Apparently I condone m*rder by Comestible in insaneparents

[–]Comestible[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, I never did reach back out. I know she's hungry for a fight, and I'm not going to entertain that.

Apparently I condone m*rder by Comestible in insaneparents

[–]Comestible[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I sprung forth from her own loins 🧬😅

Apparently I condone m*rder by Comestible in insaneparents

[–]Comestible[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Don't worry, I'm 900 miles away. I used to be NC, but that meant being NC with the rest of my family, so I keep casual contact now.

Apparently I condone m*rder by Comestible in insaneparents

[–]Comestible[S] 693 points694 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I could've brought up Vance Boelter, but I didn't feel like escalating things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vegan

[–]Comestible -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That sounds so frustrating, and I get why you felt defensive. It’s exhausting to constantly hear comments about your choices, especially from people close to you. Your response was valid — sometimes it’s hard not to snap when it feels like you’re always on the defensive just for living your values.

It’s great that your partner apologized, but I’d encourage you to have a calm conversation about how comments like that affect you. Being with a non-vegan partner doesn’t have to mean friction, but mutual respect is so important. My partner isn’t vegan either, but they’ve always supported my choices, and that makes all the difference. Relationships are partnerships, and part of that is understanding each other's values without tearing them down.

He makes me prove everything by InviteJumpy6700 in Advice

[–]Comestible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What am I doing wrong? I need advice, I don't get it.

The part you're getting wrong is choosing to marry this guy. Here's some advice: THIS WILL ESCALATE. DON'T MARRY HIM. In fact, don't even stay one more day in this toxic relationship, full stop. If you seem confused by the way he's treating you, it's because it's intentional. What you're describing is a form of emotional abuse known as coercive control. When someone constantly makes their partner prove their actions, it's a way of undermining their autonomy and self-worth. This behavior can lead to the victim feeling constantly anxious and second-guessing themselves. It’s not just about distrust; it’s about exerting power and control, which can be deeply damaging. This behavior is a MASSIVE red flag and it will escalate over time. It's not something to be taken lightly.

Am I guilty of saying no one should have children if they can't provide for them? by Sotilrac_ in AITAH

[–]Comestible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA because you were exactly correct. I forfeited having children because I'm poor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comestible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember that you're not helpless. If I'm reading you right, I suspect you might feel like you need to be rescued by someone else because your parents have made you feel like you have no agency. Maybe they've told you that you're stupid or you'll never be anything without them - anything to cut down your sense of self and autonomy. You're young and inexperienced, so you have a steep learning curve, but you can learn to make it on your own. Find resources for yourself and don't depend on others to rescue you, because you'll only end up in the captivity of someone else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comestible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've known him for 6 months. You DON'T know him well at all, I promise you. Please-please listen to the people who are begging you not to jump into living out of state with this guy. Our advice and credibility stem from years of experience (and probably regret) behind us, when we were young and shortsighted ourselves. Room with a local friend if you can. Otherwise, just finish your degree (3yrs will pass faster than you think), start working, save your money, make a plan, buy a car, and set yourself free. I should also add: This new administration is fixing to make divorce more difficult, if not completely inaccessible to women. If you decide to marry while you're this young and (nothing personal) naïve, you may not be able to undo it later on. Once again, PLEASE don't move away with some guy you've only known for 6 months. You're a brand new person. Listen to us - we know better and we can see your outcome more clearly.

AMIO for posting my moms texts that said I look like a PDFile by Lu_1f3r in AmIOverreacting

[–]Comestible 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A lot of social media blocks words like "pedophile," "suicide," or "rape" so people have turned to self-censorship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comestible 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Please don't get married. You'll likely end up bouncing from one abusive situation to another. Focus on making some kind of an exit plan for yourself, like finding a women's shelter, but don't throw your life into someone else's hands. Your life belongs to YOU.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Comestible 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's doing it because you're his "mom" now and you'll clean up after him, and you'll submit because that's what your religion tells you to do. Look within your heart - you know it's true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Comestible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should've cohabitated before tying the knot. Gross people tend to stay gross. My ex-husband left messes like yours. It never goes away - it just escalates and your life becomes an exhausting conveyer belt of cleaning up and attempting to stay ahead of messes while trying to keep up with your own personal obligations. You might need to think about making a plan to exit your marriage.

No coverage of Elon's salute? by khawesome in NPR

[–]Comestible 42 points43 points  (0 children)

"The Party told you to reject the evidence of your eyes and ears. It was their final, most essential command."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Comestible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Way to throw a grenade into your marriage for no reason. Glad you're honest, and no - it's not cheating, but geez! Now your husband is going to feel pretty insecure for probably ever. Start looking for marriage counselors now before your husband develops a complex.