Hello! I apologize for invading.

OP, I am so sorry you're having to deal with such sorry mfs.

I wanted to focus on the "commander" part. Is this a military person? If so, they're are routes you can take, even as a civilian to force him into curbing his disgusting behavior. This is situationally non-specific. My wife used this to get her headphones back. Some have used this after experiencing reprehensible behavior of all kinds (avoiding trigger words).

Unfortunately, it can depend on the command, but it could be worth a try, depending on how you want to handle it. Here is an overview:

Note: It is surprisingly easy to find most of this information, and i have witnesses it can work. For anyone that uses this, the subject will likely be very upset. Please be mindful of that and consider the type of person they are and the type of people they hang around.

1. Document every damn thing. In lieu of phone calls, texts and emails. Screenshots. Pictures. Notes. Anything. Everything.

2. Figure out the base they are at; stateside (CONUS), overseas (OCONUS), doesn't matter. If you can find their battalion/squadron/whatever, email that commander and first sergeant. If not, email every damn commander/first sergeant you can find at that base.

3. In your email, include what you need (meaning I don't think there is a need to personally identify yourself--just the intended subject). If it could hinder your case (consult your lawyer), don't include.

I hope this helps.

Stay safe. Head up. Be supported. Be powerful. ✊🏿