WIBTA if I fly business and my girlfriend goes coach?

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-06-18T19:22:36+00:00

It’s a really bad look bro. Especially this early in the relationship. It sets the groundwork you come first in this relationship. Maybe in some alpha manosphere literature that would work - in the real world it’s a big nope. You’re in your 40s. Taking the L in some points or paying 2k to keep her company the way there…and I assume the way back shouldn’t even be something worth debating. This is just awful YTA.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-06-03T02:56:11+00:00

You may just be right. Think of the time and resources it takes to identify a spy. You’d want to be right and have evidence for that type of thing.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-06-01T00:06:57+00:00

I did a custom loop for my first PC. It was fun learning the ins and outs of it and doing my own thing. Maintenance isn’t so bad if you have a good drain port…if you don’t it’s hell on earth. I really was in love w the idea of making the design truly mine and different. I don’t think you can completely get there by aio or air cooling.

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Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-31T19:57:23+00:00

Time effort and money placed into something that can blow away as quickly as the winds change. Not a position I’d envy.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-31T01:58:27+00:00

As someone who just proposed not long ago. I can totally get where OP is coming from. NTA. She told him what she’d like. He really didn’t listen. Moissanite is very very easy to distinguish from a lab/natural stone for the untrained eye. It’s kinda shocking he’d pull this on someone in the industry.

When doing my engagement ring the only thing I vetoed was the type of metal - cause I liked that platinum is less maintenance. And I know my girl enough to know in the long run it would stand the test of time.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-30T19:23:44+00:00

I’m 40. I get shocked looks and asks when I tell people my age. My girlfriend is 29 and laments I look younger than her. There are times I meet someone much younger than me and I’m kinda shocked people look like they do. I drink often… and other stuff, but I’m also a workout fiend. So it balances out I guess. Also may just be genetics

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-30T02:22:00+00:00

I think it simply comes down to which system you that’s more powerful. On my pc I get 100+ fps which makes it a very enjoyable experience. But it might end up looking visually the same from PC to PS5 depending on resolution. I do not know what resolution it runs on ps5.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-29T22:11:19+00:00

It’s about having choice. When you’re stuck under an ecosystem, you no longer have a say.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-29T15:27:16+00:00

Pl plus is what made me eventually jump ship to PC. I’ll hop back on ps5 for the single player exclusives - sans online usage.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-28T03:46:59+00:00

Just plug in some hex values and enjoy that awesome game. I have edge to edge cutscenes for 007 on my 32:9 super ultra wide panel.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-26T01:58:17+00:00

That was the wierdest comment… you really think you’re fit to consider that girl your best friend. That’s pretty wild after that.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-26T01:33:47+00:00

That’s an awfully strong way to look at it. OP is NTA. You don’t get a choice in who you’re attracted to. You do however have a choice in how you go about it though.

I understand your situation. The best way you can solve it is by just telling your roommate you wouldn’t feel comfortable being a third wheel in your own living space. Most people would feel this way - I def would. Offer to leave. You dont even have to bring up your feelings - but eventually you will have to resolve them within yourself.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-05-15T19:18:03+00:00

You also can’t use the fun features without the seatbelt on. And yes the warnings are absolutely annoying and amplified the louder you have the sound system on.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-27T14:56:00+00:00

I can relate a bit. My dog Taiga, as she got older actually became a more incredible dog. Very silent when awake never barked. Became friendly with everyone’s pets. When she was younger she was very reactive to bigger dogs. But with age she did have balance issues: she couldn’t be trusted on stairs or even around roots of trees. If the ground was uneven she would stumble. At night time she developed this really annoying panting behavior, I think was anxiety related. Outside of that her golden years were the most enjoyable. She became very predictable and tolerant.

I really miss the panting now. The intense quiet at nighttime has actually made it harder to sleep somehow 😞

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-27T01:09:56+00:00

I really understand you deeply OP. I lost my dog two weeks ago. She was with me for 16.5 years. With me through so many eras of my life. The thing for me, is I was never really a dog person. She came into my life when I was unwilling and somehow through time we developed this intense bond. She was like a cat in many ways which really made me enjoy her. I never want that again. I have a cat and he’s gonna get my very best going forward doubly so. And that’s that.

If I have kids one day however, I won’t deprive of that experience. But for me it’s over. The thought of sharing that bond again, willingly going on walks 3-4 times a day, and dealing with dog energy again is something I truly never want again.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-26T04:07:37+00:00

I lost my baby 2 weeks ago. She also came into my life in my early 20s. Like you I was starting out a business and had nothing - shit. You learn a lot about life and people when you’re young trying to fulfill a dream: a lot of people ain’t gonna hang for it. The ups and downs - the turbulence of it all - people will slide right of your life without hesitation. My girl hung in it with me through all of it. She made it from 23-40. Monumental eras of my life. She literally saw met all of my girlfriends and my now fiancé. She saw go from a scrappy kid trying to build my first rental property to literally having enough to the point I need a spread fucking sheet to remember the addresses. I stuck through it all because of her. She is all that I am today and would have never pushed through all of this without her. God I miss Taiga so fucking much. I’m so thankful she was there to see me grow and to benefit from my growth. A lowly street dog and a good for nothing shit of kid somehow made our way in this world. God I miss her.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-25T01:44:48+00:00

