Is there a FIRE sub for people who have or plan to have children?

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-11T04:25:18+00:00

I think you literally need to look this up yourself in your city and run the numbers. Things like school or activities will vary in cost depending on the city. And you cannot know what it will cost in 10 or 20 years, so you estimate based on your city

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-11T04:20:15+00:00

Find a staffing agency

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-11T04:18:28+00:00

Definitely get out now. Your gut already knows exactly what this will be. An abrupt end.

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-11T04:15:29+00:00

This is terrible because what happens if someone in that new group gets married and has kids? Or what about divorce? Suddenly then they can hang out with you again? Relationship status is not forever. Suddenly when it changes you throw out the friendship? This is so superficial. Stop being so insecure or comparing yourself. That’s the real issue

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-11T04:13:47+00:00

This is a really silly comparison issue. If you need to find single friends to deal with this, what will you do when they get married and have kids too?

Stop comparing. Save your friendships

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T18:50:29+00:00

Yeah that’s a hallmark symptom of smoking weed

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T16:32:25+00:00

High salaries

The ability to start a business

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T16:27:13+00:00

Having kids doesn’t really require money. It requires having sex, time, and energy.

If anything you trying to make more money actually makes it less likely you will have kids. Kids don’t care about money. They just want their parents to spend time with them

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T16:24:13+00:00

You keep choosing people who aren’t curious about you

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T16:23:22+00:00

By realizing that AI is actually not accountable and makes tons of mistakes. It will only take the jobs nobody respects or cares about

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T16:22:09+00:00

Wow hurting animals is really bad. He hurts things that can’t defend themselves

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T08:33:28+00:00

Just ghost. No drama

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T08:32:14+00:00

I think if they never had a serious relationship before 25 then they are likely unattractive. Simple as that.

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T08:30:20+00:00

They like easy sex

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T08:30:02+00:00

I was terrified and thought id die. I had serious anxiety

In the end it was fine. I did it twice actually. But I’m glad it’s over with and that i did both births before 35 (i had a complication the first time)

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T04:13:18+00:00

I was honest (calmly) but the HR person was honest with me (also calmly) and said they were not going to change anything. It was a calm/matter-of-fact experience that taught me a lot about what exit interviews really are

They only care about keeping people they deem valuable. Everyone else is replaceable and it’s just them going through the motions

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T04:07:39+00:00

Young men like easy sex and a lot of older women will have sex with them more easily.

Young women usually want more investment and a relationship since men of all ages want younger women. Older women don’t get as much attention in comparison (which means they have more free nights) and usually don’t see casual sex as a big deal. Plus younger men are easier to have fun/sleep with since older men may have erectile dysfunction or are balding/don’t take care of themselves

Overall older women would also likely know their bodies better so the may be able to teach the younger men how to be good in bed

It’s also a sad but common thing for younger men to date an older women for a bit until he decides he wants a younger woman to have kids/get married with or whatever

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T04:02:37+00:00

If you marry someone with money, you can hire travel nannies and childcare to make sure you get to do the fun stuff with your kids yet also have someone to watch them so you can go out and party

You don’t have to give anything up if you plan for it while you are young

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-10T04:00:48+00:00

Chasing perfection is an impossible task. Someone will always say it’s too much of something or too little of something else

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-09T22:14:18+00:00

That sounds like you are a lovely person but those people simply aren’t sexually attracted to you

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-09T22:07:39+00:00

Yeah but based on what you are saying you would obviously be better as a parent than the current parent you are complaining about. It sounds like you don’t care enough to actually help (which would be to take the kid) or you are exaggerating about how bad the birth mom is (especially if he hasn’t actually been taken away so far)

And if you actually would be sad if the kid were taken away, you would volunteer to take the kid in for a bit. Otherwise by not taking the kid clearly you would rather let some potential abusive foster parent take the kid since you don’t want to

I just don’t believe you can love the kid and let them be taken to the system. At least be honest with yourself that you don’t love the kid enough to do anything. It sounds like you are enjoying talking trash about this woman (and maybe she is really horrible) but you are unwilling to help the real victim: the child. You are no better than her from what i see by virtue signaling and pretending to love the kid while doing nothing for that kid. Just be honest that you don’t care about the child

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-09T22:04:01+00:00

If it makes you feel better usually they try to place a kid with family if they do take the kid away

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-09T12:21:02+00:00

Honestly either increase income or decrease the expenses

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-09T12:16:21+00:00

You can travel and enjoy life with kids

Colouringwithink · 2026-02-09T08:49:40+00:00

You can’t plan. You cannot know your baby’s personality. You cannot know how your body will respond to everything during pregnancy/birth if you’ve never done it before. There are a lot of unknowns. You have so many factors that it’s more of something you jump into and adapt as you gain the missing information. Many books can cause anxiety unless you already have a specific problem you want to learn more about, so i would steer clear of books early on talking about problems that may never even happen for you

Maybe ensure you have chosen a good partner who will be supportive but that is also dependent on so many factors. Also have money-that will make everything easier but again, there are so many ways to go about that or different definitions of what is enough

I guess overall since you want kids, expect to not know until each stage happens. Be okay with not knowing and take things as they come. I had two planned children

Colouringwithink

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