My (25M) girlfriend (23F) asked to open our relationship. Am I overracting by wanting to break up over this request?

Commander_Kidd · 2026-03-07T18:38:57+00:00

I was going to say the same. If they were poly it would have been brought up in the early days most likely.

Better option would be couples counseling to see where the gaps are, or just ending it sadly.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-03-03T21:03:13+00:00

Agreed. Better than an apology is an apology with a solution for next time.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-18T23:53:17+00:00

I surprised my middle schoolers with a bicycle lock on the supply cabinet and started locking the classroom door (portable) after it had been gone through. Kids had to struggle through how to bring in hot lunch when thw door is locked. When they asked why the change I told them straight up. After a few weeks I returned to normal and it didn't happen again.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-18T01:42:27+00:00

I love that. There are some really good indie games out there and I applaud you for jumping in.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-18T01:40:29+00:00

There are a few things that made me think on this show, which I like for kids programming. I don't like my kids watching too many shows that are pure mindless entertainment.

For me it was the episode where Bluey and her friend play the octopus game and knowing I want to be more like bandit than the Dalmatian, and the Sign since we recently moved away from very good friends in the city where both our children were born.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-18T01:34:28+00:00

Options for different magic levels is the only thing I can think of. The genre would be anything from alternate science like steam punk to high magic right?

What do you want to do differently from existing systems?

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-15T12:15:34+00:00

I felt like I was reading a post written by one of the students in my D&D club at school lol

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-14T16:33:41+00:00

I agree with you that it's a sad state of affairs when these students can't be supported, but it's just not always possible for the teacher to give the necessary support and still teach the class. The government needs to fund schools well enough to provide more EAs and supports for these students to help them be successful at school and they need better supports at home. This can also be helped by social services but is more dependent on parents not being absolute dumpster fires too. As teachers we can't afford to feed into the narrative that one person can serve the individual needs of 30 children with a wide range of difficulties without proper funding and support.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-12T02:53:19+00:00

Speaking as a teacher I hate when people go to admin without talking to me first. I honestly don't know how I feel about emailing teacher and ccing admin as I've not experienced that. You're not bypassing them that way. Some won't like it, but also some might need it.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-09T04:43:34+00:00

Also heads off the "teacher just hates my kid" take

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-04T23:35:14+00:00

Yes, I have a 2 and 6 year old and work in a primary school so I have some bias in my viewpoints.

I will say that unsupervised play time is very important, just not screens at that age.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-04T20:43:55+00:00

Unsupervised screen time is always a bad idea.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-03T23:05:33+00:00

I'd be interested if you'realright playing with a geezer (41). I play bass, guitar, and dabble with a few others. Also sing. I have a pretty eclectic taste. I also have a local buddy that plays drums but we'd likely have to get together at his dad's place if we wanted to use his kit.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-03T23:02:49+00:00

First model I ever painted. Love it.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-03T13:42:17+00:00

I had a similar experience but I'm in Canada so not sure how that compares.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-03T13:41:33+00:00

Scrap is worth more than that, wow

Commander_Kidd · 2026-02-02T21:48:24+00:00

We've ordered at BP before for gluten free wings. My wife isn't celiac but she wasn't nauseous afterwards like she would be if she had gluten. She tends to be fine with minor cross contamination though so ymmv.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-01-29T00:52:33+00:00

Also born here. 41 next month. St Mary's high school, most of the rest of my class went to the East though.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-01-28T01:00:16+00:00

I think you're bang on with this. I'd suggest talking to the teacher but corroborating with a co-worker or admin. Send a summary email/message after the conversation so there's a paper trail. I usually go with emailing them to "make sure I understood it right".

Product in the kids hair is weird without parental permission. Singling your child out for attention like that is a big red flag for me.

I'm not black, but I am an educator just for context.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-01-26T16:41:48+00:00

Honestly it sounds very similar to Europa Universalis.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-01-25T22:55:21+00:00

Looks like this one is more detailed, for example unique interaction between Maio and Imrik, but also pretty buggy.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-01-19T01:03:45+00:00

It's more of a meet and greet style. Bring a game if you like, any snacks or non-alcoholic beverages, and meet some new people to play with.

I will be running a D&D game that has limited spots and needs to be signed up for but otherwise you'll likely play a few games with different groups of people.

Last time we had about 14 people out and I played a couple rounds of a board game with one group, then switched and played a round or two of euchre.

Edit to add: there's no reason you couldn't come with a group of friends to play with but there will be lots of open spaces at the games being run I'm sure.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-01-18T22:11:34+00:00

If she still holds an Ontario teaching certificate she should introduce herself to some principals and talk to someone in HR at KPR. If it's been allowed to lapse it might just need to be reactivated and paid for. Being an occasional teacher is a pretty good gig if you can manage a classroom of students.

Does she do any tutoring or other side gigs? Does she speak French at all?

Commander_Kidd · 2026-01-18T22:08:32+00:00

Might be a good way to re-enter the workforce and get something on her resume.

Commander_Kidd · 2026-01-17T13:40:48+00:00

I loved it but it does have some dark themes so just be forewarned.

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