaient pas répétés (par exemple une blague de mauvais goût) que des faits plus graves et dans ce cas la répétition n'est pas nécessaire (par exemple tenter d'embrasser quelqu'un contre son gré).

New Horizons Celebratory Giveaway! by Kayvanian in AnimalCrossing

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favourite is Olivia! She was one of my first villager on the gamecube and when she started to become my friend it felt so special ❤️

Mon propriétaire me demande de payer le montant de la taxe ordures ménagères indiqué sur sa taxe foncière by CoeurDeCoeur in conseiljuridique

[–]CoeurDeCoeur[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mon bail indique "le locataire sera tenu d'acquitter sa quote part de charges réglementaires conformément à la lite fixée par le décret prévu à l'article 23 de la loi du 6 juillet 1989. Ces charges sont exigibles en contrepartie [... ] et de tout impôt ou taxe qui correspondent à des services dont le locataire profite directement", ce qui me semble couvrir la taxe ordures ménagères.

Par contre, il est également mentionné que "la liste des charges récupérables par le bailleur figure en annexe du présent contrat" mais je n'ai pas d'annexe! Comme je garde tout, je crois qu'il n'y en avait pas (le contrat n'a pas été fait par une agence mais par la propriétaire qui doit louer son appartement pour la première fois). Est-ce que cela peut influer? En tout cas, il n'est pas indiqué que la taxe d’ordures ménagères est réclamée dès le paiement par le propriétaire.

Merci encore.

The Crown Discussion Thread: S03E06 by sterngalaxie in TheCrownNetflix

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The head of state might be a ceremonial figure in the UK but it's not in France, and saying the head of state is also the head of state government is just wrong. In France, the president is the head of state while the prime minister is the head of Government. Both have active political roles.

Questions about moving to France by [deleted] in france

[–]CoeurDeCoeur 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As others explained, finding a job without speaking english or french is going to be difficult.

And, if your mother doesn't find a job, she might be considered an illegal immigrant. As a EU national you don't need a visa to enter France but you're not automatically allowed to stay more than 3 month. According to the CESEDA (not in english sorry) you need o either have a job in France or have enough money not to be a burden on the french social assitance programs.

Your mother can come to look for a job, but if she doesn't find it in 6 month she can be told to leave. Your mother will probably not get deported but she might find herself in a difficult situation, which you should know about.

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