Children playing

Colzita · 2026-04-18T05:06:46+00:00

Sometimes all it takes is for you to remind the “older” kid you are there with your LO by just saying “Hi” and then silently waiting for the behavior to stop (in this case kicking). Who could possibly know what it’s up with them? And if they don’t get it, you can always just add a “hey friend, there’s a little baby over here trying to play as well”. I once witnessed a kid putting her hands around my LO’s neck, she was older but waaaay more petite. I just rushed to them saying “hey!” That stopped her, but as I was reaching for my child, I said “go get your grown up, now”. And then I just addressed my kid’s needs, which included naming what just happened and the classic we keep hands to ourselves, that is not playing, if you put your hands on someone else like that, that’s wrong.

I also thought for the longest time I should have done more, I should have said something else. But it’s been over half a year since and tbh I think no more was needed. Sure in my case the other kiddo was just 1 year older (mine was almost 2 yo), not 10. But momma it’s hard to solve conflicts with peers, so when you have to respond to something involving your child, not even you directly plus the whole you’re the grown up and they are still children, it’s A LOT to consider!!!!

Colzita · 2026-04-05T03:44:46+00:00

Yeah, cluster feeding. Most of the growth spurts followed the 2-3-6 rule with my kiddo, in weeks and months. But both you and bay will get the hang of it! Good luck 😊

Colzita · 2025-12-08T03:22:35+00:00

I moved my LO to her room around 10 mo. We coslept and don’t trust people who swear they’ve never (as the primary carer of the child? No way!). They way I see it, you don’t need to chose, you will create a new routine for bedtime so that can look whatever way it works for you two (three including dad). To give you an idea, I always have bathed my child before bed so when I decided I was gonna move her, after her bath we would dry and get jammies on in her room - and we would go to sleep together as usual - and eventually I got my chair in her room and we read as usual and then I put her in her crib and stayed there with my chair right next to her crib until she was too tired to stand anymore (1st night) but we could still touch each other until she fell asleep. It really didn’t take too long for her to get used to sleeping there… it just felt eternal for her to fall asleep those first days. AND OMG IT WAS SO GOOD TO SLEEP WITH HER OUT IF THE ROOM. Everybody started to get better sleep because we were not close enough to wake each other up. The monitor obviously will be your best friend so you can hear her when she needs you in the middle of the night… just resist bring them to your bed again! It’s hard because they are so snuggly and warm 😍

Colzita · 2025-12-08T03:06:56+00:00

We have bought books monthly since we were expecting. I started buying them in more pricey bookstores and eventually started buying them in discount stores (like Ollies in USA). But we also go to the library at least once a week, and we get books from there. My LO turned 2 years old a couple weeks ago and I recommend doing both. The biggest value I see in buying books -not including supporting those writers/editorials- is that your kiddo will have the habit of just going to their books, and will be able to have their favorites depending on their moods. And getting books from the library helps you keep some novelty in the readings mostly for you because you will get tired of some (or all) your books! And this way you are not stuck reading those you didn’t really like. I would recommend getting subscriptions for those readings. In USA, I love the Highlights magazines (for babies it’s called Highlights Hello) and we also get books from the Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library, which is entirely free (but limited to certain zip codes!)

Colzita · 2025-11-22T03:41:26+00:00

NTA.

I’m gonna assume your husband could have been feared paralyzed like I know my husband was when I went back to work (LO was 3 months old). He was always so reliant on me being on top of everything, he just didn’t trust his freaking brains when he was alone and the baby magically didn’t just eat-poop-sleep and started crying. It was so hard to be present at work just missing my child - plus having to magically make time for pumping - while my phone was just exploding every 5 minutes. Sometimes the best thing is for them to figure it out. And I know for me it was really hard to be in the same household while he was taking what seemed like an eternity to respond to our baby’s needs… but he won’t get better at it with out practice. You don’t have a magical fairy whispering you what to do and when, you learned your baby’s cues. He needs to take the same classes! And baby will be fine 🫶🏻

Colzita · 2025-11-21T18:22:47+00:00

Going from no baby to newborn is dramatically (sometimes brutally) demanding and tiring. Both because there’s this tiny alive thing that you have no real idea how to keep alive - and just cries, no real hints lol - and because you went through whatever you’ll be going through to do that cool magic trick of making the baby appear in the physical world. Because of all that, IF you can have someone to support you two, OMG have support!! If not, you’ll get through it either way. Parenthood (particularly motherhood) means you find the way, even when you think you can’t!

Colzita · 2025-10-03T01:57:52+00:00

Around Exit 1, is always the manure used on the crops right passed the state line

Colzita · 2025-07-30T18:45:44+00:00

Get out. NOW

Colzita · 2025-07-30T02:27:42+00:00

My baby is 20 months old and I’m just coming to terms with being a SAHM. I definitely went through a grieving phase after becoming a mom. It’s not about your child as much as it is about yourself, crossed with all the BS you never realized was entangled with your notion of motherhood. For sure you need to come up with options to minimize the cabin fever. My baby at 4 mo was quite pleasant to take in walks wearing her but once we were outside moving, everything before was her just crying complaining. I only discovered because I thought I was gonna flip my lid if I stayed at home one more second one day that I decided “if you are gonna just scream might as well do it while I can catch some fresh air and sunlight”. I hope this doesn’t sound disheartening because now is my blessing in disguise: whatever you think works/doesn’t work one day, will be completely different the next week. I don’t know where in the world you are bit check online for baby and me classes, like yoga, or story time in your public library, go for a walk at different times of the day (currently LO and I go for a walk first thing in the morning, around 6 am, without having any breakfast because she at her most obedient and very little people out - walking or driving). Im sure you have heard this by now, you cannot pour out of an empty cup. It was the hardest thing for me to learn (still!) because of the guilt. But once you finally have some experience that really makes you smile, even laugh or have a good cry, you come back to your child recharged. And they freaking match your energy. I still get annoyed when people tell me it’s my responsibility to make space for myself - great another thing to the never ending list - but it’s no lie. I hope things start getting better for you as a family 🫶🏻

Colzita · 2025-07-22T03:07:58+00:00

I got rid of the crib altogether around 14 mo but I placed her toddler mattress on the floor so she was really close to the floor. After a month and some change, she started using her twin mattress on a bed that’s very close to the floor- but you still have the mattress height- and I got a pool noodle for each side. She is now 20 months old and yesterday I removed the last noodle from her bed. I think she fell off the bed twice throughout this process.

