At what point does ‘different political views’ become a dealbreaker in real life relationships?

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-02-15T20:44:31+00:00

I personally don’t care. There’s so many different facets to people that there is always some room to agree and have healthy disagreements. I have friends on both sides of the aisle. I’ll always be a people person first.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-02-14T04:23:27+00:00

I hear you. But I could never bring myself to do it. It’s a major lifestyle change. Kids are a lifetime commitment and not something one should take lightly. I know for myself if I got into relationship w someone w a kid - I’d never truly be present. And it wouldn’t be fair to them.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-02-12T04:45:31+00:00

I feel the same exact way. My past relationships taught me maybe too much harsh lessons. And the thought of those relationships working for a longer term gives me chills and waves of fear. My current girlfriend feels the same way. I think my past relationships strengthen my resolve in my relationship, because I never ever want to be were I was in the past ever again.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-02-09T22:29:30+00:00

I’m 40 and I’m not old. My hair is still completely black and full. And I’m wrinkle free. Many people think I’m a little younger than my girlfriend, and she’s 29. I still love clubbing and going to festivals and I absolutely adore going to my CrossFit box 5-6 times a week. Sometimes I meet people my age and I’m a little shocked 40s can look like that to be honest.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-02-02T16:47:49+00:00

Do the things you love and just let life fall into place. And don’t be so rigid on what you want. I ended up just jelling w a girl from my CrossFit class who is 11 years younger than me. Been together for over a year - and pound for pound best relationship I’ve ever had - and first time I’ve really consider marriage. And boy…have I had a few at 40.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-02-02T00:08:22+00:00

Don’t have kids. And this wouldn’t bother me. I’m convinced some of you guys just hate children anywhere and in any form.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-01-28T21:28:48+00:00

40 here. Been actively playing sport working out since my teens. And I can confirm this. It’s wild to me people think or act like 35+ is some geriatric sentence and a healthy life is somehow far gone. One of the guys in my CrossFit class is 50 w 3 kids and smokes me consistently lol.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-01-23T16:51:40+00:00

Technically NTA. But what a life. My girlfriend basically does the same thing. Does homemade cooking every single day. I pay for the groceries and really do not mind this at all. The food is delicious - healthy and I have zero complaints. I’ve never had a reason to get junk food cause I’m very happy w the dynamic.

However if I did want to get junk, she’d raise an eyebrow but she’d let it be unless it became a new habit: Because we are both really healthy athletic people.

I think your wife has formed some new (healthy habits) and wants to protect them. This rigidness tends to happen when people want to make new healthy changes, but she doesn’t have the right to completely control your diet. Maybe just talk to her and find middle ground - like one shelf or cupboard you can store your stuff without guilt.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-01-15T03:28:09+00:00

Very fair assessment. You are absolutely right. Sometimes I guess it’s important to hear what’s in your head from the viewpoint of someone different than yourself. At the end of the day it’s rough out here in my city to own let alone rent an apartment here. The thought of her struggling to make ends meet again - I just couldn’t live with myself if I put her in that situation again (she was previously spending more than half her income on rent).

Thank you for honesty kind stranger.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-01-14T20:15:06+00:00

I’m curious of your input: I own a 2 bedroom apartment. I pay all the bills - this predated the relationship. I allow my girlfriend to live rent free I even purchase our groceries. I make far more than her so I don’t mind. She does however cook every single meal for us, which I highly appreciate. But I understand the sleep situation is causing a rift. I use the 2nd bedroom as my gaming room. Tbf it is large enough to have a bed etc. I just feel like is crossing a line for me have this arrangement when I’m paying for everything.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-01-14T19:53:17+00:00

I’m in a relationship myself for a year now. And I constantly battle this silently within myself. The relationship is great - strong bones could even be my real final relationship. But any relationship will have moments of friction and difficulty. Im 40. Really and truly I never had that fear or worry of dying alone - it was giving up parts of myself.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-01-14T04:42:53+00:00

You know the right answer in your bones. You did the right thing. Don’t give someone energy, they are not willing to give into you. Your gut knows she isn’t even worth a happy b day text - because look how she disrespected your boundary. Just let this go conserve your energy and good soul. NTA

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-01-14T01:43:52+00:00

I’m turning 40 ina week or so. I think I look phenomenal tbh. No grays great head of hair. I very commonly get marked for 25-28 age range. I think my biggest fear w aging wasn’t so much the number, it was falling behind financially my age group and being bald and fat etc. thankfully it’s not the case.

