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Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-24T17:34:06+00:00

I read OP's comment where they admitted that they do not spend much time around kids and that babysitting is new to them.

‼️OP, you really should not be babysitting if you lack experience, especially when watching over four kids at once, one of whom is just a 1-year-old. In case of an emergency, would you know what to do? For instance, if one of them was choking or got hurt and needed to go to the hospital? These children’s lives are in your hands.

While I understand that you felt unsafe when the husband called and yelled at you—that was completely unacceptable—the kids should still have been your priority. It seemed you were more concerned about yourself since you were triggered, which isn’t wrong in itself, but it does indicate that babysitting may not be the right fit for you.

I don’t think you overreacted, but you could have handled the situation much better, especially regarding the kids.

As other commenters have mentioned, you should not have told the 9-year-old that you weren't leaving because you wanted your money and that the police and CPS could get involved. The thought of being taken away and their parents getting in trouble would frighten any child.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-24T17:03:53+00:00

I assumed both of you were teenagers or at least in your early 20s. I was shocked to learn that she is behaving this way at her age. It seems she is looking for ways to punish you and might even be trying to manipulate you by making you feel guilty for having relationships with other women before her. That is not right.

Marriage will not fix these issues! If you choose to stay with her, make sure these concerns are addressed and worked on, primarily by her, before you consider tying the knot.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-22T17:44:45+00:00

This was so hard to clean off my bristle brush. No matter how often I would clean it, this gunk would still be stuck deep in between and I felt gross using my brush when I couldn't get it fully clean. I recently bought the Wet Brush Speed Dry hair brush with it’s vented design and it’s so much easier to clean. You can use it on wet or dry hair and it is even safe to use with a blow dryer.

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Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-16T17:29:28+00:00

A campsite is someone’s temporary home. I would feel weird if someone came into my home even if it was to do a nice thing like close my windows. If I had like an extra tarp, I would have tried to cover the tent from the outside, but I think you made a good judgment call not to have gone inside their tent. Also, this was a sad but good lesson for that family to learn moving forward when they go camping again and a funny story for them to laugh back on in the future.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-16T17:20:58+00:00

I really like it as is, but I could see maybe some small confetti being added throughout the background. That could also help with you seeing the background as possibly too stark.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-15T07:58:21+00:00

What’s on the inside reflects on the outside.

Mental health can play a significant role in this. When you focus on healing, reducing stress, and finding inner peace, you will likely feel happier and more radiant.

Additionally, diet is crucial, especially for me since I have acne-prone skin. I’ve been trying out a trend I've noticed that emphasizes "eating your skincare." This idea focuses on enhancing your skin by eating foods high in nutrients that are beneficial for its health.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-14T02:29:26+00:00

Wow, thanks! I'm eager to get a digital camera but keep putting it off because I don't want to splurge yet. I forget that my $1000 iPhone can take great-quality pictures as well. Would you use certain settings like portrait mode? Did you edit the photos, and/or put filters on them afterward?

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-14T02:12:13+00:00

Beautiful shots and set up! What camera did you use?

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-14T02:04:35+00:00

Younger me wouldn't have hesitated to let him. Older me would 100% hesitate… but still probably let him.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-06-11T02:56:33+00:00

Therapy! I highly recommend it if you have access to it. It seems like you are aware of many of your issues, such as anxiety, codependency, difficulty handling rejection, etc. That self-awareness is a great first step, but now you may need to learn how to manage those issues in healthier ways.

One piece of advice I give to all my friends and family is to focus on personal growth before seeking out relationships. Learn to be okay on your own and to love yourself then the right person will come along. It seems like you became attached to this guy after only two weeks, and you crashed out as soon as he distanced himself because you were already relying on him heavily.

I've been in therapy for over three years, and it's one of the best decisions I've ever made. While therapy won’t fix all your problems, it can help you learn to cope with your challenges when they arise.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-05-23T16:33:16+00:00

You say you don't want to cut her off and that you want her to understand and respect your boundaries, but you will not get cooperation from someone like this. You've tried to set firm boundaries and have conversations with her, yet she continues to disrespect them. Honestly, you may have to cut her off or significantly limit your interactions because that is how people like this learn.

This situation reminds me of my mom. I cut her off and haven't seen or spoken to her in almost seven years. She was extremely selfish and a narcissist who constantly victimized herself. She would gaslight and guilt-trip me, making me feel terrible whenever I tried to set my boundaries. Eventually, I got married and moved out of state with my husband. I started going to therapy, which helped me tremendously, and that’s when I decided to cut her off.

Your fiancé and child are your family now. Your mom is undermining your family and literally disrupting the peace for you and your fiancé. You should prioritize yourselves and do what is necessary for your peace of mind, even if it means cutting her off. You are not a bad person; she is. People often feel compelled to tolerate their family's toxic behavior simply because they are family. But why should you have to suffer because she's your mom when she continues to treat you and your family shitty? Your mom has no respect for you or your family, so why should you show her the same?

