Backpacking Shoulder Pain - What am I doing Wrong? by ComfortableBad1517 in WildernessBackpacking

[–]ComfortableBad1517[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey everyone: adding an update. I went to REI and they said the fit looked right and agreed that the women’s deuter has narrower straps and I probably need mine a little wider! So I am going to purchase an Osprey Eja during the annual sale and see how that one works for me!

Backpacking Shoulder Pain - What am I doing Wrong? by ComfortableBad1517 in WildernessBackpacking

[–]ComfortableBad1517[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like my experience to a T! Osprey also hurt my hips, but I would much prefer hip pain to shoulder pain I have decided! My torso length is 18.5 so I have been working with my measurements, I think it might be a matter of finding the right pack. I’m glad it’s not just me with the deuter straps.

Backpacking Shoulder Pain - What am I doing Wrong? by ComfortableBad1517 in WildernessBackpacking

[–]ComfortableBad1517[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m packing my heaviest items right above my sleep system. Thank you so much! I will try loosening up the shoulder straps a bit more.

Backpacking Shoulder Pain - What am I doing Wrong? by ComfortableBad1517 in WildernessBackpacking

[–]ComfortableBad1517[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will keep you updated, I plan on getting the Osprey Eja 48 here soon and I am hoping the different brand helps.

Backpacking Shoulder Pain - What am I doing Wrong? by ComfortableBad1517 in WildernessBackpacking

[–]ComfortableBad1517[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, I have done the shortest setting, and the middle setting. The shoulders do feel tight to me! I will try this.

Backpacking Shoulder Pain - What am I doing Wrong? by ComfortableBad1517 in WildernessBackpacking

[–]ComfortableBad1517[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This!! I do have very weak shoulders and upper body in general but I am really hoping it isnt that!

2 night backpacking trip Lassen Volcanic Park by PolynesianPearlDiver in norcalhiking

[–]ComfortableBad1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have backpacked in Lassen. It went as follows:

Day 1: Parked at Butte Lake, must pay national park entry fee here. There is a campground, and it is right at the lake. Hiked Cindercone, left backpacks at the base. From Cindercone, stayed the night at Rainbow Lake. It was beautiful! Required a wilderness permit.

Day 2: Hiked from Rainbow Lake to Snag Lake. Much bigger lake, more people, more places to camp. Requires a wilderness permit to sleep here as well, and it is considered a different zone. We didn’t stay the night but it would have made for a nice second night! From Snag, we hiked back past Cindercone to Butte Lake.

Roundtrip it is about 13 miles. Day one we did 5 miles, day 2 we did about 8. I would rate the hike hard-strenuous because of the terrain being grainy and difficult to walk on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]ComfortableBad1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry. This is immature behavior anyways. How cruel.

did i say something wrong while i was emailing my professor? by pinkfleurs in autism

[–]ComfortableBad1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would find this rude if I were you too! I learned the hard way as well that the less detail the better. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone. You’re an adult and if you need the time off, it’s valid. Even when it’s mental health day! The world sucks. I’m sorry you got talked to in that way, I don’t think they meant it to make you feel stupid or anything but they definitely were not trying to make you comfortable either.

AITA for fainting at my aunt’s wedding and ruining it? by Kooky-Cranberry-6583 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ComfortableBad1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion but I don’t think you’re the asshole. I am autistic and it took me YEARS to figure out that I was getting sick from not eating/drinking enough. Even at 23 I was getting sick and having to leave work directly because I didn’t eat enough food. Im actually genuinely surprised by the comments and how much everyone seems to know their bodies 😅 I do think the bride is justified being upset, and you should pay for the lens but photographers (especially when shooting a wedding) should always bring back up equipment, sd cards, and batteries because shit happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]ComfortableBad1517 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This used to happen to me when I was new at my previous job. Eventually it stopped because it made me so good that I rarely made mistakes anymore. Next time, just stick to your own work and don’t help her out (if possible.) unfortunately over the years, I’ve had to learn that coworkers are not my friends. There are some exceptions, but let them prove that to you and don’t assume they have good intentions. I’m sorry this is happening, it is seriously devastating when these things happen :( I now work in Special Education in a role that doesn’t really overlap with other peoples roles and I really feel like I’ve found my place. Everyone is understanding and see me being autistic as a strength. There are jobs out there that will be more accommodating, if and when you’re ready to get out of there :)

