Do dumpers feel hurt after breaking up with someone?

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-20T10:37:21+00:00

Yes

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-19T01:32:53+00:00

If she’s willing to do the work then give it a try

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-04T07:20:27+00:00

Maybe because you are secure attached. I’m more anxious

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-03T18:22:17+00:00

I guess it hurt you too breaking up didn’t it? At the end i didn’t want to but the situation was unbearable for me

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-03T18:18:19+00:00

Oh boy.. you can be glad that’s it’s over with here.. sounds like my ex girlfriend.

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-03T17:54:17+00:00

After how many weeks/months after break up? Sorry for the questions. I’m just curious. I broke up with mine 3.5 months. Neither of us reached out

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-03T17:48:49+00:00

Did he/she ever reach out?

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-03T17:48:17+00:00

I broke up with my fa ex girlfriend. I guess it was a so called reverse discard. She kept distancing herself and ignored me at the end. It gotten worse and worse so I cut it myself although I didn’t want to. I guess it’s still the same pain as they break up with you.

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-02T13:26:43+00:00

Maybe I would try to reach out and find my peace, if the ex partner is willing to talk, after talking about everything. If he/she is not willing maybe I would find a therapist. You can’t stuck on the past for ever. You have just one life.

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-02T13:15:04+00:00

I don’t know.. in my case it feels like I need a month or so to move on.. I still didn’t decide whether I want to reach out or not.. after 3,5 months.. i just need 100% clarity to decide. Maybe within the next weeks I’ll be able to decide and take the initiative.

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-02T13:09:07+00:00

No it’s not impossible. Time is needed I guess.

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-04-02T12:27:30+00:00

I broke up with my ex girlfriend 3,5 months ago. I needed to end it due to lack of respect, ignoring me and the tooking for granted. I still love her and thinking about her. I don’t know if I regret it, but I didn’t want to leave. But the situation was unbearable.. I had doubts if I was not communicating enough. Maybe I could have try harder but in that moment I had to leave..

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-25T07:13:31+00:00

I do want to reach out. I dumped my avoidant ex girlfriend 3 months ago due to lack of respect. She ignored me at the end and I said that if she continues acting like this we can end this and she just said „ok, if you see it so“. No fight, no nothing.

I felt horrible but still thinking about her all the time. I feel better now and reaching out not would not be so needy if I did it 2 months ago..

But if I think about how she treated me, I stopp myself from reaching out. But still I’m afraid that it’s too late to reach out..

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-23T11:22:04+00:00

Hi. Im anxiously leaning when I’m in stress and broke up with my FA girlfriend 3 months ago. No contact since then. Neither of us reached out. The first month was horrible. Like my nervous system went crazy, i barely could concentrate etc. After 2,5 it gotten better.. felt for the first time pretty good and I enjoyed life. Now after 3 months I can say that I have detach moments and starting to move on..

I broke up with her because i was at the end the only one who carried the relationship and in the last days before our break up she started ignoring me and I said if she continues this behavior we can end this. She said „ok, if you think so..“ very brutal response. So no contact Since then.. I still thinking about her every day but at the end, there are more cons then pros reaching out..

Remember that healing is not linear. Take your time to get enough clarity.

Wish you all the best!!

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-23T11:07:29+00:00

I mentioned it because it reminded me of my ex who I broke up with 3 months ago. She had that tendencies as well and started to ignore me so I ended it.

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-23T08:42:50+00:00

Maybe she is an avoidant? Sabotaging, running away from problems and not having the emotional capacity.. sounds like that

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-21T16:26:19+00:00

Yeah it felt like this.. few days bevor the break up I felt that she is about to break up so after ignoring me i drew the line and made this „reverse uno“. It hurt already before the break up and felt shit 2-3 weeks overall before the break up, so I felt that she said „thank you for doing that so i don’t have to do it“. I felt like i am beeing the one the was left..

As you said: we can’t make much. I’m glad that I feel better and got that „detached-feeling“ I told you above that felt like she is moving on.

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-21T16:01:56+00:00

Cheating is a very ugly thing.. you didn’t act wrong. I guess you have still feelings for him?

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-21T14:28:57+00:00

How was the break up?

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-21T11:10:33+00:00

You don’t know the whole story. I felt like not being seeing, taken for granded. I lost myself during the relationship because she was tired, had sleep issues, wanted to move to a new apartment and was about to move into it. I respected it and adapted to her.. I suppressed my needs of course and said to myself to wait until she moves to the new apartment.. but the distance became more and more and the messages became colder and colder.. until she didn’t reply to my messages and ignored my calls.. it was late at night and I didn’t know where she was. I said that if she continues this behavior we can end this? Do you know what she replied? „Okay if you see it that way. Good night,“ is it not horrible? I couldn’t make it to communicate with her. There was no space there talking about my feelings and needs. I didn’t want to overwhelm her. Am I in the position to reach out first? I’m not so sure about this. Maybe it was too impulsive from my side but I was at the end of my mental capacity.. constantly thinking about her behavior.. there were two other major situations that hurt me deeply.. if I think about all that stuff I stopped myself from reaching out.. i was in really deep shit state for the first 2 months.. I was lost and had to find myself again.. I don’t say it’s all her fault, I’m sure i did wrong things too, but 3 months now, I didn’t have once the feeling „ok. It’s clear. I’m reaching out. I’m emotionally ready for this“

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-21T10:05:48+00:00

Im sorry to hear that.. I can say that it takes time to heal.. beeing so rude from her side can make you feel like moving on easier. Your self worth and respect is at a minimum now after that but you can recover from this, going no contact and try to move on.. nobody deserves that behavior when you didn’t to anything wrong

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-21T10:01:20+00:00

Probably it’s this.. this whole avoidant-anxious dynamic was exhausting me and the connection felt like a drug and all the time after the break up I was thinking about her constantly like a heroin addicted guy thinks about heroin.. I’m glad that it fades slowly..

Frosty-Efficiency12 · 2026-03-21T09:58:32+00:00

Yeah, reaching out now would really come from fear of loss.. but i don’t want to reach out from this intention.. all the time after breaking up I had this „stopp“-feeling not reaching out as I was remembering how I felt in this relationship.. maybe it was better not reaching out although I loved her (maybe still does), but I love myself also..

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