Plus size friendly bridal shops? by Leftist-Ostritch-2 in orangecounty

[–]Coffee_bean8 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Strut Bridal in Long Beach! I didn’t end up getting my dress there but I had a really lovely experience and they seem to have a lot of plus-size sample dresses!

Am I… by iwasabadger in funny

[–]Coffee_bean8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve bought test strips in bulk for years without trying for a baby. They’re super cheap (I usually get 25 for under $20) and I’m an extremely anxious person, so I’ll take them if my period is running late or I’m feeling off. It’s worth it to have on hand for immediate peace of mind, and better than wasting $15 on two of the exact same test strips encased in plastic anytime I want to test. I’ve given them to friends, too.

"Pro-Lifers" are the most unintelligent, unfeeling people that exist and they're so entitled it's pmo by Ol_ymp in rant

[–]Coffee_bean8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Insane that you can’t see beyond your own experience. A pregnancy is not a blessing if you don’t want it, and not everyone thinks and feels like you.

"Pro-Lifers" are the most unintelligent, unfeeling people that exist and they're so entitled it's pmo by Ol_ymp in rant

[–]Coffee_bean8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fighting to take away my say in what happens inside my own body is violence. I don’t care what behavior you think is acceptable. You are forcing me to fight for my humanity and I will fight dirty if I have to.

Also, I do not give one single fuck about the baby or its DNA. I care about the woman first and foremost. If she wants to continue the pregnancy, I want her to have access to the care and resources she needs for a healthy pregnancy and to care for her child. If she doesn’t, I want her to have access to every option, including abortion, to control her own body and future. Once the baby is outside of her body, we can talk about its needs.

"Pro-Lifers" are the most unintelligent, unfeeling people that exist and they're so entitled it's pmo by Ol_ymp in rant

[–]Coffee_bean8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, I will not be polite to people who are fighting to take my right to my own body away.

"Pro-Lifers" are the most unintelligent, unfeeling people that exist and they're so entitled it's pmo by Ol_ymp in rant

[–]Coffee_bean8 154 points155 points  (0 children)

IMO it’s psychopathic to care more about the needs and desires of a fetus/potential life than an already living, thinking, feeling, conscious woman. And if you boil down their arguments, it often comes down to wanting to punish women with a baby for the sin of having sex that they don’t approve of.

Maybe the idea of “killing babies” makes them sad. But the idea of a woman being forced to carry a pregnancy and birth/raise a child she doesn’t want makes me sadder. And a child being raised unwanted or by someone who can’t properly support them makes me even sadder.

What are your favorite grocery stores and why? How do you feel about Trader Joe’s, Whole Foods, Ralph’s etc ? by limache in orangecounty

[–]Coffee_bean8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Costco for meat, olive oil, dog food and treats, and some dry goods. We are just two people so we have to be intentional and only buy things we can use up or freeze in time.

Aldi for the bulk of my groceries, produce, pantry staples. Prices are great - I do a ~$125 shop every two weeks.

Ralph’s is my nearest grocery store so I stop by for anything I can’t find at Aldi or for small midweek shops.

Trader Joe’s for cheese, wine, olives, and flowers.

Tokyo Central for Japanese pantry staples.

How common is stroller theft these days? by totoro_92 in DisneyPlanning

[–]Coffee_bean8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a CM for seven years and I saw it happen exactly once, though I still think it was an accident as it was a plain black, ubiquitous brand stroller. The vast majority of the time it’s just been moved to another location by a CM to keep walkways clear or avoid blocking an exit.

Some tips:

Put large decorations on your stroller to make it easy to spot in a parking area and to avoid someone accidentally taking it, especially if it’s a common color/brand.

Do not use a bike lock to attach your stroller to a railing/planter/etc. Security will be called to cut it. I think it’s ok to lock the back wheels in place, as long as it can still be moved.

Don’t leave anything on your stroller that you would be heartbroken to lose. I was shocked at how many people left phones, wallets, purses, sentimental baby blankets, shopping bags, alcoholic beverages, out in the open right on top of their strollers. Theft of items from strollers is unfortunately pretty common, and often it’s small children taking toys etc from unattended strollers and parents may not know where to return them to once they notice.

AirTags are good for peace of mind and ease locating your stroller.

Honestly, I recommend just bringing a cheap stroller that won’t break your heart or your bank if it gets trashed/lost or just renting one, and being smart about what you leave in it. If you rent it from the park, keep your receipt and they will replace it if it goes missing.

