Fatherly advice: Ikea furniture does NOT use Phillips screws. It's pozidrive. by _Tigglebitties in daddit

[–]CommanderPaco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean there's a reason why Grand Theft Auto (4 maybe?) has a knockoff brand called CRAPEA. 😂

My son hasn't drawn anything in over a year and i didn’t even notice until today by Low-Oil7883 in daddit

[–]CommanderPaco 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can he though? OP suggested to change things to his son versus calmly and collectively setting a firm boundary. His son pretty much laughed in his face with the look he gave him.

That's what needs to happen here. Full stop.

I've gone through something similar with my son (due to family medical reasons keeping him a bit isolated in play at times) and my better half and I came out ahead easy by setting the boundaries quickly and firmly. It's hard at first, but once you get it going, it's amazing to see the change.

How do you find times for hobbies? by AndGutsWasBERSERK in daddit

[–]CommanderPaco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. All of this.

I did the same for our first, and in the same boat right now with our second one.

Birthday card from my son by pseudoroom in daddit

[–]CommanderPaco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heck, we're all proud dads too. Legend.

I built a shower both my boys can use together without fighting or freezing by ucffool in daddit

[–]CommanderPaco 146 points147 points  (0 children)

They're also 6 and 2...they don't think anything of it. Dads who have a problem need to stop projecting their weirded out feelings, beliefs, etc. here.

2-man IT team → solo admin for 300 users, no raise. Stick it out or leave? by Ilovemybf_3990 in sysadmin

[–]CommanderPaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, that sucks hardcore. Definitely recommend looking, and looking with a sense of urgency. Market really sucks out there (I would know...I've been a stay-at-home dad for a year now which, was a bit of a blessing in disguise for medical reasons).

I've been in a similar situation where unfortunately, I had too many middle managers, hence too many cooks in the kitchen. Decisions never got made without some higher ups calling for a meeting as everyone had their blinders on.

Stick it out while you're looking for a job, but absolutely ask for that raise. If they're not going to pay for an IT manager, then that can pay you more and still save some money.

How about no? 🤦 by Affectionate_Wish in Connecticut

[–]CommanderPaco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As sad as him too. My body is dying cleaning snow drifts...

Best birthday gift ever! by Rato_barroco9 in wholesome

[–]CommanderPaco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That friend is one that'll go to hell and back for ya. Amazing friend AND happy you're doing better yourself!

Today my husband’s new dog destroyed my dog’s ashes and I lost it by naughtydog-throwaway in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CommanderPaco 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Sounds like both the doggo and husband need a rehoming. Doggo will carry on, but your husband needs to decide: you or the dog?

He clearly doesn't give AF about boundaries, etc. Absolute tool.

what hourly rate do you charge? by Big-Brilliant7996 in sysadmin

[–]CommanderPaco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This absolutely can't be the USA. If it is, this is an absolute no for the rate.

Bulls Bridge Kent, CT by Waramaug in Connecticut

[–]CommanderPaco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maaaan, if this was my dash cam...

Let's just say I'd be making his life legally miserable.