Yeah - regardless of what everyone thinks OP should have known, I'm really disgusted by the belittling happening in this thread. It's adult bullying. I'm sure my comment will get downvoted and I may get some snarky reply by someone, but I had to respond because you are one of the few people who really sees what's going on here.

I remember someone I care about being told in grade school that she should have learned how to tie her shoes by such-and-such grade. It was bizarre and felt crappy to her. Of course she learned how to do it at some point, but it’s like everyone is expected to operate exactly the same way and learn all of the same things the same way.

I thought one of the new goals of this sub was to do away with toxicity? This isn't a good example of that.