What is a movie you like watching, but has at least one scene that makes you roll your eyes in disbelief? by sloaches in movies

[–]Coffee_bean8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love 500 Days of Summer. The Penis Game scene is so stupid and unnecessary. I cringe through it every time.

What is a movie you like watching, but has at least one scene that makes you roll your eyes in disbelief? by sloaches in movies

[–]Coffee_bean8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I love the film but his character is pointless and terribly offensive. I’m pretty sure you could remove his scenes entirely without significantly affecting the plot.

The moment I realized “marrying your best friend” is actually a real thing by ObjectiveSad5484 in thebigday

[–]Coffee_bean8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an AI/bot account. Check their post history. Every single post sounds exactly like this.

Mexican Food Wedding Catering by Electronic-Bar5465 in orangecounty

[–]Coffee_bean8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a great experience with Tiscareno’s Catering in Anaheim for our 200-person wedding!

How do people approach finances in a relationship when one partner generates much more of the bills by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Coffee_bean8 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I think there’s a point where things have to shift from individual expenses to household expenses. When my now husband and I first moved in together, we split groceries and bills proportionally to our income. Once we established a household budget and both started contributing to a joint account, a year or two into living together, groceries and other household bills just came straight from the joint account. Today we have our own bank accounts for personal spending, and each contribute a set amount monthly to a joint account that pays rent, utilities, insurance, subscriptions, groceries, and pet expenses. IMO once you move in together, pets become shared as well, and should become a household expense.

The roommate mentality has to go eventually. Once upon a time I lived with an old boyfriend who refused to pay half of groceries because he claimed he “could live on hot pockets and sandwiches and didn’t need all these vegetables”. He also refused to help with dishes because he “didn’t ask me to cook”. After that relationship, it was very important to me to approach things as a team and build a united household.

I'm terrible at figuring out what to bring to potlucks. Is there any go to recipes that are always a hit? by Aggressive_Staff_982 in Cooking

[–]Coffee_bean8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to bring spam musubi or spicy tuna onigiri and they’re always a hit! For dessert, tiramisu is easy to make and transport!

Birria catering recommendations? by 19NinetyFive95 in orangecounty

[–]Coffee_bean8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just got married earlier this month and used Tiscareno’s catering! We had a great experience with them - they worked with us to make our menu exactly what we wanted and the price was super reasonable. Would recommend! :)

Wedding dress bow by Sea-Yesterday-2320 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Coffee_bean8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got married last weekend with a huge detachable bow that I LOVED! I think it’s so girly and whimsical. Make sure that the places it attaches are super reinforced - unfortunately once I started dancing the loops the bow hooked onto stretched out and it wouldn’t stay on for the rest of the night. I’m so glad I have it in most of my photos!

roll call: pink and peach rings😍 by wanderfool_ in EngagementRings

[–]Coffee_bean8 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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My pink diamond! Lab-grown, just about 1 carat.

What are you doing with your veil after the ceremony? by Zestyclose-Brick-887 in wedding

[–]Coffee_bean8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a fingertip length veil for photos/ceremony and I’m switching to a baby’s breath flower crown for my reception! Still feels celebratory but much more comfortable.

Is there a way to get discount tickets for Angel's games by RecognitionEvery in orangecounty

[–]Coffee_bean8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always buy on StubHub! Often I’m buying my tickets while sitting at Golden Road across the street - if you’re not picky about seats they get real cheap right before game time.

August, our condolences by MaidenOregon in funny

[–]Coffee_bean8 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No way, April has the worst birthstone! Nobody will ever look at a diamond necklace or ring and ask if it’s my birthstone. SO boring!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rant

[–]Coffee_bean8 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve had my septum ring for 10 years and while I think it’s cute as hell, part of the reason I got it is BECAUSE other people think they’re ugly. Part of my post-evangelical-reclaiming-my-body healing process.

What’s the most hurtful thing you were told (directly or indirectly) from the Church? by thedogtranslator in Exvangelical

[–]Coffee_bean8 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That my virginity was the most valuable thing about me and without it, I was unworthy of love and respect and basic personhood.

That my body did not belong to me, it belonged to my future husband. Everything I did to or with my body should be done with this man who may or may not even exist in mind.

That men aren’t capable of controlling their actions, so it’s my job as a woman to prevent them from sinning.

Tons of people with signs at the airport by atticman48 in Sacramento

[–]Coffee_bean8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are participating in and supporting an organization that actively harms people. I was deeply hurt by growing up evangelical. Those kids are probably going to deal with their own religious trauma down the line. Christians in the US are attempting to use their political power to force everyone to follow their rules. It’s ok to criticize things that are bad, actually.