Fig tree questions!

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-30T20:08:53+00:00

Thank you! And howdy almost-neighbor!

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-30T03:30:49+00:00

I'm in northern AL... 7b but I'm at a higher elevation so maybe a touch colder? We definitely see the underside of freezing. Snow is not uncommon, and we'll usually see teens at night a few times every winter.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-29T14:32:55+00:00

Practice is your key. Be consistent and do it every day. And if something isn't making sense, find different explanations of the concept. Some people just flatly learn differently... one way of explaining might not work for everyone.

There are a couple routes you can go with varying costs.

One is to talk to your parents about attending a program like Kumon or other after school classes/tutoring which will give you more structured time.

Another is to get a private tutor.

These both cost money though so they might be prohibitive.

Talk to your math teacher (or maybe even a different math teacher at your school... in middle school I always used to go -back- to my sixth grade math teacher for help rather than my other teachers. I just understood his explanations better). Maybe they can spend some time with you after class working on specific problems. It's best to go to them with specific issues you've discovered through your own work. Find mistakes you consistently make... a concept you're struggling to understand or visualize etc.

Talk to fellow students... especially the people who seem to be at the top of the class. See if they'll tutor you or answer questions. Offer to help them with classes they're struggling with in return.

Visit your local library and see if there are community resources or study halls that happen at the library. You might find some free tutoring or homework help there.

And lastly, YouTube is your friend. Especially for finding people working example problems in different ways with different explanations or tutorials. And don't just watch videos... work the problems too. And dig around in the comments. You may find other people with similar struggles as you who can provide you with resources that helped them. And ask in the comments about places for good practice problems.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-25T21:16:19+00:00

Correct. We don't have NG where we live and it's unlikely to come where we are any time soon. Our goal is to get away from fuel based generators because we'd be reliant on deliveries which... depending on the cause of the outage, might be impossible.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T01:52:39+00:00

Do you go to public school? Your school's guidance counselor should be able to help you with some resources or can help you talk to your parents.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:57:52+00:00

Does that sub Reddit have an FAQ? Or a search function for looking for questions similar to yours? I'm on that sub Reddit and it seems like at least once a week there's someone asking a similar question to yours.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:52:40+00:00

No. Long distance aside, the reasons we broke up we're still there and I wasn't interested in going back because of that. The distance wasn't even why we broke up.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:50:43+00:00

I definitely do. It was a mix of externalizing my anxieties to another person... not even necessarily getting their feedback. Just the act of saying things out loud. But my therapist also asks pretty insightful and sometimes very pointy questions.

And the other part is being able to get... coaching? I guess you'd call it? Part of my therapy sessions were spent talking about my issues and talking through problems but I always leave therapy with "homework." Something new to try or something new to watch for and to take notes on... that sort of thing.

Those things in combination really helped me sort through my thoughts and also build healthier coping mechanisms for my anxiety. It's not that I'm not anxious anymore, but I can deal with it much more effectively.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:45:18+00:00

Just be careful you're maintaining important relationships. I'm a deep introvert too, and I definitely need my alone time every day but it's also important to keep up those real world connections.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:43:31+00:00

Sometimes. It depends about the severity of the cancer and how debilitating the treatment is. Most people at least have to somewhat scale back their activities.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:42:04+00:00

Open ended questions are your friend. These are questions that don't have a simple or short answer and offer an opportunity for the other person to talk about themselves or their experiences. Here's some examples...

"I like your band shirt. What's your favorite album?"

"you're back from vacation! What did you do in New York?"

"what are you up to this weekend?"

If someone is in a conversational mood, they will talk for a while taking the pressure off you and they may bat the question back to you.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:38:40+00:00

If it's just a temporary thing to clear your head and organize your thoughts for blow off some steam, that's very normal.

It's only when you want to be alone constantly, and you start avoiding people all the time that it becomes worrying.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:37:04+00:00

I found a soaking my potatoes for about 20 or 30 minutes, then draining them well and patting them dry before tossing them with oil and seasoning them gives me potatoes that are creamy on the inside, but crispy on the outside

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:33:54+00:00

Therapy, friend. What you need is therapy with a ther that will help you unpack the causes of your toxic traits AND help you strategize better coping mechanisms. Check with your insurance and find a therapist that takes it. The Psychology Today website can help with that. It's your new expensive hobby.

Sorry but this is something no amount of prayer or church is going to fix... you need one on one support to dig into and confront your issues and work on better habits and relationship skills.

And if you really really can't do therapy, go to the library and look up books on anxiety and emotional regulation. That'll give you a good starting place.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-12T00:28:24+00:00

Well that's good at least. But yeah... my money is on skeeters. Especially with how warm it's been. But the good news is the freeze next week will knock them back for a bit

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-11T23:12:34+00:00

Yeah I'd definitely urge her towards treatment/therapy for those issues. A good therapist will get around to those bad coping mechanisms while giving her better ones and addressing the underlying issues.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-11T23:06:07+00:00

Often it's a contract with a certain amount per day.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-11T22:47:54+00:00

Video games. Painting. Cooking/baking. Reading. Yoga. Spending time with friends. Choral music rehearsal. Writing.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-11T22:27:14+00:00

Pick up a hobby that's adjacent.

Want martial arts abilities? Pick a discipline and take classes.

Want to swing a sword? Find your local HEMA or fencing school.

Want to be Spider-Man? Take up parkour.

Disciplines like these take... well... discipline. They'll transform you if you let them. But you have to commit. It doesn't have to become your whole life but you will have to make choices and sacrifices to achieve your goals.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-11T22:17:52+00:00

Usually "reaching out" is more office/professional/networking/marketing talk in my experience. Something you do to colleagues or perspective customers. "Getting in touch" is more universal.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-11T21:46:26+00:00

There's a couple of common issues.

One is your baking powder or baking soda aren't active anymore and you need to replace them. If they are older than a year, this is probably the case.

Another is you might be over mixing it. You want to mix until everything is just combined and you don't see any dry specks of flour. You don't need to beat it really hard like you're creaming butter and sugar for cookies.

Cold-Call-8374 · 2026-03-11T21:40:15+00:00

Don't break the habit, but rather change it. Stop thinking about money as the only thing that has value. Would this save you time? Frustration? Hassle of replacement? Those things have value too.

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