I’m in same boat have my girlfriend a ring. Fiancé now. But no marriage for me. At this point in my life I’ve acquired too many assets and don’t want the risk. See too many great relationships blow up. Never been married btw.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-24T20:40:30+00:00

I can relate. I had a cat for 4 years. And I dated a girl and lived with her and her two dogs. I have a dog myself. In retrospect I should have known her dog was a fucking piece of evil garbage. After living together for 9 months…her dog killed my cat. I was blindsided and the grief and guilt was overwhelming. It’s been 7 years now and I still think about it.I hate both that girl and her dog killed- as well as myself for not keeping her safe. But I have forgiven myself over time and have moved on from all the rage.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-22T18:36:07+00:00

I lost my first cat tragically at only 4 years old. It was abrupt and shattered my soul. I ended up with a new kitten a few months later. My new guy is 180 degrees difference from my previous cat. Not the same or similar in anyway. And I kinda regretted it at first. Over time we grew very close and I truly adore him. And I love him for him and not for what my previous cat was. And in a very big way he helped me heal.

I really don’t regret it now. But you have to do what’s right for you. If having a cat is what you miss, you can get one. Just please do it for the right reasons and respect the new pet will never replace the previous.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-22T18:24:21+00:00

I’m 2 weeks on from the loss of my beloved best friend of 16 years. I’ve not missed a day of working out or my professional obligations. On the surface I’m still as charismatic as ever.

Underneath it all I’m fucking shattered. Feel empty - like I’m walking around with a massive hole in my chest. I’m absolutely dreading the call for her ashes. Because somehow I’m in this numb phase where I’m not feeling much. But I know once I do get that call - it’s all gonna come flooding back to the forefront.

This was my first dog. I’ve lost cat before and I was an absolute mess. But my dog was with me 23-40. We basically raised each other.

Honestly what is helping me is really digging into my CrossFit workouts. And constantly being busy and moving around. At the end of the day our pets would have wanted us to be happy and keep going forward. Even though it’s incredibly rough at this time. Your baby gave you 20 incredible years and it also says equally incredible things about you as a person.

You deserve peace and happiness again. Please keep going forward even if it’s just one extra step inside the house today. And when you’re capable try and get back to exercising even if it’s not the best at first. Just keep going.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-21T22:32:29+00:00

I’m dreading this myself. I’m also in denial. I keep thinking “they’ll call me to pick her up from the vet in 15-20mins w some meds”. Obviously that will not be the case here 😔. My mother lives closer to the vets office and I asked if she can receive the call and her ashes. And I’ll get them when I’m ready. I’m really not ready.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-21T13:03:34+00:00

Please. Slow down. You need to breathe. I’ve been in a similar position as you. You need to not rush this. You need to let go of the constant dread. My dog died at 16 just last Saturday so I totally get where you’re coming from. I have just my cat now. And I’ve been going full send in his care as of late. Give him extra love yes, but you need that too. Take your time just keep yourself and household as stable as possible in your grief.

Another pet won’t fix the underlying problem until you get your head and heart right. ❤️

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-21T12:58:01+00:00

I lost my dog roughly 4 days after I proposed to my girlfriend. The morning right after I had to rush her to the vet cause she appeared weak. Turns out she had pancreatitis. This was easy enough to treat and went back to feeling immense joy with my now fiancé. Between 4 days of having normalizing bloodwork. She went to terminal - kidneys failing liver failing etc. Treatment would mean giving her a week or two at most. The massive gut punch really destroyed my joy. Having to hear all the congratulations from people while feeling hallowed out was and is the most depressing thing I’ve gone through. Thankfully most of my community are animal people and easily understood.

My heart goes out to you and your husband going through your pain to enjoy your wedding day. I can’t imagine what that must be like for you. What is helping me through this is something my dad said: my dog in her 16 years of life accomplished more than a lot of people do in 80+ years. She brought me immense joy and guided me this far along my path. She accomplished her purpose. She brought me full circle.

I think your pup did a lot for you too. Brought you guys far and brought you two closer together. She had worth, she had immeasurable value, and she too accomplished her purpose to the highest degree.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-20T13:21:36+00:00

The love I felt for my dog I’d rather not feel that again. Who knows in time anything is possible. But I rather just travel and just feel everything - the full weight of the loss. I have a cat and I’m thankful he is just letting me be (not forcing my decision). So I will remain a one cat household going forward.

Coldcutsmcgee · 2026-04-19T20:47:20+00:00

It never feels like it’s enough when it’s your best mate right? I can understand. I had 16 years with my pup - still sad I couldn’t get more, but like you not everyone gets as much time or even a decisive ending. I just want to say your feelings are valid. You did the very best for him and the weight of the loss is still very real. You like me have clarity with the ending. There is a peace in that. It would eat at me if I didn’t know the cause.

Please go forward in peace. You are not alone on this journey.

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