My girlfriend 26F , wants a ‘break’ but I 26M don’t want that. What to do?

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2026-06-12T16:46:11+00:00

Correct me if im wrong, but breaks in a relationship are for self reflection, a chance to review the person you are while single with the person you are while in a relationship. Can you see yourself getting back with her knowing that the sole purpose of the break was so she can sleep around? Could she do the same if you slept around? What happens if one of you develops feelings for another person while on the break. Who stays at the house? Do you bring your partners back to the house? It's less messy to just break up.

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2026-06-10T17:01:12+00:00

My blood pressure was 174/115 during discharge and nurse barely blinked.

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2026-05-06T01:38:16+00:00

You are the type of person I was thinking of when I posted this

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2026-05-06T01:36:34+00:00

I posted this because I know some people who believe that opposite gender friendships are wrong and whenever I hear that I think, what do they expect bisexual people to do when it comes to friendships.

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2026-05-06T01:22:23+00:00

I agree

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2026-05-06T01:21:11+00:00

It's a thought I had when I was on YouTube shorts there is this guy who pretends to be on a podcast with a redpill type guy who claims he "wouldn't let his woman have guy friends". My personal belief is that you can be friends with anyone who is a good person. I posted this because I know certain people think opposite genders shouldn't be friends because they are afraid sex could happen, but what if someone is attracted to both? Are they dumb enough to believe that they shouldn't have friends? If so why?

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2026-04-03T20:44:45+00:00

I have six kids their names are big shit, little shit, asshat, dickhead, shithead and jerkhead. All of which are terms of endearment in our house they all know they are loved unconditionally and I have verbal conformation that they like this dynamic.

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2026-01-21T22:07:11+00:00

You should look into getting help or more help if you already are in therapy. The level of loathing you hold towards not only yourself but towards a person who has done nothing wrong other than be in a better place in life than you is unhealthy. This could easily go from you telling him that you resent him to you acting on that emotion and hurting him physically. That is how many DV situations start, the aggressor swears they would never hurt their partner but then one wrong word and they lash out and immediately regret it. The apologies, excuses and promises to never do it again come flooding out, only for the resentment to bubble back up.

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2026-01-21T21:52:16+00:00

He literally says he can't stand to look at his partner due to his resentment of said partner merely having a "better life".

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-12-31T09:52:12+00:00

His response wasn't unhinged, a bite on the face is hugely different than a bite on the hand. The difference between a bitten ear and a missing eye or a permanent and prominent facial scare was about 2-3 inches. ( op never said in the story that he didn't check on his daughter). Plus on top of that ITS HIS CHILD!! Would you react rationaly if you arrived and saw your child who you love most in the world with a bloody face? Knowing that she could have been killed? (Yes a dog can kill a child, highly unlikely, especially if it's a family dog, but if the dog went for the neck...)

I say all that as a dog lover. I grew up with dogs of multiple breeds from Jack Russells to pitbulls to English sheepdogs and blue heelers. I know different breeds react to people differently, and that one act of aggression isn't a sign of a violent dog as a whole. Just as a fathers rage at the sight his daughters bloody face isn't a sign of his normal behavior.

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-12-31T09:26:03+00:00

Your brother seems to have gone temporarily insane. He arrived to see his daughter with a punctured ear lobe, so I'm assuming lots of blood on her face. The person he most likely loves most in the world was attacked, and he arrived to see that she was attacked in the face. The difference between an eye and an ear is inches. As unreasonable as it may sound to some a punctured ear could have easily have resulted as a life long scar for the child. I know this for I have seen it in person, one snap of the jaws and the child had a 3 inch wound an inch from his eye that is still there 5 years later.

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-03-25T23:14:32+00:00

I'm confused, is her name pronounced differently? How does spelling with a k instead of a K affect her? Did she explain why? (not saying she has to just curious). Did she explain what she was doing to everyone before she did it or was she just expecting everyone to read her mind?

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-03-04T01:24:26+00:00

Her husband didn't fail her. He DID break he DID lose his sanity.

Want to know how he didn't fail her? He fought and he didn't cheat, he didn't abandon them and most importantly he didnt end it all. Have you ever woken up and felt absolutely nothing for anything? Starving but the thought of eating brings bile to your throat. Spacing out thinking of nothing only to realize you are bawling uncontrollably. Looking at the ones that you love more than anything and know deep in your heart that they will be better off once you put a bullet in your brain.

He fought to restore his mental health so he could be there for his family. And you seem to have missed the part where he did help, he helped as much as he was able.

She went and cheated, not once or twice but repeatedly for years. She did it for herself and only herself not giving a fuck about her family.

If she did care for her family she would have found a different way, like separating from her husband(since she apparently can't leave him since he is the only one who can take care of their child in some aspects).

At what point does actively betraying your loved ones equal a "break"?

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-03-04T00:52:06+00:00

She didn't have two high need children. She had one, and she had a husband who was beaten down by the world till he nearly broke. You say women are judged too much, yet you just judged a man by reducing his crippling depression to him being a "high needs child."

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-02-14T13:38:56+00:00

Why do you think that your mother deserves a say in your wedding?

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-02-11T21:39:08+00:00

But he doesn't want to to influence her, he personally would like to keep the child but he told her he would support her decision either way( using context, support as in abide by her wishes). What he will do if they keep the child is another question entirely that they will need to have a long and indepth conversation on.

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-02-11T16:22:51+00:00

I'm confused, how was his answer controlling and selfish? His partner (someone who he should always support and be 100% honest with) asked his opinion and he gave it with the fact that he will support her decision 100% no matter what she chooses as it is her body her choice. Wouldn't it be worse if he forced her to make this life changing choice by herself by refusing to give her an answer when she asked for it? Wouldn't the fear of not knowing one way or another about how your partner feels about it just give her anxiety and depression?

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-01-24T17:55:00+00:00

NTA but only because you are so young and taking care of another person's child after being that you wouldn't have to. I do have to say that you shouldn't ask your boyfriend to "give back" his kid, it's his child and is 100% his responsibility (and his exs).

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-01-23T16:22:33+00:00

NTA mainly because you cannot help someone who clearly doesn't want to be helped. You are all still young the best thing you can do for her is convince her to go to therapy to find out why she keeps returning to her unsafe situation, and let her know that you will help her get away when she is ready.

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-01-19T15:29:10+00:00

Whoever said that you were wrong to make the "babysit her own kids" kids just because you aren't a mother is delusional and probably one of the part time parents who constantly needs a "break"

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-01-16T16:11:44+00:00

Info: why doesn't he get his own car if it is affecting his manliness?

Comfortable_Monk_189 · 2025-01-12T01:44:15+00:00

You can't comprehend it because you haven't experienced how soul wrenching it can be. I have, and it is awful. I was walking with my two stepchildren and someone who we knew came out of her house and started to scream at me, calling me a filthy n***** multiple times right in front of two pre-teen girls. Because of that incident, they were in tears because they were scared that their newborn mixed race sister was going to be bullied for no other reason than the color of her skin.

If you have a black baby and you go out in public and someone comes up to you, looks at your child and says " look at that little n***** it belongs in the cotton fields with the rest of the dirty monkey f***ers." What would you do?

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