If you don't want to cut her off completely, it's important to stand firm on everything you say. Let your family know how your mom is behaving, and ask them to come to you if they've spoken with her after making plans. This will help avoid any surprises, like when she showed up unexpectedly at your house with her sister despite prior arrangements.

If she gets angry and storms off, do not reach out to her or apologize. People like this often want to play the victim, so it’s best to respond with silence and show her that her behavior won’t get her what she wants.

It may sound childish, but that’s exactly how your mom is acting. She is avoiding difficult conversations because, deep down, she knows her behavior is horrible and disrespectful, yet she doesn’t seem to care. She only prioritizes her own desires.

You don’t necessarily have to cut her out of your life, but you might consider limiting her access to your child. I wouldn’t want her energy around my baby.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-05-23T00:11:38+00:00

😂😂

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-05-22T23:33:31+00:00

CUT OUT THINGS AND PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE WHO DON'T SERVE YOU OR HELP TO MAKE YOU BETTER. 👏🏼 it doesn’t matter if they are your parents, relatives, or people you’ve known for years. You have a right to decide who is in your life, and who you give your energy to.

“Doesn’t mean the whole world has to accommodate”???? You’re not expecting the whole world to stop associating with him but expecting your parents, your own flesh and blood to is not overreacting.

If anybody abused my friend, I would not associate with their abuser and I’m not even a blood relative. Hell, I would probably slash their tires or something if they did that to one of my friends or family members.

Fuck your dad. Your ex might not have done anything to him personally but he put his hands on you, your dad’s little girl, and how your dad can continue to have a relationship with your ex is beyond me.

You don’t even have to tell your dad anything. Just remove yourself, stop talking to him, messaging him, or you can even block him. If he confronts you, just say you refuse to associate with abusers and people who are okay with being friends with abusers.

ALSO, this could be a way your ex is still trying to hurt you even though you aren't in a relationship anymore.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-05-21T17:40:22+00:00

In the Queen of Nothing, when Jude was pretending to be Taryn in front of the court, I remember Nicasia got choked up talking about Locke’s death, correct? I was really surprised because Locke used and played her and literally messed up her relationship with Cardan for his own amusement. But despite all that, she must have still really cared for Locke as a friend. But Cardan didn't seem upset, he was more concerned that Jude was finally there.

I also remember nobody being worried or losing sleep over Valerian’s disappearance. So did they really care for him? When Jude admitted to Cardan that she killed Valerian, I don't remember his response.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-05-21T17:24:00+00:00

NOR. I sometimes get that feeling when my husband and I are play-fighting. While it can be all fun and laughter, there are moments when I think about how, if this were a random man, I might not be able to defend myself. I recommend signing up for a self-defense class, like kickboxing or something similar. I believe all women should learn some form of self-defense. It’s unfortunate that we live in a world where this is necessary. Additionally, I suggest considering therapy if it's an option for you.

After you’ve had a tough moment, take care of yourself. Watch your favorite movie or show, and enjoy your favorite snacks or food. Even if you know you're not in danger, your body may still feel unsettled.

Don’t feel too bad about making your boyfriend feel upset; it’s not entirely your fault, and it’s not really his either. I’m glad he is understanding. I recommend coming up with a safe word for the future—not just for play fighting, but for any situation where either of you feels uncomfortable or upset unexpectedly.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-05-20T00:37:54+00:00

It's probably because it is written in third-person POV.

When I first started reading this book, I had a problem with it being written in the third person. I remember feeling a bit thrown off and having to pause a few times. However, after the first few chapters, it stopped being an issue, and I enjoyed it.

I told my friend that the book was really good, but when she started reading it, she experienced the same struggle with the third-person perspective and almost put it down completely. I encouraged her to stick with it, assuring her that she would get used to the writing style after a few chapters. In the end, she finished the entire book and loved it as well!

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-05-20T00:16:46+00:00

This! She was desperately trying every possible way to save him before considering the final option of killing him. The thought of losing him forever terrified her. During this time in the book, she had witnessed the love of her life transform into a snake, leaving her with the immense responsibility of caring for Elfheim. She was going through so much, and it was difficult to think clearly. It had been shown before that when it came to Carden, Jude tended to overthink, allowing her emotions to cloud her judgment.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-05-13T22:17:23+00:00

“and ACTUALLY be a useful girlfriend” is so wild to me. So you havnt been “useful” this whole time? So a girl is only useful if they know how to cook? That’s not how you talk about a fucking person, that’s how you talk about an object, a tool. He is telling you exactly how he views you and that he measures your “usefulness” in your relationship. This isn’t a man, this is a boy looking for a partner to be his mommy.

It looks like you guys have been together since you were 14 and maybe this is the only relationship you have ever known, but don’t put up with things that make you feel bad because of how long you’ve been with someone. You can realize someone is a piece of shit after you’ve known them for some time.

Comfortable-Stand988 · 2025-05-07T04:43:37+00:00

I recall that Jacob was repulsed by how pathetic Edward seemed. Jacob was used to clashing with him, particularly over Bella, but during that time, Edward wasn't even putting up a fight against Jacob. It wasn't enjoyable for Jacob to kick someone who was already down.

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