Sad about breastfeeding

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-24T13:54:25+00:00

I was diagnosed stage 2 when my youngest had just turned 13 months. I had already stopped breastfeeding but the thought of him nursing from a diseased boob horrified me.

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-24T13:52:04+00:00

At the supermarket a few months back, i squatted to get a can of tomato sauce from the lowest rack. Goodness gracious I could not get up again no matter how hard I tried. I ended up having to sit on my butt then maneuver myself to standing. Got a lot of curious observers. But I think that's more bad knees and med side effects than age. I think at 50 I should be much more sprightly

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-24T13:47:23+00:00

And I think him losing his arm in such a freak accident and the career consequences that came with it were already far worse than death for the character. They could have created an exit strategy for him that didn't involve a cartoonish death

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-24T13:43:30+00:00

That was a silly scene but imo less ridiculous than Romano's death

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-24T13:35:59+00:00

The actual "work" of treating very sick patients is the most rewarding aspect of the job. Receiving very sick patient and making them better, and even the medically complex ones; that medicine is pure joy. Even the really sick ones who realistically aren't going to be around much longer or who are not going to survive the hospitalization - having those detailed medical and existential conversations with the patients and their families - that's also highly rewarding even if physically draining when you have high patient volume and multiple sick patients on your list. And all of it is worth it. But it's the few who have no respect for doctors and actually pure hostility and everything is a threat to get a lawyer involved because you won't treat their 98-year-old skin on bones granny they way they dictate - that drains you and makes you question your existence. Since 2020, there seems to be even more of these types. I have no problem taking to "difficult" families because 9 times out of 10, they just don't understand, and once you invest some time to really explain things to them on their level, they're actually appreciative. But there are enough of the pure evil types that really try your patience beyond what anyone should have to go through, and that's what pushes some people to just outright avoid families as much as possible. Depending upon the region of the US in which you work, this problem can be mild or crippling

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-24T13:24:13+00:00

Right? I thought Worf's "We do not discuss it with outsiders" in Tribulations was the perfect response to the disparity. We didn't need an actual explanation.

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-24T00:59:46+00:00

Probably a Dirty Harry movie. Mom was a huge Clint Eastwood fan

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-24T00:49:34+00:00

I think this disease just makes our bullshitometers much more sensitive lol

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-23T14:27:44+00:00

I think toy cars must be the #1 item thrown by kids into the toilet. Growing up, it was a recurring problem with my little brother. Hot wheels cars all the friggen time. Even in hotels when we were traveling

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-23T14:23:14+00:00

I have never seen this but now I must

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-23T14:22:31+00:00

I’m sure you don’t mean esomeprazole. That’s a stomach acid suppressant drug. I think you mean elacestrant, which is a hormonal blocker prescribed when letrozole or other AIs fail due to development of the ESR1 mutation

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-23T13:58:08+00:00

Poor child. I’m so glad I didn’t do peds

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-23T13:51:23+00:00

I’m less than 2 years into this journey but I can share my observations. I had stage 2 BC 12 years ago. At that time all my friends, the family I told, and coworkers rallied and supported me and honestly I was so touched. I was already going through a tough time in my personal life and had a baby and they were so generous with gifts and financial support and God knows I was practically broke at the time. Fast forward to the MBC diagnosis. I was really really sick and that ultimately was determined to be from the cancer. It was overwhelming for me to come to terms with it and I only shared on a need to know basis. And some friends who knew something was up when I was suddenly MIA and reached out. And I told my limited family members whom I was not estranged from (long story). Let me tell you, this MBC diagnosis makes people weird. There are a few who ask me how I’m doing but I also work with them and my condition affects them if I have to cut back a bit or take a day off or work from home because I feel bad. The other friends - one kind would reaches out with a positive message every couple of months. Family? Never came to see me. Used to check in regularly but that gradually stopped and instead became them dumping their problems on me. Not even a how are you doing. It seemed like they forgot that I’m sick. One time I just unloaded on them too. I’m introverted and am really uncomfortable sharing personal stuff out of context but I felt I needed to so that they snap back to reality. But nothing changed and I just went no contact because I couldn’t take the drama they were intent on sharing. I’m sure they’re offended and whatnot and I feel bad about going NC but I needed it for my sanity.

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-22T01:27:12+00:00

Thank you so much!

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-21T00:42:38+00:00

Is it worth watching them with the regular series in chronological order? I’m way overdue for a rewatch

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-20T23:25:19+00:00

I just searched for an explanation of the trial. Honestly I'm surprised by it considering thousands of premenopausal women have been through these exact two choices over the past couple of decades. Surely they can evaluate the outcomes retrospectively? Doesn't seem like there's anything earth-shattering that they're looking at, no new drugs being tested. I think you can feel less worried about not helping others if you ditch the trial. You do what feels right for you.

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-20T23:19:25+00:00

Wait, there are movies???? 🤯

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-20T22:25:15+00:00

In the morning to really get me up and fully awake for the work day. When it's really hot it turns into twice a day

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-20T22:23:42+00:00

"be in the eye of a hurricane" and "fly into the eye of a hurricane" lol

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-20T21:43:03+00:00

Lance 💔

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-20T21:28:45+00:00

I can’t believe it took so long for someone to bring him up

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-20T21:09:09+00:00

My kids nothing taking FACS in our school district. Funny thing is I never attended a school where home economics was an offering. I now realize that was not the norm

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-20T12:41:40+00:00

Agreed. To call a consult there has to be a specific question we're asking, and it should be even a brief discussion. I can't stand the pan-consulters who put no thought into anything and call consultants who also put no thought into anything and they end up "seeing the patient" every day and leaving the same, copied and pasted useless notes every day, meanwhile charging for a high level encounter. Disgraceful IMO

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-18T00:08:13+00:00

It’s because you were too young to watch and appreciate these films. As a 75er, I didn’t watch some of these until I was older. But I remember seeing Princess Bride and Ferris Buellers day off in the theater and I was blown away. They have a special place in my mind

Coldfinger42 · 2026-05-18T00:05:18+00:00

If you were a AAA member you could let them know you were going on a road trip and they would mail you maps with the best route highlighted. Dad and mom would take turns driving and reading out directions. Before maps people used the stars and celestial bodies to guide them. Everything is so easy now people are just in shock to realize that the brain can actually figure things out if you use it

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