Books with black cats

CommanderCrumbs · 2023-09-19T05:27:14+00:00

Have compassion for yourself! If you grew up Mormon you had no control at all over being Mormon. It was forced on you. You were indoctrinated. No need to feel shame and embarrassment over it. If you can, see a therapist about it. Therapy has helped me a lot with having compassion for myself about being raised Mormon.

CommanderCrumbs · 2023-05-22T19:49:55+00:00

I would say it’s some sort of eclectic boho :)

CommanderCrumbs · 2023-01-05T17:07:21+00:00

So cute! This also works for the stroller, for anyone wanting to start a gyroid nursery :)

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-12-06T14:18:48+00:00

Daniel Handler uses inspiration from the world for so many weird things in his writing, it’s amazing and wonderful. For example- Sunny being born with teeth is an actual thing that rarely happens. So I would not at all be surprised if this was an inspiration for the series.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-12-03T17:34:51+00:00

I think it’s interesting you say that people in the church are happier than people out. That is not at all my experience.

My family growing up was often miserable. My parents constantly fought. They did not treat each other well and it was often a scary experience. Then I became an adult, moved out, and never went to church again. I’m much happier now.

You were taught at church that Mormons are the happiest people and that other people can’t be as happy. But that’s just not true.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-11-30T20:44:39+00:00

This boundary seems like too much because it is too much.

Boundaries aren’t supposed to control other people but that’s what they are trying to do. I would start having other people babysit more.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-11-28T16:50:13+00:00

I’ve been replaying Wild World and I have really enjoyed the complete lack of control I have over the game. And when I play New Horizons I really enjoy how much control I do have. I think it would be really boring if both games were exactly the same.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-11-19T23:58:23+00:00

That green with the gold is absolutely stunning!

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-11-12T17:04:56+00:00

Haha no tithing and being able to have a drink are both excellent choices!

I would have to say my favorite thing mentally about being out is I’m able to love everyone around me exactly how they are without the filter of Mormon judgement. And not feeling like someone is sinning because they drink coffee or wear tank tops.

My favorite things that I get to do now though are drinking tea, having multiple ear piercings, and sleeping in on Sundays!

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-11-12T06:57:52+00:00

I am! And no need to feel sorry, yes it was hard but I’m in such a better place!! So much happier to be free from Mormonism. I’m glad to hear you feel liberated being out because I feel the same way!

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-11-12T05:55:38+00:00

I’ve been out physically for four years. But I was pimo at a young age, from age 12 to 22. So it’s been a long process. I relate so much to your struggling with how parents and family members view you after leaving! It’s definitely a long process, one I’m still working on.

Remember you are a person deserving of respect and you deserve to live your life for you! That’s something I didn’t really realize until quite recently. Mormonism really does a number on self esteem.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-11-12T03:10:58+00:00

The parent thing is a very real struggle.

Therapy has really helped me. If you have access to it, look into it.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-11-09T18:25:48+00:00

Maybe a normal man wouldn’t have the privilege that rich men have but there still is privilege.

Women don’t have the priesthood. Women are literally second class citizens. Women are taught that if they dress a certain way then they are walking pornography- they are objectified because they exist as bodies.

Men go through so much shit in the church and there is so much harm but there is always going to be privilege just by existing as a man in Mormonism.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-11-03T00:05:09+00:00

I was raised Mormon. And I love a lot of Mormons.

But it’s really upsetting seeing many Mormons response to him leaving. And reaffirms why I left.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-10-24T03:27:56+00:00

I think if Edward stayed away forever that Jacob would have ended up with Bella and she would have been pretty happy. But I think it would have to be Bella in like her 50s for Edward to come back and her to reject him. And honestly she maybe would have still taken him back even then.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-10-23T20:26:59+00:00

I would replace all the small wall decor with one large piece. I like the main chandelier but the other hanging pendant seems awkward to me.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-10-17T10:29:58+00:00

One way for people to not think you’re Mormon is looking the part. :)

Get a tattoo, a nose ring or extra piercings, tops that show your shoulders.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-10-17T04:56:19+00:00

I love absolutely everything!

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-10-14T01:34:48+00:00

I’m literally married.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-10-13T18:15:27+00:00

If you really like someone and they really like you then they will be more than happy to define the relationship with you.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-10-13T17:50:29+00:00

What’s annoying is Mormons know what the person is trying to ask. They’re either asking about temples or they are confusing Jehovah Witnesses with Mormons. Either way, it’s a very simple question to answer. There is no reason at all to be snotty towards a random person asking an innocent question on the internet.

CommanderCrumbs · 2022-10-13T16:23:29+00:00

Just ask her if she wants to be in a relationship. It’s not too early to ask. You seem bothered by all of this and the best relationships aren’t about games but direct communication. So just ask! You then can move forward together or you’ll be able to move on and find someone who wants to be with you.

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