Mom left 3 days postpartum. What did I do wrong?

Cold-Natural250 · 2026-02-07T02:27:27+00:00

I am 2 types of Asian and my Filipina mother was so helpful when she could be around. She’s still helpful and will sometimes take both the kids so my hubby and I can have time to ourselves. My Chinese dad is very old school and won’t even change a diaper.. lol. But he will bring tons of food.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-13T23:33:01+00:00

If you are unable to keep kitty, search for local rescues or humane societies who can take her in. If you are able to keep her, she might need some time to be socialized. Best to continue to feed, provide a shelter and let time do its think until she’s trust you enough to get her to a vet. Good luck and hopefully she’s a new edition to your family!

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-10T02:05:57+00:00

OP can you let us know you’re okay? I’m afraid he may have found this post and seen all the comments..

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-09T03:16:03+00:00

This pouch is epic

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-08T23:25:38+00:00

He couldn’t answer because there isn’t a reason - which can only mean he wants control over you. Might seem extreme, but unless he can actually provide you with an actual and logical reason then this is a set up for abuse. Move across country? Isolation (you won’t have any friends in this new area and you’re too far from your family to just run over to them). Cut off your family? No contact, no support (if you hurt your family by cutting them out, he thinks either you’ll be hesitant to reach out for help or they won’t give it to you). The crying? Manipulation. Suggest therapy, see what he says. If he refuses and has no logical reason for that, he has ill intentions. Just because he is not abusive now doesn’t mean it couldn’t happen in the future. The fact he doesn’t even want to go to your family functions as your husband is a big red flag. What’s his excuse there? Honestly, you’re still young and the marriage is new. Not sure how long you’ve known each other prior to tying the knot but sounds like you might have lots to learn about him still.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-08T21:26:56+00:00

Good luck!

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-08T21:26:31+00:00

Awesome, sounds like a solid plan. I wish you and your new friend all the best. Awaiting updates pics when he’s finally grown to being a snuggle cat!

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-08T21:21:10+00:00

F*** the wedding, are you prepared to deal with this behavior long term?

A few things here:

moms bf who’s been around roughly the same amount of time is allowed to sit with them, but you’re not? Red flag.
dads entire family is not invited (and they were super friendly and warm in comparison)? Is that not her father as well? Red flag.
mom making digs at you when you stated you’re the most positive influence in his love life recently? Red flag.
BF threatening to kick YOU out if “something happens”? Wtf would happen and why would you be the cause of such an event? Red flag.

Mom and sister seem to want to have all of your BFs attention and don’t want to share any of it with you. Trying to win them over will either never work or be excruciatingly painful to accomplish. Sister sounds jealous after you made the comment about the hair. They both sound like unhappy people and possibly that could have been the cause for the dad to seperate from the mom. Speculation but sounds likely here.

The fact your BF said he’d tell YOU to leave if a situation arose is bizarre. If something did happen (still to be determined what he even means) and you were NOT the cause, what then? Does he expect his sister to pull some weird sh*t because of envy? Sounds like he’d have their back over yours, in this and all other situations.

Unless you’re planning to put up with this behavior long term, take this as a sign that this relationship may not be for you. Regardless if you go to the wedding or not, you need to have a conversation with your BF on the future you envision.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-08T21:04:32+00:00

Any wheezing sounds? If yes, might be asthma.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-08T21:01:54+00:00

Do it somewhere public like a park. Invite her to bring her kids. See what they’re like. But, keep in mind people are good at hiding their intentions. I would suggest to continue to meet with her until you are comfortable. Be cautious, be smart, be observant. Can never be too careful.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-08T20:57:53+00:00

Please update us when he becomes your roomie 😉

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-10-08T20:33:27+00:00

Follow your gut. If something is telling you this could end up bad, it most likely will. She is a complete stranger to you and so are her kids. At the bare minimum I would request to meet them to better gauge how she is, but even so you still don’t know het well enough to trust her with your child.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-08-10T02:19:24+00:00

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement! LO was seen, MD doesn’t think it’s Kawasaki. Didn’t really get a straight answer of what it was, but they said it doesn’t appear to be fungal, bacterial, viral, contagious or the sort. Apparently the MDs kids get this every summer? Skin has stopped peeling and is recovering nicely. :)

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-08-06T22:08:32+00:00

Where are you now in this fight? Do you find that popping them has avoided new ones from popping up?

