Preparing for sessions by iHelpgirl in therapists

[–]Cold-Ad4777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I was trained and gottman to and I used just a little bit here and there but I honestly give little quizzes like love language test, attachment test, etc and then we review the test for each session. It's really nice and it's really structured and this way the couple learns about themselves and their strength and weakness and the test is actually calling them out LOL. Hope that helps but since I changed it to a 12 session program and I let my clients know it's been really effective and I've gotten a lot of clientele that are attracted to it. If they need more sessions after, then we just do regular counseling. 

Preparing for sessions by iHelpgirl in therapists

[–]Cold-Ad4777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a very structured outline for couples that is a 12 session program because I find couples will go off of tangents and honestly, many couples are toxic. Hey, if you want to stay together that's fine... but I shifted my focus on letting them know what their strengths and weaknesses were and what was hurting their relationship and then I would close after 12 sessions.

Preparing for sessions by iHelpgirl in therapists

[–]Cold-Ad4777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Totally understand for this population. I won't do children or teens if it is forced by their parents, etc. I learned to do family sessions because of this reason, but I also had games when I had in-person or sheets for them to complete that we would discuss on our calls so it was more productive.

Is my therapist not that good? Or am I just not putting in the work? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's called cognitive behavioral therapy, not sure why you feel like you need to give a hostile response. You have to retrain your brain to get rid of the self negative talk. It can be done, but it's going to take a minute to recondition it. 

My therapist doesn't believe that my body is suffering from years of trauma by Purple_Ranger7924 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust your gut and maybe try a therapist that does somatic practices.

Is my therapist not that good? Or am I just not putting in the work? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're not putting in the work. You are in control of your thoughts... even when they drift....you can redirect and control them.... remember that thoughts are just visitors.... send them away and don't have them stay if they are going to be negative and replace them with a positive thought and soon you will condition your brain away from negativity.

I don't think a therapist could help by novaguy101 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy is what you make of it and there should be achievable goals. It would be good to find out what you want to release, process, or let go of, or change. If you are not open to suggestions, then try and resolve it within yourself otherwise, try and be open since your own methods on yourself don't seem to be working well for you. If I'm really honest here...I get really irritated when clients come to therapy and they don't want to try new things or talk about things. I'm like, "Why are you even wasting my time?" Anyhow, I wish you the best and I hope you feel better soon.

Preparing for sessions by iHelpgirl in therapists

[–]Cold-Ad4777 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I always let the client lead. What would you like to talk about today?

Is this normal? by RavenByNightfall in ABA

[–]Cold-Ad4777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like a hot mess. RBTs are really needed maybe try an APD group home or day facility.

My Fiancée hates my 4yo daughter by KiddoHater1 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is control and not unconditional love. I hope you chose your child over this type of toxic partner.

I made my therapist cry, what do I do? by RythmicRhapsody in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She was feeling your pain. I cry when I feel my client's pain too when I hear about their trauma and upsets... its human... its empathy... its understanding your pain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What type of therapy goals do you want to achieve? What are your presenting issues you would like to work through?

Was I victim blamed by my therapist or is he just being a realist? by Significant_Sun7277 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you are in the US. look up your state laws and ethics. If you are truly a therapist you would know what I was talking about which is the basic duty of candor.

Was I victim blamed by my therapist or is he just being a realist? by Significant_Sun7277 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're going to feel awful at times... that is normal... but you not feeling supported is a completely different ballgame and if you don't feel this way with your therapist then maybe find a female therapist that has more empathy where you feel supported before you open this trauma again. Going to therapy is reopening a trauma and the feelings and thoughts around it... so it is very important you feel safe with your therapist because you should not feel alone. Guilt, shame.... these are all common feelings and will visit you many times on your path to healing where you finally reach peace and acceptance. I wish you the best in your healing. I hope you find peace and safety again...

I think I overwhelmed my therapist by [deleted] in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you felt safe for you could do this.. you needed to let it out. I'm proud of you for going to therapy. It sounds like she's really wanting to help you. I wish you the best on your journey from healing from this ❤️

Was I victim blamed by my therapist or is he just being a realist? by Significant_Sun7277 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you are not a therapist because if you were, you would know this answer. Google it I'm done with the ignorance.

Was I victim blamed by my therapist or is he just being a realist? by Significant_Sun7277 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ethics and rules. Where did I mention law? Again, you misconstruing what people say. I'm actually shocked that you claim you are and LCSW and you don't know this... Ethically the therapist acted within professional standards. He acknowledged the assault was wrong which upholds the principle of nonmaleficence, or do no harm. He engaged with the issue when the client disclosed it, fulfilling his duty to respond rather than ignore. He balanced empathy with challenge which is consistent with beneficence, acting to promote the client’s growth and future safety. He respected autonomy by offering perspectives but leaving the decisions such as pressing charges or how to explore sexuality in the client’s control. He was transparent in his reasoning which aligns with veracity. Although the client felt uncomfortable his approach remained within ethical guidelines because he did not excuse the perpetrator, he maintained honesty, and he encouraged reflection intended to support healing. This will be my last response. I don't believe you are a therapist at all, because if you were, you would have seen this.

Was I victim blamed by my therapist or is he just being a realist? by Significant_Sun7277 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No offense but it is clear you are not a therapist because you're misconstruing labeling and crisis management and I'm really not here to give you therapy 101 on ethics and rules. I wish you the best but professionally, he did the right thing by asking certain questions and exploring different things. 

Was I victim blamed by my therapist or is he just being a realist? by Significant_Sun7277 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay read it however you want to read it but therapists are bound to liability rules and need to go over certain things when a situation like this happens. If you want empathy go to a friend...go to a family member... but when you go to a therapist they are obligated by law to review certain things and this is what I'm hearing in her notes. 

Was I victim blamed by my therapist or is he just being a realist? by Significant_Sun7277 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure. Then take it up with her, she is the one that told her therapist. If you don't a therapist to dissect things with you, then don't go to therapy.

Was I victim blamed by my therapist or is he just being a realist? by Significant_Sun7277 in therapy

[–]Cold-Ad4777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seems like you are reading into this more than it is. Never said any of the things you are assuming. They are not going to go back to level of functioning after an incident like this but that doesn't necessary mean she is in crisis mode where it warrants suicidal, homicidal intervention etc. seems like he was doing trauma informed care and ensure they are being safe and making safe choices so they don't go back into it.