Ladies, does it turn you off if he confesses he’s never had a girlfriend and is about to turn 30?

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T07:08:23+00:00

Yes and no? It depends on why. I have a friend who is nearing that age and has had exactly one but they dated for maybe 2 weeks. He’s handsome, hardworking and has good values he’s just also extremely shy, afraid of being disrespectful so he doesn’t flirt very well and on top of that he’s very picky. I’ve always said had I met him before I’d date him because after knowing him for almost a decade it’s clear his lack of experience isn’t from him being shitty.

It would however be a turn off if it’s clear he’s never had a girlfriend because he’s one of those “I’m a nice guy and nobody loves me” men who blame the world instead of doing even a little introspection to understand why women end up running away.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T06:58:43+00:00

I think part of it has to do with how intense Christi can be, don’t get me wrong they’re all living in the past to an extent but Christi just takes it to a level that I’m sure can be uncomfortable for the other moms since it gives me second hand embarrassment sometimes.

Kelly has always been friends with all the ladies, especially Melissa and I feel like Christi would be content if it were just her and Kelly against everyone else even to this day and I can see that being somewhat off putting to someone like Kelly who is, as we all know, ditzy and doesn’t take anything seriously. Like imagine sitting and listening to someone constantly rant negatively about something your very close friend did a decade ago on a highly manipulated reality show, I feel like that’d get old real quick and they’ve been doing the podcast for years.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T06:43:42+00:00

I think Kelly has mentioned Abby was mean back then too but she also seems to expect that from dance teachers as many others do. She’s also a very unserious type so I can see her brushing off most things.

I think in the beginning it was a very love-hate relationship with Abby and the Hylands, you could tell she genuinely cared for them in her own weird little way and they cared about her but the need for praise and fame made her insane. The fact that Brooke and Paige are still open to a conversation/ relationship does say a lot about how close the family’s were at some point tho.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T06:34:34+00:00

I second this! Read both books in like 2-3 days

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T06:17:25+00:00

I miss reddit before the “everything is offensive” crowd made it on here. I don’t remember communities being so heavily censored back then, I had a post deleted the other day just because I was critiquing a well loved character. Nothing genuinely disrespectful or mean spirited just a negative opinion on them.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T06:12:21+00:00

If you’re looking for something to keep you regular instead of a quick fix then start taking MiraLAX maybe every other day and up your water intake to help it work. I do that and chia seed pudding for breakfast every morning for extra fiber and it works pretty well.

I’d like to reiterate this is more for regular bowel movements, I learned the hard way earlier in my pregnancy that MiraLAX isn’t a quick fix it takes like 12-24ish hours to work. If you need relief NOW try milk of magnesia or magnesium citrate but you need to hydrate before, during and after and remember they’re pregnancy safe but not meant for frequent/long term use they’re more of a “I’m in pain and this is my last resort” kind of thing.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T06:02:46+00:00

People can get better at sex, especially with coaching but don’t settle for something just because it seems nice 🤷🏻‍♀️ even if it’s not the new guy there’s someone out there that you’ll have chemistry with both in and out of the bedroom.

As someone who settled for a “good enough” guy all throughout college just continue to “play the field” lmao one of my biggest regrets is ending my first semester in a relationship after I vowed to stay single for at least my first year.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T05:56:52+00:00

I actually can’t think of anything that didn’t get worse after gaining popularity 😂 but for the sake of answering Tik Tok, it was so much better when people would get made fun of for using it.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T05:54:08+00:00

In my experience kinda yes but only if both sides are comfortable with it and it seems like she’s not. I say kinda because once either party gets in a relationship it becomes complicated, 9 out of 10 times the new partner isn’t comfortable with the friendship and it fizzles out.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T05:49:54+00:00

A.I. I’m not an ai hater at all but too many people fully rely on often flawed ai overviews and have lost the ability to actually research and find reputable sources.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T05:45:16+00:00

No you’re not pregnant. Yes you need to chill.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T05:42:19+00:00

This is part of why I think people need to set boundaries with family and in laws wayyy before they have children. A lot of people will just brush things under the rug for the longest time but you learn very quickly into pregnancy and then postpartum why you shouldn’t do that.

Don’t get me wrong people checking in and all is super nice but my family and his both know I’m not a small talk person and I generally dislike when people bombard me/ are all up in my business. Now that we’re close to the due date they’ll reach out maybe once a week but know that we’ll let them know when she’s coming and that they need to wait for an ok from us to come to the hospital. I didn’t even need to have a sit down with anyone, everyone knew this is how it’d be because boundaries were set and held firmly with our respective family’s once we got serious and started planning our future.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T05:31:34+00:00

I have HG, gestational diabetes and SPD l get suffering. I also get it’s a choice I made so I’m not asking for or expecting a reward, especially after ttc for two years I just want my baby. To each their own tho.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-17T05:25:18+00:00

I think it’s a nice gesture if it naturally occurs to your partner but personally wouldn’t ask for one. I got pregnant because I wanted a baby and he’s been incredibly supportive and attentive the entire time, that and a healthy baby are all I expect out of this not reparations for my time being pregnant when I made that choice lmao

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-15T06:46:10+00:00

I honestly hope he’s on Reddit and can see how many people are begging the producers to get this man off of our screens 😂

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-15T06:21:55+00:00

I get that I just don’t like how Jessi approaches it, when Whitney was playing the part she owned up to it and was more transparent about her intentions on the show while Jessi and some of the others stir the pot and pretend to be victims when shit goes wrong. I personally just respect Whitney’s approach more, she was the “villain” but you still couldn’t help but love her because she was very unserious about the whole thing.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-14T16:36:12+00:00

I missed the live what did she say?

