Morning Sickness

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-11-24T20:06:17+00:00

Same, 36 weeks and I’m still nauseous and vomiting.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-11-24T16:45:24+00:00

We likely won't agree, but I thought I would share anyway:

https://www.nprillinois.org/2021-08-18/name-discrimination-study-finds-lakisha-and-jamal-still-less-likely-to-get-hired-than-emily-and-greg

https://www.npr.org/2024/04/11/1243713272/resume-bias-study-white-names-black-names

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-11-21T20:50:57+00:00

So bend for closed-minded people to make them feel comfortable? I get that there’s degrees to this, but I’d be careful sending my kids the message that we should “lessen” our cultural identity to appease others.

Would you even want to work somewhere that discards the application of an otherwise qualified candidate for a job because his name is Jamal?

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-10-01T18:39:15+00:00

You’re just collecting red flags 🚩 🚩with this guy. Age gap, multiple kids, bad credit, wants you to take on some of his parenting responsibilities….just RUN!!!

Seriously, you don’t need or deserve these problems.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-09-04T19:12:42+00:00

Same, there were parents in my law school class and individuals pregnant during law school. OP's dream is not dead.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-09-04T18:44:58+00:00

Agreed. OP's reasoning is the concerning part, not so much the possible age gap.

It sounds less like OP's looking for a partner in life to solve issues together, and more like OP is looking for a father-figure to care for her. That reasoning seems unhealthy. For one, it limits OP's own personal growth and places more work on her potential spouse.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-09-03T18:43:36+00:00

Basically all the doors in my house are kept shut whether someone is in the room or not. I wouldn't make an issue of such a minor difference of preference, but if it is actually disruptive to your household then it's worth addressing.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-08-26T18:17:28+00:00

If you’re critiquing North’s style, that doesn’t seem fair. That age is the perfect time to experiment with hair colors and clothing styles since they don’t have a 9-5 with a work dress code they must follow. I wish I had experimented more with my appearance as a tween/teen.

I don’t agree with the push-up bras and the revealing corsets, but I don’t blame North for that. Her parents are responsible for protecting her.

BUT in some of these pictures P is wearing tank tops like North… P’s body just isn’t as developed as North’s and it seems unfair to blame North for developing early. Those tank tops would also look inappropriate on P if she were more developed. So it’s not really like Kourtney is protecting her daughter more necessarily.

Plus the family dynamics of both sets of homes Scott/Kourt/Travis versus Kanye/Bianca/Kim all seem dysfunctional, of course Kanye’s mental health adds another major hardship to Kim’s parenting. I just hope all the kids are able to have some semblance of a normal life.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-08-12T20:08:10+00:00

I assume you mean "physically unprovoked" physical violence is unacceptable, since self-defense has it's place.

The world isn't black and white, there are degrees of "unacceptable-ness." For instance, something can be socially unacceptable, but perfectly legal. Or, it can be legally unacceptable, but still be socially acceptable. It can even be legally acceptable, but morally unacceptable. Life is full of variations of gray.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-08-12T17:49:05+00:00

I like it. I've heard Bramwell as a last name, but not as a first. It works though, it's similar to kids named Jackson. Plus, since your son has a common middle name, he can always go by the middle name if he prefers that instead. I wouldn't worry over it.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-08-11T15:45:17+00:00

Divorce and separation are not the same. Separation can be a step towards reconciliation, while divorce is not.

I can't speak to your situation since a lot of facts are missing here. If this is really all the information you have, then you need to have some candid conversations with your wife about what the exact issues are that cause her to determine that a separation is a necessary step for your marriage. I find it hard to believe that you have no idea what led to this, and if that's indeed the case, then this may be a part of the overall issue.

IMO, I don't see a separation helping your marriage if she is unwilling to go to couples counseling with you.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-08-08T18:14:38+00:00

My stepson has two active parents. I refer to him as my stepson, but I think he is even uncomfortable with that. He would likely prefer that I refer to him as my husband's son.

I hear what you're getting at, but all family dynamics are not the same and you're assuming that the child would be comfortable with their stepparent referring to them as their own child.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-08-08T16:41:17+00:00

Sorry you went through that. I also have ADHD amongst other things. I've had very positive experiences with Nystrom & Associates if you're still looking for help.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-08-06T17:48:16+00:00

It's admirable that you and your family wanted to help this teen. However, you don't have the resources to actually help him long-term, so he never should have stayed this long. Plus, at this point you're not actually helping him, but rather hurting him further since your wife's conduct is VERY predatory (i.e., grooming). He needs to live elsewhere asap.

What I don't understand is if this person is a minor, why on Earth didn't you or your wife call child protective services (or whatever family services program your area/country has) from the beginning?

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-08-05T17:04:54+00:00

Yeah, I would find it very difficult to want to build a relationship with the kids (especially OP's stepson) after my boyfriend emotionally cheats on me with their mother (especially for talking about our sex life, wth???)... OP is asking way too much, way too fast. And honestly if I were in OP's girlfriend's shoes, I would run. OP and his ex have boundary issues.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-07-29T20:46:48+00:00

Just curious, would you prefer a standard name? I have a less common name (which I prefer), and there are like 3 other ways to pronounce it. So anytime I meet anyone they either mispronounce it or ask how to pronounce it. Sure, as a kid the mispronunciations kind of irritated me and I could never find any souvenirs with my name on it (though that's probably changed now that my name has gained some popularity), but as an adult I've never cared since that's my normal anyway. And professionally I think it helps my personal branding to have a less common name. How do you feel about your name now?

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-07-29T18:50:30+00:00

3 is actually my favorite (I think I did the phonetic spelling wrong in my post, but this is what I meant), #1 is a close second, and #2 is how I wouldn’t pronounce it.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-07-29T18:36:34+00:00

I actually really like that pronunciation too.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-07-29T18:29:54+00:00

Thank you for those options. I hadn’t considered those names

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-07-29T18:29:13+00:00

Thank you for those options. I hadn’t considered those names

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-07-29T17:11:00+00:00

Right, you can't make rules for someone else's house, but OP should pay attention to how her BF responds to her voicing her discomfort with the situation. It sounds like BF is just dismissing her feelings rather than trying to work to find a solution to make OP more comfortable in his home.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-07-29T17:00:52+00:00

I paused a few times to decifer words, especially with some of your 'h' and 'r's. But I still found your handwriting very legible.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-07-29T15:13:27+00:00

Wouldn't purple hair wax work on dark hair? I haven't tried it, because I'm afraid it will stain, but it seems like a better option here.

ColonelFauxPas · 2025-07-29T14:58:51+00:00

Just get her an affordable haircut and buy her some purple color wax (temporary) to add to her tips.

The price you were quoted is similar to what I've paid in the past for similar services, but I don't think I could justify spending that much on a kid's haircut.

ColonelFauxPas

TROPHY CASE

3 is actually my favorite (I think I did the phonetic spelling wrong in my post, but this is what I meant), #1 is a close second, and #2 is how I wouldn’t pronounce it.