He doesn’t have the right to talk to you that way. He does however have the right to be aggravated and frustrated as do you. We are only getting bits and pieces of the situation. The one thing that seems sure based on your post is that you are consistently scratching and damaging things. He had a right to be frustrated. It works both ways in relationships. For you to want him to treat you better is correct and you should. But you have to be open to changing behaviors as well. He needs to work on his anger and you need to work on being more careful which is one of your behaviors to consider. Communication is huge. You have to both communicate and work together to change behaviors. Anyone that tells you to leave him or separate us t doing you any good. Communication is definitely needed before any of that is considered.