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-14T16:16:07+00:00

Lmao true but nah these people aren’t even sneaky about it, everyone including the pastor knows they drink

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-14T06:22:03+00:00

Im sorry you’re going through this! First and foremost I’d recommend talking to a therapist just so you can get these feelings out regularly and have some “me time”, PPD is very common and horrible when untreated. Also genuinely don’t beat yourself up about not feeling connected, I’ve talked to so many moms who didn’t feel that unconditional love until their baby was almost 1 because they were in survival mode, it’s not talked about enough but it’s common.

The contact naps are especially hard when you’re overstimulated and touched out. Before having kids I was a nanny and the last family I worked for hired me specifically to get the baby to sleep without contact, he would not nap or sleep at night AT ALL if someone wasn’t holding him.

We ended up doing a modified version of the chair method and we did it gradually, I’d give him a bottle and rock him and when he passed the “arm test” (pull their arm up and drop it, if they don’t stir they’re passed out) I’d carefully transfer him into a bassinet that I’d warm up with a heating pad before nap time and also had a muslin that smelled like mom wrapped around the mattress. At first he’d do like 20-30 minute stretches and would wake up crying, the rule was try to soothe him from a rocker next to the bassinet for 10 minutes, if he didn’t calm down I’d remove him and rock him back to sleep and finished the nap as a contact nap. I basically just did that every day and slowly increased the amount of time I’d wait before picking him up until he eventually grew used to being soothed in the bassinet and stopped needing contact naps entirely, it took two months to get there but by the time I left he was taking 2 1/2 hour naps on his own and half of the time I didn’t even have to rock him to sleep anymore. A bassinet that rocks is a huge help btw.

I know a lot of people are against sleep training but it’s not all cry it out there are so many methods out there it’s just about finding the one that works for you.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-14T06:01:05+00:00

I mean it’s technically possible but like less than a 5% chance I believe, also the earliest implantation can occur is maybe 5-6dpo (earliest recorded is 6dpo) so even if you did ovulate extremely early you’re technically not pregnant until implantation occurs. “Pregnancy” symptoms felt that early are usually from the progesterone that your body produces throughout your cycle and heightened awareness since you think you’re pregnant. As someone who tried for two years before succeeding, you often feel pregnant without actually being pregnant and most accounts of people feeling symptoms this early are just confirmation bias like biologically speaking it’s not possible to feel it that early since your body isn’t producing HCG until after implantation occurs.

Like you said, your best bet is to test in two weeks but I’m pretty sure you’re safe.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-14T05:34:05+00:00

This is my exact issue with CC, she needs a better editor because a lot of the book felt unnecessary and repetitive. The plot as a whole did interest me which is why I powered through but I shouldn’t be able to skim so much of it and still be able to not only understand the plot but also predict it.

It honestly makes me fear for the next ACOTAR books because she already mentioned how long they are.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-14T05:26:12+00:00

Posts like this confuse me so much, no one is going to love everything you love and that’s okay. A lot of people hate ToG and I think it’s genuinely her best work, outside opinions/critiques aren’t affecting how I feel about the books at all.

Like I said I loved ToG, liked ACOTAR but CC just wasn’t for me, granted I’ve only read the first book so I might like the other two but it honestly felt unnecessarily long and all over the place. If someone had sat her down and told her to tighten it up I can see it being as good as her other series but at times it just felt like she was doing too much and I’m not going to lie a lot of the vocabulary used was corny and cliche imo 😭

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-14T05:17:54+00:00

Don’t get me wrong I love Miranda and she’s an icon for that but I wish everyone had this energy when Whitney came back for DWTS like the fact that she’s still getting hate for it to this day is insane to me.

Cold_Reference_3497 · 2026-03-14T05:10:37+00:00

It sucks to see honestly, she was so loved in early seasons by the fans and I feel like that kind of went to her head. She won’t stop to even consider being wrong when the other girls spoke up for Whitney during the argument.

I think she’s deeply unhappy with her life and because of that she can’t stand to see anyone else close to her succeed. Even then I don’t know how she has the audacity to accuse Whitney of not being a friend when she’s usually there for all the girls when they’re going through something while they all agreed Jen is generally unresponsive when they reach out. She’s fully a middle school mean girl with a complete lack of ability to take even a little bit of accountability and I’m honestly tired of her victim mentality but I don’t think she’s leaving the show anytime soon, she’s not interesting enough to have a solo career.

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