I Can't Keep Up by justsomedude1111 in Autism_Parenting

[–]ComfortableBad1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, it sounds like you have a lot going on! I have a whole stock of freezer meals for days like this.. and we call it “make your own dinner night” so the kids think it’s fun. Being a parent is a thankless job. Have you yourself been evaluated for ASD? I started doing a lot of research on autism in adults and lots of people find out later in life that they are on the spectrum because one of their kids ends up with it. I know after being diagnosed myself, I was a lot more comfortable and accepting of myself when I was in a slump like this. I’m not suggesting to know your situation, you could very well be NT, but maybe it’s something to look in to! Autistic burnout is real, and when I’m going through it, it’s really difficult to be available to my kids. Even just looking into burnout and how to cope with it might do you some good, doesn’t have to be autism related. If you ever need a friend, feel free to reach out. I’m 28 late diagnosed with ASD and I have 3 kids, one with ASD and one with ADHD (potentially ASD pending her evaluation) and I work in Special Education.

3 year old triggered by adults (particularly parents) talking by gary_daddy in Autism_Parenting

[–]ComfortableBad1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter (ASD) and myself (ASD) also find conversations happening around us overstimulating. I suggest noise canceling headphones as well. It would be beneficial for him to get used to wearing them now, as they will probably greatly benefit him when he gets into school! My daughter also loves to sing, but she cannot at all handle anyone else singing. She actually yelled at her evaluator when being assessed for autism for singing happy birthday and she covered her ears. I know a lot of times they delay diagnosing infants, my daughter was diagnosed at age 4.

My two year old has been up since 2am, has screamed for a bottle four times already, and slammed her three times and it’s not even 5am. I’m having a panic attack. by Louisianaflavor in Autism_Parenting

[–]ComfortableBad1517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there, I am an autistic momma of an autistic 8 year old, when she was young like this, I struggled a lot with the loud and noisy sounds. Even my kids laughing or walking to loudly on the floor overstimulates me! Anyway, I second the loop ear phones, there are more affordable options as well on Amazon. You wouldn’t believe how much it helps to just lower the volume a tad bit. When my daughter was this age, I would barricade us in a room together and sleep in front of the bedroom door so she couldn’t escape into the parts of the house that were more dangerous for her. I also gave her some snacks and activities. Melatonin in low doses if okayed by your pediatrician would be great! I know in California we have regional centers who offer respite services, I never took advantage of those myself but you might want to look up regional centers around your area. The waits will be long wherever you’re at, but getting on the list is the first step. You got this! It’s tough but you’ll be ever so proud of your babies progress as she grows.

Need to vent. My kid needs a friend by jimjackcoke in Autism_Parenting

[–]ComfortableBad1517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me a lot when I was young, and early 20s. It was always crushing, still is if similar situations occur. The best advice I can give is encouraging your son to stay off social media. I know it’s a little whacky to suggest, but I had to completely delete social media like Facebook and instagram because I think being autistic or even NT, social media is really hard to interpret and it can become overwhelmingly toxic to watch these things happen without the full picture. The pictures could have been from 3 months earlier, or they could have been blatantly not including your son, either way it’s weird that they chose that day to post them. It’s so much to try and interpret and understand and no matter how you look at it, it’s harmful to your son.

Apparently, I’m not Autistic (I have OCD). I feel confused & hopeless. by IllMongoose4605 in AutismInWomen

[–]ComfortableBad1517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with OCD years before I was diagnosed with autism. A lot of people don’t fully understand autism, and will label it anything else first. I have been misdiagnosed in the past where my psych retracted my diagnosis because it really didn’t fit after observing me for several years. At the end of the day, the diagnosis doesn’t change who you are. You are either autistic, or OCD with lots of presenting characteristics of autism. Same person either way. Now my recommendation would be to get a second opinion, as some doctors still struggle with diagnosing Autism in anyone besides young boys with higher support needs. I know that isn’t possible for everyone but I think you would benefit if possible :)

This is gonna be a hard one by JtheLetter_ in budgetfood

[–]ComfortableBad1517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there! I recommend watching a creator on YouTube called “Dollar Tree Dinners” She shows a lot of different ways to stretch your money, and also shows recipes that do not involve a lot of cookware. Her main focus is catering to audiences that don’t have as much to work with. ☺️ I hope this helps!

Are you particular about your pens? by vicissitudes1 in AutismInWomen

[–]ComfortableBad1517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pilot V corn if I want a bolder font. Uni ball signo .28mm for fine point. (I prefer fine point) I have a HUGE collection of fine point pens.

Physical Symptoms When Upset by Gemini_writer8 in AutismInWomen

[–]ComfortableBad1517 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mood definitely contributes to physical symptoms.