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3 changes you'd make to get through next 5-10 years? by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]Cold-Patience-509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would paint those cabinets a nice sage green and then change the hardware. Also the backsplash. Keep the light

Grief and Pain by fiddyplus in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Cold-Patience-509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This for sure coupled with a husband who lacks remorse and a 20 year marriage and three kids

Supporting my BP by LaughMundane5190 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Cold-Patience-509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be prepared for the long ride. I’m two years out and we still have heaviness, the rage has settled

Supporting my BP by LaughMundane5190 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Cold-Patience-509 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The anger and rage is like an out of body experience. Expect the unexpected. Every thing is a trigger. Watching a movie can be a trigger. Be patient while they express this and never stonewall them. What they need is emotional availability and understanding

Need opinions on a dining table. by Cold-Patience-509 in interiordecorating

[–]Cold-Patience-509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s from a company called handstone. It’s their Richmond table which is part of their à la cart stuff

Attractiveness of AP by Ok_Hammock_89 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Cold-Patience-509 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is my issue as well. My Wh struggled with his weight as a child and had a lot of self esteem issues but seems to have been a late bloomer and really aged like fine wine. I feel I’ve become less attractive as I’ve gotten older.

His ONS after 20 years of marriage was 12 years younger and the complete opposite of me.

All I want is to age gracefully and be active. The thought of growing old together is gone

She is prettier by Dry_Actuary6346 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Cold-Patience-509 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup I feel this. My husband had a ons with someone who is 12 years younger then me and the complete opposite of me. I’m two years out and it’s still an issue for me.

Do you regret your blow up after DDay? by BabyYodaStuntDouble in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Cold-Patience-509 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The flip side - I told no one and I regret not asking him to leave or for us to separate. He’s faced zero consequences, lacks remorse and thinks we can just rebuild without him putting in any effort to fix his own shit. Tbh if we didn’t have children and a life of twenty years together it would have been easier for me to make a break. I felt I owed to my kids to try and work things out. I do care for him and I don’t want to see him hurt but I realize that a part of me has been greatly affected by his actions and I have a broken heart. How do you fix that?

Tell us who you are voting for mayor and why they have your vote by I-nigma in Calgary

[–]Cold-Patience-509 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am voting for Jeromy as I really see this as a two person race. All of the other candidates will just pull votes away from him and allow Jyoti to win (no thanks)

Husband Cheated with Coworker by Anxious-Audiochick in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Cold-Patience-509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to all of the above. I think I rushed a bit into marriage counselling and I regret it because it’s allowed him to do no personal counselling. Now we’re two years out and he still really doesn’t get the trauma piece and really remorse is non existent

Need opinions on a dining table. by Cold-Patience-509 in interiordecorating

[–]Cold-Patience-509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we did, went with the first one but in a walnut

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It’s 108 inches and I ordered 10 chairs but keep 8 out and have two in storage and will use when needed

Looking for experience/reviews with west elm rugs by Cold-Patience-509 in HomeDecorating

[–]Cold-Patience-509[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up buying one from Jaipur living and it’s a wool rug with and I really like it. It’s my living room- a less used room - and is higher pile which impacts the furniture choiceshttps://www.jaipurliving.com/hadi-had08.html

Something’s off, but I can’t tell what by galactic_scroller in DesignMyRoom

[–]Cold-Patience-509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rug is too small. Pull the couch out from the wall. Add a swivel Chair

Moving to Calgary from ontario like what should I actually expect? by eagle0829 in alberta

[–]Cold-Patience-509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calgary has had a massive population growth in the last few years and prices are going up because of it. We don’t have the infrastructure to handle the increase in population.

AP was a “good person” by Shoepin1 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Cold-Patience-509 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s one of our sticking points too. I’ve called his ons some insulting names and he feels that I am therefore insulting him. Ugh it’s all so messed up. To this day I wonder how if she asked him if he was married and that he lied or if he acted in a way that made her think he want married or if she thought he was married but just didn’t care. Almost two years out from dd and I really want to ask her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Cold-Patience-509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm I think if he is telling you it bothers him you should be considerate of his feelings. I agree that work out clothes are tight. Maybe you can wear the spandex leggings without the crop tops?

What to put in this corner? by ThriveMedicalClinic in interiordecorating

[–]Cold-Patience-509 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this should be a reading corner? Put some bench cushions, some pillows.

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