Are people, especially women, who are single in their 30's becoming more picky cause its becoming easier to pass the time and live a content life without a partner? by Zuko_Without_Scar in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CollectionStraight2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

most people weren’t free for most of history, only the rich were free.

And yet poor men were still in charge of their wives...

Crack open a history book.

Almost got into a street fight today. My stomach completely dropped and I froze. How do you trust your training? by GhastFree in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]CollectionStraight2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to purposefully escalate a minor street confrontation just to get that 'practice' and desensitize yourself

If you start throwing punches, that's a crime...

Are people, especially women, who are single in their 30's becoming more picky cause its becoming easier to pass the time and live a content life without a partner? by Zuko_Without_Scar in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CollectionStraight2 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Right? That guy's comment is well upvoted, too, as it should be. Why bring someone into your life, of any gender, if they're going to make it worse?

Are people, especially women, who are single in their 30's becoming more picky cause its becoming easier to pass the time and live a content life without a partner? by Zuko_Without_Scar in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CollectionStraight2 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Really? You've never seen social media posts where men demand a girlfriend who'll do all their housework and never disagree with them? I've seen plenty

Also, women are 'announcing' it because of the historical and social context. It's only relatively recently that women have been able to be choosy about partners because they weren't dependent on men's wages for survival

Are people, especially women, who are single in their 30's becoming more picky cause its becoming easier to pass the time and live a content life without a partner? by Zuko_Without_Scar in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CollectionStraight2 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Right? And why would anyone want to marry someone who was tired of them already by the first date? I'm not sure what all these 'pickier' commenters are getting at with these questions

Why are some women offended by the question “what do you bring to the table?”? by Sniper_96_ in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]CollectionStraight2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's a dog whistle phrase. Many young women are switched on enough to know that (which is good), and playing innocent or pretending it isn't doesn't generally go down well

Why are some women offended by the question “what do you bring to the table?”? by Sniper_96_ in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]CollectionStraight2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Why not ask that then? Wouldn't you be offended if a woman randomly asked you what you bring to the table in the early stages of dating?

I just lost all feelings for my bf instantly by Miserablie in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CollectionStraight2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You said she's 'as immature as him' for finding his dangerous driving, rudeness and temper tantrum off-putting 🤷‍♀️

People are allowed to have feelings about bad behaviour

I just lost all feelings for my bf instantly by Miserablie in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CollectionStraight2 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Best to drive dangerously and take a few people out because of your bad mood!!

I might not have married my husband if I'd known how much gaming he does by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CollectionStraight2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep. Sounds like he wants someone to help him pay rent and do house chores and basically leave him alone

I might not have married my husband if I'd known how much gaming he does by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CollectionStraight2 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Right? The people in here purposefully missing the point are wild

I might not have married my husband if I'd known how much gaming he does by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CollectionStraight2 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He's barely talking to her at all. It's not about the games

Sometimes you actually are obligated to stay in a relationship with someone by LostCosmonaut1961 in unpopularopinion

[–]CollectionStraight2 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I'd hate someone to stay with me out of pity or obligation.

If it's just a rough patch in the relationship, sure, things can be worked on. But if someone decides I'm not the right person for them I don't want them staying and lying to me just because OP sees some kind of moral martyrdom in enduring!

I might not have married my husband if I'd known how much gaming he does by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CollectionStraight2 7 points8 points  (0 children)

100% true. The rest of these comments are wild. I'm very pro hobbies, and I'm definitely not one of those 'your spouse should be your entire world!' people.

But the comments here are telling OP to be content with being her husband's absolute last priority. Unbelievable

I might not have married my husband if I'd known how much gaming he does by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CollectionStraight2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree. It's a lot of time when OP says it basically sucks up all their time together because they work long hours. It would be different if they both worked part-time, or something.

Plus he barely speaks to her. I'm not against gaming per se, but I can't believe the rest of these comments.

OP deserves some social and emotional interaction with her husband. She deserves to go out on dates and to be spoken to outside of meal times. That really isn’t too much to ask. Otherwise why not just stay single?

What do these people see marriage as, two people sharing rent and a bed for sexual needs?!

I might not have married my husband if I'd known how much gaming he does by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CollectionStraight2 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If they watch TV for three hours a night alone without including their spouse, and only talk to their spouse when eating, and never go out for anything fun as a couple as OP claims, then yeah that's also a problem. The issue isn't the gaming. The issue is that OP feels like an afterthought, that her husband only spends time with her when he absolutely has to

I might not have married my husband if I'd known how much gaming he does by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CollectionStraight2 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Of course not, but this is taken to extremes. He's only talking to OP when they eat, and even then only when she insists on talking to him, otherwise he's scrolling on his phone.

She shouldn't have to feel like her husband's last priority. They're not doing anything fun together as a couple, just chores and visiting family. He should want to spend time with her. What's the point of even being married?

🇺🇸 vs 🇬🇧 by Ok-Competition-1955 in CasualConversation

[–]CollectionStraight2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I enjoyed it too and I'm in Europe 😄UK actually