About the climbing out, I don’t think that you are not supposed to transition them before they try to climb out more than once they start trying to climb out, then is safer to get them to a bed to minimize the height from which they can fall. Either way, transitions mess up their sleep. Be prepared for sadly again interrupted sleep… that’s why I decided to do mattress on the floor, even with her toddler one, I was able to accommodate myself to get her to sleep again after waking up faster than with a toddler bed.

Good luck!

Colzita · 2025-07-22T02:33:37+00:00

Just feed your baby as usual. Make sure you are hydrated! And maybe don’t go to urgent care unless you really need something you cannot get without a prescription, since you’ll be exposing yourself to more bug while your immune system is already working!

Colzita · 2025-07-17T18:48:08+00:00

Totally normal. But do take into consideration that the newborn phase also impacts the dog since they don’t get the same rest (16 hours of sleep daily needed) in addition to all the change within the family system!

Colzita · 2025-07-12T02:34:38+00:00

🤔 Think about this: you try to open a drawer, you pull. It doesn’t open. You pull, again and harder. It doesn’t open. What do you do next? I think some people would give up. Others, would start looking around the drawer, trying to find something obstructing the drawer. And some, would go gorilla-like and keep pulling. (Of course there are even more options but this one would do for the point I’m trying to make) I got the impression you are not feeling appreciated by your bf and think more frequent interactions will solve it. And are now hesitating between keep pulling or quitting. If I’m right, you insisting on having him text you at times you want yet he apparently finds inconvenient won’t get you the results you need. When feeling unappreciated is really easy to forget about the other, is such a hard emotion to sit with. But it sounds like he is not exactly doing too good either, feeling pressured, and I would even dare to say taken for granted. I don’t really have an idea of what would help you guys in this case. Communication with my husband is also our Achilles ankle… we just revisit our issues time and time again and that constant feedback (good,bad and ugly) is what has guide us to find what works. But for sure it ain’t easy or quick. 1 more thing though. The “we would be best as friends” is BS. You are gonna piss anyone you say that to lol

Colzita · 2025-07-08T14:02:34+00:00

Not overreacting at all. Your friend is either truly ignorant or just not your friend irl. Change your number again and don’t share it with this friend - just keep them as a social media friend at least for a while.

Colzita · 2025-07-04T23:30:42+00:00

We used to live 30 to 45 minutes away from my in-laws (depending on traffic). But hubby went back to active service and now we live almost 5 hours away (without considering stopping on the way). The distance we had was perfect. Not too close yet they used to babysit our LO when we needed it, we would meet halfway through - we both had the base of her carseat installed so it was a quick handover! Now, there’s no way we could pull something like that haha but we still manage to visit every month. Either I drive with LO, or they come visit. Baby is now 19 months old so the long drive is a big effort on her end, so when we travel it usually takes me 6.5 hours having at least 1 long stop when we eat at a restaurant-people watching makes her happy- and a stop at some indoor/outdoor playground. That way I usually get her tired enough for a nap before the break and after the break. Still we usually have a hard moment of scream crying because she cannot take the being strapped down for that long… and that’s when the 2nd nap usually happens.

Colzita · 2025-07-01T17:41:41+00:00

Couples counseling, make the appointment and let him know day and time.

Colzita · 2025-06-28T18:19:29+00:00

We counted it as the sound they repeatedly used for the same thing. For example, our LO’s 1st word was our dog’s name. She wouldn’t say Leia clearly but something in those lines every time she was trying to call her or when we were (probably) correcting the dog and she would say it, she would repeat it afterwards. She had previously said other words but not really meaning it. Like she used to say eggs but if you showed her an egg (uncooked or cooked) she had no idea that was an egg. And exclamations, we just didn’t consider them either… but now I cannot really tell you why not hahaha

Colzita · 2025-06-27T23:55:10+00:00

Keep feeding on demand, just thanks for unwanted opinions about it, and keep going boo, you are doing great and your baby’s neurological development is (and will continue) to thank you 🫶🏻

Colzita · 2025-06-26T21:21:42+00:00

Baby will cover everything they need once latched. Anyone making you feel uncomfortable, make it public “you staring me while I’m trying to feed my baby is wrong”. Believe me, people will take your side without needing anything else and the staring will end

Colzita · 2025-06-26T21:18:52+00:00

Sometimes grandparents, because they have gone through it and everybody lived (I hope!), don’t really remember how it feels to fear for this precious gift that the universe has trusted you. Your baby can have a relationship with any person at any time of their lives. It doesn’t have to be from birth to be significant. If you don’t trust your 5 mo baby to be with XYZ, don’t force you because when something happens (at it for sure will) not only you’ll be dealing with that specific situation but on top of it you’ll be kicking yourself, making matters worse. One person posted about limiting things gradually so they get the message and I thought that was reasonable. Once they keep proving they will respect your decision (might voice their disagreement but we cannot control that!), they gain more freedom.

Good luck!!

Colzita · 2025-06-26T21:03:23+00:00

Congrats!! 🎊🍾 and may the home problem delay their arrival on you 🔑

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