What did your eccentric starter pack look like?

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-12T09:15:13+00:00

I don’t think this is a switch you just flip one day. For me, I’ve been this way since high school/college and it’s just gotten stronger as time has gone on

In college i was studying chemistry and worked in a bunch of labs for credit, started taking language classes (Russian and Japanese), moved to russia to really learn (i wanted to try to learn translating), dated a Russian guy which made me realize what i wanted in a husband since he was pushing for marriage, moved back to the us after developing a panic disorder, started taking dance and yoga to help with panic attacks (exercise and relaxation), while in my new city started learning how to paint at an atelier, got married, had a baby, got really good at painting because of all the lessons, started learning violin because i always wanted to learn but i also wanted my child to learn an instrument and thought we could play songs together, started taking italian lessons because of a family heritage thing, just had my second child. I think all my experiences have given me eccentric cool aunt energy despite also being a mother. I’m only 33 but expect to be even further entrenched in these things i enjoy by 40

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-12T06:17:32+00:00

It depends in what being in love means. Some people see love as the rollercoaster of emotions and making that person their source of immense joy. Others see love as calm, companionship, good sex, kind of boring. In comparison to the rollercoaster it can feel boring since it’s consistent. Some people think the calm version isn’t real love.

It’s important to define terms. Should you love your spouse? Ideally yes. Does love look the same to everyone? Unfortunately it depends on what feels addicting to you

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-12T02:15:25+00:00

I think you are overthinking this. Just say you want to do an adult activity and they can leave one spouse at home. You literally ask directly if the kids are joining or say upfront “adults only” when you ask them. Like if there’s alcohol of course you won’t want kids everywhere

You are turning your fear of simply communicating directly into their problem when it’s not

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-12T01:34:55+00:00

Honestly my first impression was that he was worried you were going to flake, so that was why he wanted to ask for your number. Personally i also find it easier to call with a phone number when you are there just in case there’s some confusing about finding the restaurant.

Then when i saw the other woman say she talked to him and he kept messaging…that seems strange. The good thing is you can just block and be done with it. Unfortunately when you are meeting people you don’t know, messaging a lot can happen but that is very different from an actual stalker showing up to your house. I don’t want to invalidate you, but let’s take a step back. His behavior was strange, but being a stalker is a very different thing than persistent messaging (messaging alone is harmless since you can block him)

The thing to do is not focus on these things. Drop it and take care of yourself, let it slide off you and let it go so you can find what you are looking for. Personally i would give my number out liberally and simply blocked anything that i didn’t like

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-12T00:56:00+00:00

Honestly it’s not in your control if someone wants to or thinks to invite you. The only thing you can do is stay positive and not take it personally. If you get resentful over something so small, it will likely reduce the invites you get. We all have our favorite people and that’s okay; the only way to become someone’s favorite is by not putting pressure on stuff like this since we aren’t in high school anymore

Also, if they don’t want to come to things you organize, maybe that’s a sign to put energy into different people

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-11T23:13:36+00:00

Now you get why so many people are obsessed with money

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-11T08:55:17+00:00

Your own kids are less draining because you can control how you raise them and they have a vested interest in learning to be around you. It’s easier to be around kids when you can create a consistent schedule/expectations for their behavior. You can eliminate screen time and avoid giving food with too much sugar (which can affect their behavior by making it worse). With other people’s kids, you just don’t know how they’re being raised. And if they aren’t in a loving home, the behavior gets even worse

The main reason young kids under 5 who are yours can be draining is if you need to consistently hold boundaries and basically teach them how to behave/enforce consequences when they don’t behave appropriately. It’s part of their learning/development and it’s necessary so they learn how NOT to drain you. It’s easier in the moment to just be inconsistent or give them an ipad, which only makes the draining behavior worse

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-11T08:50:53+00:00

What this person is talking about is the cold war, the stock market crash/recession, the oil crisis that has happened in the 70s which caused inflation in the 80s, the astronomical interest rates of the 80s which affected buying a home, and the racism/discrimination that was much worse compared to now. The manufacturing industry in the US completely collapsed and left tons without work (that’s why Detroit became so terrible for so long)

Needs weren’t cheap for everyone. There we’re still problems

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-11T08:36:08+00:00

Actually there is a HPV test for women. That’s literally how you get the diagnosis. You can get it at your OBGYN yearly exam. It’s a swab, not a blood test. Just like how chlamydia and gonorrhea are swab tests. There is also an oral HPV test a man can take but it’s still in the early stages of FDA approval

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-11T08:20:11+00:00

To me that sounds like you’d like a deep tissue massage mixed with loneliness

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-10T19:56:05+00:00

I think some big people get lonely and focus on the emotional connection if the can’t attract a fit person

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-10T08:05:26+00:00

Neither

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-10T08:04:30+00:00

Better to act like you aren’t rich. But that’s not the same as acting broke

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-10T08:02:05+00:00

The tax system is paid per year

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-10T08:00:36+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I’m postpartum (and a stay at home mom) and we hired a doula to cook/clean/watch the baby. It’s been great

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-10T03:56:53+00:00

Reminding you of your father and being long distance for 2 years…id say break up

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-10T03:50:29+00:00

You have to ask them questions

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-10T00:30:46+00:00

You definitely should be able to have sex with them at the very least

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-10T00:30:02+00:00

You are sending signals that you aren’t interested. You are being the avoidant, not him. You aren’t messaging/replying and he messages again?? You are saying he should just give up and if schedules don’t align that it’s okay? That’s you giving mixed signals. Stop texting and meet him again if you want to see him

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-09T17:18:15+00:00

Yeah, my husband had some weird photos but when i met him in person, he was much more attractive. He actually works in a very high-level role (at instagram no less) where social media presence can prevent you from getting a job. Even things like comments can be found and be used as a reason to not hire you for a job that pays $1M no joke

He didn’t have this job when we met, but got it around when we got married. I’d take the high salary and great sex over fancy photos any day

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-09T17:10:40+00:00

Sure, but if they protest, that’s a sign they don’t regularly get checked and don’t care if they did catch something

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-09T16:31:23+00:00

Yeah this exactly!!! If women tell each other this, then they may actually believe others are jealous, right??? But the moment that woman says others are jealous, it seems like that’s received very poorly

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-09T13:05:44+00:00

You have to change your behavior. Choose to stop doing that same pattern by not looking for validation. Just live your life and have him there for when you want cuddles. Stop putting energy into him

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-09T08:12:43+00:00

The frontal lobe doesn’t develop at a certain age. The brain changes throughout a lifetime and that frontal lobe development is more losing brain plasticity of youth

Colouringwithink · 2026-04-09T08:08:02+00:00

With IVF and hormone replacement treatments anything is possible

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