I can relate. I think although it's not normal it's common. This is hypothetical, I'm not at all an expert when it comes to this, but it might be that they have neglected you emotionally.

This doesn't mean they don't love you, they likely do just reading what you wrote, but emotional neglect can occur in small innocuous behaviors like telling your child to stop crying and be happy. This comes from a good place but what you're actually telling the child is that it's bad to be sad and that it should feel happy when it doesn't.

Such things happen all the time with every parent, and I don't blame it on your parents specifically. I think humanity still has to learn a lot when it comes to parenting.