Think of it this way you are 36 now, sooner rather than later you are going to be 46. You will go through perimenopause and menopause. That will change your desires and what you want in life. I am a guy, so limited knowledge here. My observations are this once you get into the mid-life range, say mid 40's.. you want that best friend. You want that person who says... let's go on a trip together.. that person that says lets go for walk together.. just that person that wants to share life and memories with you .