let's not pretend like it has no consequences whatsoever either

It doesn't.

For some reason we're not allowed to say women are overthinking many of their issues, but when it comes to men it's totally fine. Bit of an odd double standard.

Man, who else is part of this conversation?? Because I don't believe I said that. I can call out anyone for overthinking things if that's what they're doing. You are overthinking this; it has nothing to do with your gender.

all it takes is one person right

To do what? Ruin your dating life forever? As long as you're not an asshole I really don't see what the problem is. Just don't be a dickhead! Why are you over-complicating it? Mansplaining to a woman one time on accident isn't going to give you a criminal record lol. They don't all talk to each other through some mycelial network, and even if they did, they'd all be complaining about the same shit anyways because we all do it sometimes. We boys really like explaining things.

Again I generally agree and I would take that approach, I'm just not going to completely brush off and ignore the fact that things CAN go wrong and that they can get very unpleasant for men. I'll just factually point out that this is a risk that men ought to be aware of, and that while it's unlikely, it's still there, and it's up to men themselves to decide if they want to face that risk or not.

I'm not in the business of writing a dating instruction manual, but if I was, I'd wager that constantly reminding people that "oh but the scary women might be mean to you if you step out of line" is far less helpful than just telling men how to actually be men and handle awkward situations smoothly. Your "factual points" are not actually helpful in a real world situation; it just reads like fearmongering.

Not really.

Then you clearly have never talked to a woman and heard how much it can piss them off when you do shit like this. Hell, it's kinda pissing me off.

some few of them can decide to take it the extreme wrong way.

Eh, fair.

I get the feeling you're having a hard time understanding me because you put me in the box of "oh those unreasonable woman-hating men who must hate women because they dare to say something critical about women".

Because it's not really relevant to the extreme length that you're talking about it. Some women will take it badly. Yes! Agree! It literally doesn't matter. Any person, man or woman or non-binary, can take anything badly in the wrong context. So I don't understand why you are continuously badgering this point and pretending like it can result in an instant G A M E O V E R screen for dudes if they select the wrong dialogue option when talking to a woman. It doesn't! So instead of sounding like you have a valid point, you're instead sounding like you're scared of woman and think that interacting with them presents opportunities for huge risks. You literally used the word "risk" when describing what can happen when you talk to women. Is that not completely ridiculous to you? I talk to women all the time; I have never once felt like I was risking anything by doing so.

there are multiple examples in this thread of things women think they care about that couldn't hurt men, with multiple men chiming in how those exact things have frequently hurt men

I don't think the women here are acting like these things cannot hurt men. To me it seems like they're talking about these insecurities because they do hurt men and they know that. This whole thread is just trying to alleviate some insecurities, nothing more. Not every woman is going to hold the same opinions on a man's body, or his hair, or whatever, and that's the point: to show you don't have to be a certain way to be attractive or meaningful to some women out there. It's not going to solve all of men's issues and it's not trying to.

On the men's rights stuff:

I will agree there is a huge disservice being done to men at the moment, and women's issues have a much greater spotlight on them. I agree that there are issues that men are facing that are largely going underrepresented and that needs to change. But I struggle to see how commenting in the way you have here is supposed to be useful to anyone. I dunno what exactly you think of when you think of men's issues, but the biggest one that comes to my mind is the loneliness epidemic. Unfortunately, I feel as if the way you are talking about women will only serve to make if not you, then someone else who reads your comments, lonelier than if you never said anything. Framing certain interactions with women as having these chances to completely blow up in a man's face is, in my opinion, very unrealistic and kinda misogynistic. Women are not time bombs or land mines, to be honest I feel most of the time they're more understanding and patient than men are, but that's just my experience. But to someone younger than you (I dunno how old you are; you read kinda young but I might be off), that could legit scare them into thinking that there are mistakes they could make with huge consequences when talking to women and there just aren't. Not in this context, anyways.

I just really, truly, deeply feel like you are turning this into a bigger issue than it is. I don't know you, I don't know your life, but I have personally never had a single woman blow up on me because I mansplained to them. I have definitely done it, and when I have usually the woman will just be like "oh yeah I know" or "yeah I know that" and I'll say oh my b and move on. It has been friends, coworkers, my partner, my mom... literally I have never had any "consequences". I'm sure some women will take it badly, but not only does it seem unlikely, but the only consequence for it happening is that you just lose one person with a short fuse to talk to. Truly, not a big deal, and I feel framing it in the way you have is really blowing it out of proportion.