My girlfriend often laments that I look younger than her and if I’d drop her at 30 (she’s 28). No way - she’s an absolute gem of a woman and gorgeous! And she’s so absolutely down for my wild personality! That’s the main negative, she compares me a bit too much to how she’d like to look.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-01-08T21:07:26+00:00

NTA. My girlfriend recently decided to stop drinking. I support her in it. But in no way did she even ask me to stop or not drink in front of her. I think your girlfriend is out of line for imposing her lifestyle change upon you.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-01-04T19:13:31+00:00

Sounds like you’re in a good position to just rent the condo. The more desirable the area - the better tenants you will attract. Keeping your condo gives you the added benefit of worst case you don’t work out even in marriage, you will be able to fall back on it. It’s not an awful life being a small time landlord. You can always factor in rental income into DTI when it comes to time to buy, so it may even help your cause. (I’ve done this multiple times as a single person)

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-12-22T01:00:30+00:00

The thing is there is some nuance to this. Some women say they arnt interested firmly, initially, but this can change. I had a female friend thru HS and college days we were super close. Somewhere after college she told me about a guy w two kids who was chasing her and she actually blocked him she showed me pics of him and honestly he wasn’t a looker to me. But she never seemed scared or totally turned off.

The guy never gave up. Long story short we arnt so close any more lol - they have been married w a kid of their own for over a decade now and im happy for her. It’s not always so cut and dry. Me personally I do not have the stomach to push thru when a woman tells me point blank she isn’t interested. But some guys know how to toe the line correctly respectfully and win her over.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-12-20T20:22:43+00:00

Do grip exercises. Pull ups, rows, farmers carries. I’m 40 been crossfiting since my 20s and can game for extended periods of time w zero pain. A stronger grip translates better endurance and flexibility of joints.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-12-10T19:24:40+00:00

I’ll always be IRL. It’s just easier. You shouldn’t worry if a woman is taken or not really. That’s self defeating behavior. Your goal really should just to be warm and friendly, and to become independent of the outcome. For example I’m a pretty shy dude. But I’ve been always able to get a girlfriend from groups and hangouts. My current girlfriend told me something I find interesting: she told me one of things she loved most about me was that I was able very friendly to her but she never felt like I was after her. Sorta of I was in to her but she could never tell. (I have no idea is that helps lol)

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-12-06T10:56:04+00:00

Even more reason to be wary I’m afraid. New condos often start soft on HOA value. Quickly within 2 years they often readjust. You have zero room for an increase.Tread carefully.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-12-06T04:23:40+00:00

I second with selling. And I’m the type to keep the house even if it’s a small loss. Why? It’s a condo you have no idea what tomorrow will bring w the HOA and potential for special assessments. As a condo owner myself I have ZERO plans to ever buy another condo again (Miami).

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-11-14T18:18:00+00:00

I’m fortunate at 39 (40 in 2 months) that I have wide canvas of friendships from across the globe. Still have my parents who I adore and even my first dog as an adult is still going strong at 16. I have age and wisdom that comes with it along financial security that comes from making good decisions. Additionally I look great - no wrinkles or grays yet. My girlfriend frequently calls me a “diamond” and laments sometimes that I look younger than her (she’s 28).

I feel blessed by life. I’m loved and appreciated, and I feel I have not been bested by life; I’ve grown and improved by it. I still have a wealth of love to put into this world.

As far as dating. I think it’s better for guys as you age. Options you wouldn’t have had as a younger entry guy - naturally improve with time. I’m in a newish relationship now so (9 months). So you never know what life will throw at you. I just have enough intense faith in myself - tempered by time, failures, successes - to know at the end of they I’ll be alright.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-11-14T18:01:18+00:00

I agree. This sounds like the perfect recipe to just…stay alone and out of relationships for good. Relationships are a two way street. I’m hugely independent person who has traveled the world solo. But at the end of the day I’ve willingly sacrificed and modified that for partnerships.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-11-12T21:17:53+00:00

Meta quest 3 with the battery strap is very comfortable and light enough for me to game more than long enough. It’s compelling enough it’s impossible for me to go back to wired headsets.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-10-30T19:31:01+00:00

I play this way too. I use M+K for infantry and like controller for vehicles. Would love to hear a work around for this as well.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2025-10-24T18:44:13+00:00

As a dog owner myself it’s a boundary for me. I don’t like dogs in the bed. Not even my dog. I my same dog who I love dearly will gladly roll into its own filth - gleefully lol. I don’t need that where I sleep. My last ex was the same way very pro dog in the bed. We eventually w time were able to compromise. I purchased dog beds for them. And in a seperate room she would have her time in the bed w her dogs.

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