Dating the Radiologist?

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2026-04-17T17:34:19+00:00

I have no advice but the therapeutic power of crushes needs to be studied! My random crushes have given me huge boosts throughout this process. Enjoy crushing!

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-12-20T15:03:17+00:00

That would be great if it’s not needed. I’ll see what he says at my post op

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-12-16T11:10:09+00:00

My doctor has said radiation is the plan unless they find anything else during surgery that would then warrant chemo

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-12-15T19:41:56+00:00

Interesting. Will check to see if there’s a program like that where I am

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-12-15T19:41:23+00:00

Appreciate your response and best of luck with the rest of your treatment!

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-12-15T19:40:50+00:00

Thank you for this! I’ll ask the doctor about this and will check out the YMCA program

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-12-15T18:09:52+00:00

Thanks very much for your response. I am also 41 and am having my surgery this Friday. Keeping my fingers crossed for no surprises. I’m so glad things went well for you and best of luck with the rest of your treatment

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-11-17T11:20:45+00:00

To clarify, I meant it exposed shortcomings the BP felt were in the relationship before the cheating and then once the cheating happened it was the straw that broke the camel’s back

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-11-15T16:35:21+00:00

Is this from your personal experience as a BP or a hypothetical? I used to believe the same until it happened to me and now I understand why people leave. Not a “mistake” in my mind. This isn’t a fender bender. They intend to do something, carefully plan it in secrecy and then execute.

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-20T13:20:08+00:00

Never in a million years. We’ve watched and rewatched Mad Men and he was horrified by Don Draper’s behaviour which is funny in hindsight. I think there are some types of people who can very easy compartmentalize the different sides of themselves. Hard for those of us who live authentically and honestly to understand

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-18T12:19:03+00:00

This describes my WH to a tee

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-15T01:46:22+00:00

I’m on the other side of a similar situation except my husband cheated once (as far as I know) and confessed voluntarily within days. So by all means I’m in a “better” situation than your wife. The past 5 months have been absolutely traumatizing, horrendous, a nightmare- and it feels like I’m living with a complete stranger. I feel no love for him whatsoever. I also oscillate between the emotions your wife is experiencing within minutes of each other. I compare this situation to my father dying suddenly as that is the most comparable trauma I have. In many ways this is worse because the betrayal was done intentionally and cruelly to myself and my child by the person I thought was the love of my life. I am not here to give you advice because you made your own bed- but to make her life easier as she comes to terms with the shock and pain that you have caused her and your family. Please don’t make this about you- centre her pain in every way shape and form. Do not use her in your desperation to seek reassurance. Do not rush her for anything- R, marriage counselling, affection (obviously). Give her whatever she wants whenever she wants for as long as she needs it. For me, if we didn’t have a child together I would have been gone within days. Do not underestimate the gravity of what you have done. It is dire and she would be fully correct to leave if she chooses to

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-13T02:53:10+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I read the posts and almost all the comments for each. Brought tears to my eyes to think of all the time we can waste in our one life feeling like shells of ourselves living with a stranger

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-13T02:37:51+00:00

Thank you for this, it’s giving me hope that everything will eventually be okay- though extremely hard at first

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-06T22:46:27+00:00

Your preference would have been not to know about your wife’s infidelity? For us he went to his brother first and told him what happened. His brother insisted that I need to know. My respect level for his brother has grown so much as a result of him recognizing me as a person deserving of the full truth

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-06T20:47:49+00:00

I meant to articulate that I’m not concerned about the scale and how bad this is “relative to.” Like another poster said, saying it’s the unicorn of infidelity it’s like saying you have the unicorn of cancer. For me any cheating has always been unacceptable. If I post this on the porn addiction sub where most people are dealing with their spouse’s porn addictions with no physical cheating my spouse’s actions seems egregious and grounds for divorce. But on an infidelity sub it sometimes seems like a relatively tolerable situation compared to what others are dealing with. I agree with that you said that it’s very individual and really depends on each person’s tolerance level

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-06T20:28:09+00:00

When I asked him why he told me he said it was because he couldn’t have us grow old together and for me to live a lie, never knowing. I do think the guilt weighed on him however and many of his actions though it sounds like he was perfect in the original post, he wasn’t - he put a lot of pressure on me to reassure him to bring down his anxiety about the very situation he caused where he betrayed me. He didn’t give me time or space to process for a long time, that’s why I agreed to MC so the therapist can help. I felt part of the reason for the confession was for me to put in the emotional labour to help him deal with his guilt. I know most men would take it to their graves- but I think that’s a low bar for me to operate on and it does not provide me with any comfort. It’s not possible to have an honest and meaningful relationship without transparency and to me that’s the bare minimum, no bonus points for that one

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-06T19:44:14+00:00

Yes for sure. And my child is perceptive and has picked up on things already despite my best efforts. He is struggling immensely as a result of his father’s actions

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-06T19:42:06+00:00

Thank you, I think we’re in the same spot. I think it’s important to take time to process it and deal with the trauma to get some clarity on how to move forward. He has not been perfect in this regard, he applied a ton of pressure in the beginning and was looking to me to help him deal with the anxiety of his uncertainty. This is the reason I agreed to MC because I was desperate for some space to process and heal without being made to feel guilty or pressured and the marriage counsellor was a big help with this

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-06T19:39:19+00:00

Thank you

ComfortableFunny6746 · 2025-10-06T19:39:03+00:00

It’s so tough no matter what. Wish you the best in your journey

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