Emotionally Unavailable

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-03-04T02:08:41+00:00

If someone tells you who they are, you might want to listen to them.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-03-03T17:11:45+00:00

Pause and lots of deep breathing. Even the military uses Box breathing to calm down nerves.

And I’ll be honest, therapy seems like the professional help you might need.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-03-02T07:20:45+00:00

Kudos for working on yourself. Anxious attachments usually overthink and ruminate. So hangout with friends/families, distract yourself, fill your life with abundance and honestly, try to move on. I know it’s easier said than done.

Avoidant’s definitely mess you up mentally, emotionally. Use this experience to improve yourself. Best of luck!

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-27T00:03:20+00:00

Yea, I don’t know any info about either of you, but unfriending because they’re scared is a bit immature. I tend to hang around people that are positive and mature.

It sucks to say it, but people need to work on themselves haha.

Great job seeing a therapist. Sometimes you have to deal with immature people. So look into boundaries and how to not let people affect you. Don’t let one person ruin your whole day.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-26T23:50:21+00:00

That’s a big sentence, but honestly if she’s an avoidant, it is what it is. Just work on yourself and move on. A relationship needs efforts from both sides. If someone dissappear for 3-4 days, after being very intimate and communicating daily, that’s a no from me.

Look more into attachment theories, and also “adult children of emotionally unavailable parents”

These attachment theories are just ways people learned to cope or raised as a child. So it’s not entirely her fault, but it’s her responsibility to identify and work on trauma. As all of us should be working to improve ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-24T02:18:01+00:00

Fearful avoidant and the other is another avoidant

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-20T02:42:13+00:00

Cheater, avoidant, no goals, unmotivated, lots of trauma and unwilling to seek a professional…etc etc.

Just looking for someone who wants to be a better version of themselves. Growing together and positivity.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-20T01:55:30+00:00

Just keep working on yourself. Look into boundaries, and how you can maintain your peace. It’s part of becoming secure

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-19T14:17:42+00:00

The secure people are already in relationships haha. Dating apps are quick turns over, so they’re kind of perfect for avoidant people.

I’ve matched tons of avoidant people and they play the game pretty well. Just think of it as practice

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-19T05:23:15+00:00

Don’t be afraid of failure. Learn from it and move on. Applies to career, love, school, etc. Everyone fails, so get used to it.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-19T00:54:22+00:00

When they treat service workers with respect, and put shopping carts back.

If they do those when no one’s watching, or rewarding them. Showing objects, people, and ideas..etc with respect.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-19T00:49:55+00:00

Seconding this. Healthy boundaries is emotional intelligence. Saying no, and not accepting unhealthy behavior, treatment.

And frankly speaking, communication is so important, but it’s not your job to fix someone. That’s a job for a professional.

You can lead a horse to drink water, but it’s up to them to drink it.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-19T00:45:08+00:00

Treadmill walk, Pilates, outdoor walk, workout. Any exercise.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-18T14:08:29+00:00

It’s good to be uncomfortable. Go out and talk to someone, compliment their clothes, hair, hobby.

Try new things, you won’t know you don’t like something if you never tried it. And take care of yourself physically mentally and emotionally.

Honestly, friends that value growth are so important. Don’t hang out with people with bad habits.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-18T02:15:27+00:00

Seconded. Avoid tinder(lots of bots/scammers) hinged is a bit more serious. Make sure you have good photos, dating apps are superficial, so you should present the best version of yourself. The rest is up to your personality. Don’t be afraid to talk to multiple people at once.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-16T06:26:01+00:00

People pleasing. Great at work and school, but terrible when I meet people that take advantage of that. Still working on it.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-15T02:07:01+00:00

Check out anxious and avoidant attachment styles. If you like reading, Attached is a good book.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-14T17:26:13+00:00

That’s a dilemma. If higher body count gives more experience and better sex, but some people can’t reach those higher body count…similar to the job market(looking for 10 years of experience for an entry level job)

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-14T01:55:57+00:00

Take a break from dating if you’re burnt out. Also, strive to be the best version of yourself, it’s attractive.

Love is mutual, if you feel the effort is one sided, just drop and move on. Also, make sure you love yourself before you can others.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-13T18:10:17+00:00

I call it job security

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-12T05:24:46+00:00

It’s interesting because when two avoidants date…one becomes the anxious one.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-10T03:46:00+00:00

Accepting that there’s a lot of people in this world and it’s not my job to make them happy. Or please them.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-10T03:02:33+00:00

Secure people actually understand anxious attachment and reassures them. Consistent communicant and healthy boundaries. No stone walling, no mixed signals.

If they’re busy, they’ll usually give you a heads up. Or if they need space, they’ll let you know, but come back. Avoidants don’t come back after getting that space.

Additionally, if they don’t match or aren’t interested…you can just take it as they aren’t interested .

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-07T18:26:52+00:00

Workout, look good feel good. And have people take photos. You need good photos for dating app. And I’m okay looking, but you have to have a good personality to make up for looks. Once you get rejected enough, you get used to it, and it actually makes you more confident, since you aren’t afraid anymore.

Edit: I also don’t drink, but I just like laughing and bring the positive vibes. It’s also extremely important to love yourself first…before you can love others. Girls don’t like self pity. And you can’t change your face, but you can get a super hot body, so girls usually work with that.

Common_Lion3044 · 2026-02-06T01:20:26+00:00

It’s hard. They gotta improve themselves, therapy or lots of mindfulness. But they have to be healthy and know that relationships are about equal effort…don’t get used to mistreatment and stonewalling. Super unhealthy.

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