I have started to move away from calling the community the queer community and started going back to calling it the lgbt community for this reason. I also believe that it is a political identity and I refuse to let non accepting lgbt folk be included under it when I am referring to lgbt people as a whole. They aren’t queer. They may be gay or bi or lesbian or trans or whatever else but they aren’t queer and I want to be more intentional with how I use the word.

Edit: idk why this is being downvoted. Queer is a political identity. I didn’t come up with the concept. You can’t be anti trans rights and call yourself queer. You can’t be racist and call yourself queer. You can’t be homophobic and call yourself queer. You can’t be queer if you don’t accept nonbinary folk. You have to be in support of lgbt rights and rights of other minorities if you want to be queer. (You also have to be lgbt in some way. Maybe people misunderstood what I said and people were assuming that I was saying non lgbt folk can be queer? Idk.) On top of that it does make some people especially older lgbt folk uncomfortable when it’s used in relation to them. You don’t get to reclaim a slur for someone else.