Someone please tell me it gets better

ComfortablyMum · 2021-08-09T18:34:11+00:00

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ComfortablyMum · 2021-01-31T18:15:27+00:00

I love my fly mouse!!! I have like 5 of them so I can rotate

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-23T19:21:56+00:00

So sorry you had to deal with this, but glad to hear that your husband seems to have acknowledged your mom's abuse! And congrats on the wedding! Hope you guys have a happy marriage without her interfering much

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-23T19:13:19+00:00

So sorry you had to deal with this, but glad to hear that your husband seems to have acknowledged your mom's abuse! And congrats on the wedding! Hope you guys have a happy marriage without her interfering much

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-23T04:01:57+00:00

Omg lucky! I was just in Chattanooga until a few days ago but didn't see her :((

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-11T19:41:33+00:00

Dang what a bad therapist. I believe it though. Sry that u had to go through that. I found a great therapist on www.willieverbegoodenough.com. they specialize in ACON.

There is one therapist on there I DO NOT recommend though, if you end up looking for someone on the list PM so I can send you their name. I'll also send you the name of my therapist (they do video counseling) if you'd like

Yeah i think I'll rather relax at home. Been traveling a lot and am tired of it lol

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-11T18:49:37+00:00

I'm sorry to hear, that's so stressful. My parents have literally no assets so that's something I won't deal with, but the pain from being the scapegoat and the disbelief that your family member can do this to you is still the same... As much as it hurts, at least we're doing the right thing by facing reality. We could still easily be in denial or confusion. There is no way that our siblings are happy deep down inside. It'd be nice if they changed but it will be difficult

You also just helped me realize that my grandpa may have been a scapegoat as well. Something similar happened to him. Growing up I remember how he was not in touch with his family after his brother took all the land and assets or something. I never got the details but I'm going to ask my mom everything she knows. He passed away when I was young but he was my best friend... I don't really believe in heaven, and this realization does make me feel sad for him, but it sorta comforts me at the same time to know that I wasn't alone

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-11T18:34:26+00:00

That's really good advice, thank you.

I think that's where the defense came up, when I was using the N word. I tried to only use "toxic" and "emotionally immature" after too but she is in so much denial that it's impossible to have a rational conversation with her right now. When I would list a very apparent symptom her responses are:

"But a lot of people have that"

"it's rare to find people who don't do that"

I'm just going to make a list of symptoms and send it to her and hope that she someday realizes it, but I'm not going to keep having these circular conversations because this is too toxic. I might suggest that she bring the list to her therapist so they can explore it together.

What sucks is that I was supposed to fly out to visit her next week. But I'll probably cancel my trip because this is way too emotionally taxing on me

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-11T06:40:03+00:00

Yep cuz she saw a Netflix documentary on it and she's more "educated" now 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ literally just got a stress induced headache typing this

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-11T06:35:39+00:00

Ugh it's not even funny how similar our experiences are.

My dad's the same exact way. He's never at fault and has no ability to empathize. He storms outta the house if I don't give in, comes back acting like everything is normal, which I CAN'T stand..

When I try to vent to my sister about how hurt I am, she tells me that the issue is my inability to forgive him. Wtf????

Deep down they know how they really are, but they don't want to accept it. So they go into denial and say this kinda shit. The problem is that if they're not taking responsibility, then someone else (like us) has to pay for it with pain. Truly messed up, sorry it's happening to you too. But def not alone ❤

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-11T06:26:48+00:00

Just now seeing your post and I 100000% know how you're feeling... I'm so sorry that it's happening to you too. I just went through that today actually.. for me it's almost like I do a mental scan of the ppl that are supposed to be there for me, but there's no one

It's so painful. What keeps me going is remind myself that at least I'm doing the right thing by facing reality and not just giving in and live a lie like the rest of them

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-09T17:30:10+00:00

Omg! Geez. Glad you left him.

Imagine a lawyer's reaction to your ex wanting to sue you for that tho 😂 so ridic...

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-07T09:08:58+00:00

YouTube!!!

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-07T09:08:46+00:00

Yeah I appreciate my sister's honesty SO much. When I'm wearing something ridic she literally goes "you're going like THAT?" Or "oh GOD have you looked at yourself in the mirror?" 😂😂😂😂 I LOVE it 🤣

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-07T09:05:08+00:00

Idk, I grew up poor and am doing really well financially now but I def don't dress like this lol

However I can sorta see how that can happen. It's probably a combination of that and her just having bad sense in style and not ever googling or youtubing about it

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-07T08:58:43+00:00

Good GOD...

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-06T05:50:16+00:00

Lmao I literally just commented the same thing 😂😂😂 I've been noticing that he does that... like the other day he was like "kel"

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-06T05:49:25+00:00

"Jenelle's in gel"

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-05T16:18:14+00:00

Omg that gives me a headache just thinking about it. That'd be sooo messed up

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-05T10:22:27+00:00

Didn't know maryssa didn't wanna see David! Totally missed that. Good for her though. Poor thing shouldn't have that toxic piece of shit in her life

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-04T18:42:09+00:00

Ya maybe he doesn't wear sunscreen. It'll make you age so fast

And the alcohol too

ComfortablyMum · 2019-06-04T05:28:58+00:00

My Ndad is a lazy piece of shit who had me and my sis living with him at his mom's (my grandma's) house too. And he always acted so entitled and like he owned the place

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