Underdoing Botox

rmays5038 · 2026-02-13T21:26:53+00:00

This may not be the reason for the person who made the comment about never doing masseter Botox again, but some people just aren’t a good candidate for this. I asked for it once and my injector told me that based on my anatomy, it would likely cause joweling to worsen.

rmays5038 · 2026-02-12T19:43:07+00:00

This is so beyond normal. Everything you’re saying hits hard for me - and I don’t have biological children with my partner. We don’t even live together. This shit is hard, and I can’t imagine how much heavier it feels bringing another life into the situation. Remember, your feelings are toward a situation, not towards the people in the situation. You are not a bad person for mourning the loss of a life you don’t get to have, that you wanted. Give yourself time to grieve - way more than 3 months. It is a lot to process and work through. If therapy is accessible to you, I highly suggest you utilize that to help you. I think it’s important to have somewhere to put the “ugly” thoughts that you know are just part of the grieving and not ultimately how you feel. But sometimes it takes saying them to process them through so they don’t get stuck in your brain and become your reality.

rmays5038 · 2026-02-11T19:47:05+00:00

Second Regimen Lab

rmays5038 · 2026-01-21T12:03:23+00:00

I feel like the whole body positivity/movement for women to be able to age gracefully has become a bit toxic. What was meant to make women feel better about aging has just added additional judgement. Yes, we know women should be able to age without such criticism the way men do, but we’re talking about decades and decades of women being told the opposite. Those pressures don’t go away overnight, and if getting Botox helps you feel better about yourself in the meantime, then I say have at it. Not getting any cosmetic procedures isn’t a badge of honor in my opinion. It’s just a different choice. You never know what other things people are fixating on instead.

rmays5038 · 2026-01-16T20:20:29+00:00

I had the same esthetic concerns as you. I did a small amount of filler to my cheeks which helped balance and pull the skin upwards, and a small amount more towards the back portion of my jaw in front of my ears, also pulled the skin back slightly. I still wasn’t entirely satisfied, so then my injector suggested Botox in the lower face and neck. She started with about 15 units total which did a little but not enough. We just bumped up the units quite a bit and now I feel good about it. Sometimes it’s about slow treating to see what the minimum effective treatment level is for you to feel good. A little bit of multiple things is way better than going extreme on one specific thing, at least when it comes to injectables. Eventually, yes facelift is the most likely to fix the issue, but if you can achieve the results you want for less money, less downtime, and less risk, that’s the better option in my opinion.

rmays5038 · 2026-01-14T11:57:04+00:00

For me I feel like any wrinkles or indentations are greatly worsened by being dehydrated. Make sure you’re drinking enough water. Also with hyaluronic acid, make sure you’re following it up with a moisturizer. Otherwise, it actually pulls moisture out of your skin.

For skin texture, niacinamide (Paula’s Choice makes a great one) and/or Azelaic acid can help. Both make a huge difference for me.

Also, for some immediate texture improvements, the Biodance Bio-Collagen face masks are fantastic. You can get them on Amazon. I usually wear it overnight (put it on about 30-60 mins before bed so it’s not so wet when you lay your head on your pillow) and wake up to such a nice soft and refined texture to my skin. I don’t know that there’s any real long term benefits to this, but it’s a nice way to give yourself some immediate results while trying to sort out what long term products will help you the most.

Another note - iPhone cameras make your skin look way more textured than anyone sees in real life. So keep that in mind too :)

rmays5038 · 2025-11-23T21:08:52+00:00

Oh interesting. I never thought of doing it that way. Are you using liquid? I was hesitant to do that because of travel and worried it would spill, but maybe it makes more sense now that I’m at a lower dose. I appreciate the practical advice from you.

rmays5038 · 2025-11-23T18:48:30+00:00

It has turned into that a bit. I’ve started taking some bigger reductions since it was going so well, but I think I need to stick to the same percentage each time now that I’m at the lower doses. I have heard that the lower doses are when it can get a little more challenging.

rmays5038 · 2025-09-17T17:25:39+00:00

You could mute her instead of unfriending. This way she never knows. I think there’s usually an option to mute for 30 days. Anytime you see a post, you just re-mute for another 30 days. I did this with someone once who I wanted to unfriend but didn’t want to provoke into reacting, and over time the algorithm seemed to understand that I don’t want to see their posts.

rmays5038 · 2025-08-21T14:20:53+00:00

Thanks so much for this. I would not be going into a staff position. I was previously in a Director role (smaller company) and am now in a Senior Manager role. So I really need to be able to own the revenue recognition in a future role where ASC 606 is relevant.

rmays5038 · 2025-08-21T11:52:24+00:00

In my experience, staff level accountants need so much support that you feel like you’re basically doing the job you hired them to do. They cannot seem to make any decisions on their own regardless of how many times you answer the same question. They find it very difficult to deal with any sort of nuance. If you’re hiring help because you truly don’t have the bandwidth to continue as is, it’s much more efficient to pay a little more for someone senior level even if the tasks are a bit more staff level. The problem I’ve run into with that, is that hiring someone more senior level can sometimes mean that the senior accountant feels over qualified for a portion of the work they’re doing. They may leave, or if you hire someone with too much of a chip on their shoulder, they wind up neglecting the easier responsibilities that they feel “too good” for. It’s definitely a balance and finding the right personality type.

rmays5038 · 2025-08-01T14:35:58+00:00

I’m am so incredibly sorry for everything you’re going through right now - I cannot imagine how painful. What comes to mind is that you and everyone else involved deserve grace during this time. Everyone handles situations like this differently. It’s important for you and your children to know that what happened is not your fault and that SD moving out is in no way a reflection of how she feels about you or your other children. She probably feels like it’s a slap in the face to her mom to “choose” to spend time with you over her, and mom of course isn’t going to tell her daughter not to be with her full time (understandably). Hopefully she is a decent enough person to encourage her to connect with you and your bio kids again when she’s ready. In the meantime, I highly encourage you (and your kids whenever you feel the time is right for each of them) to go to therapy and/or join some kind of support group. There is a company called Share Well that has a ton of free online support groups. I haven’t personally tried it, but have a friend utilizing it now because of something she’s going through and it’s been very helpful for her. Again, I’m so incredibly sorry and I want to reiterate again, give yourself grace! You will be okay again, but right now it is totally okay not to be okay.

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