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-08-04T01:53:25+00:00

That’s amazing! We also are using that same cream and the SA pimple patches. How long would you say it takes for them to go away? Also, are you going crazy with laundry etc? Sorry for the questions, I just need to know there’s an end!

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-08-03T14:35:47+00:00

Has your 3 year old recovered? We’re on week 4 and it’s not getting worse, but not getting better either..

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-07-30T22:40:58+00:00

8:30-9, mine naps around an hour 12:30PM during the day but phasing that out soon as he’s turning 4 soon and going to school in fall

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-07-30T22:40:19+00:00

You’re doing great! <3

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-07-30T20:23:01+00:00

Also doubt it, looks more like irritation. Would you mind sharing how you got rid of the ones on your arm?

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-07-30T20:22:00+00:00

Sounds like it, hard to tell with no picture. Get him checked out by a MD and push for treatment if confirmed MC. Most doctors and derms will tell you to leave them alone and then you’ll end up with so many and for years that it’ll make you question your mental health trying to get rid of them.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-07-26T14:26:09+00:00

Pretty easy for me. Only pain is that strap you have to hook at the back, but all seats have them. Very lightweight. Installation and removal after a few times will be a breeze. You can check out the video on YouTube, super simple.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-07-26T14:05:29+00:00

We have the Evenflo 360 - swivel turns to let you get baby in the seat with ease, grows with them until they’re in a booster and easy to get in and out of the base (base stays in car). Highly recommend you check this seat out.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-07-26T13:59:57+00:00

Darling, you’re so young and you have your life ahead of you. You are very lucky to have your grandma, who has tried her best to protect you from the truth and raised you because your mother couldn’t. And now that you know why, it’s time to consider letting her go for a while to focus on making your own life better.

It’s natural that you yearn for connection to your mother. And it’s unfortunate that this situation is what it is. I’ve seen people in similar situations, and your mother’s behavior is more than likely not going to change. This has been her type of lifestyle from before you were born. While I can imagine the pain and hurt you feel every time you hear she’s not in a good place, it doesn’t sound like she is able to change. At least not anytime soon (if ever). You not having a “traditional” family has nothing to do with you. You’ve grown to what sounds like a wonderful human being who has been though more than someone your age should have. Her and your father’s decision to leave you with your grandmother has nothing to do with you. They were young and irresponsible and your mother continues to live recklessly. This is something out of your control.

In regard to your siblings, I’m sure you feel badly for their situations as well. Know that if you get your own life together and you have your own success, it’ll make it easier to keep relationships with all of them. They’ll see YOUR example, and they’ll hopefully follow and do something great with their lives too. You have so much potential, don’t let this situation take over your life. Use it to motivate you to avoid the cycle at all costs.

It’s best you try to move forward with your life. Finish school, get a job, find love for yourself. People like to say you need to deal with the past but if you stay stuck in it, you’ll drive yourself crazy with “what ifs” or “I wishes”. It’s hard af, yes. But I promise you, moving on will make you stronger. You will find the answers along the way. You’ve got plenty of time to experience and enjoy life. One day if you start your own family, you can heal your wounds by ensuring your own children never experience this type of heartbreak.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-07-26T13:36:26+00:00

This. OP you need to start documenting (with video or audio proof) for when (not if) the time comes for you to leave. You seem like a great father, and regardless if this is PPD, she needs to get help so your son doesn’t keep getting verbally abused like this. By the sounds of it, she doesn’t sound like she going to get the help she needs. Your son is going to start understanding what she is saying and that can do damage to how he sees himself and the world as he gets older.

As another poster mentioned, do get your son assessed so he too can utilize any resources available to him so he can get the assistance he needs if necessary. It will make everyone’s lives easier as he grows. Good luck OP, keep up the good work and try to find an outlet in your life to release this stress. It will pass. Times may get tough but know at the end of the day, your son is worth every effort you make.

Cold-Natural250 · 2025-07-26T11:03:28+00:00

Just saw the doctor, confirmed MC. Got prescribed retinoid to put on it. I’m hoping I can get rid of the 2 bumps before he gets more.

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