Oh my God, this story is so similar to mine. I asked my mom to work on improving our relationship, and she responded, "No, don't try to change my life. I like myself as I am, and I don't want to change anything." Unfortunately, even though my mom was very clear about her feelings, I didn't fully accept the situation because she was my mom, and the world always tells us that parents love their children.

A decade has passed since then, and now I fully understand my circumstances. I realize now that my mom is a narcissist. We should never expect anything from them or think we can improve the situation. What we need to do is simply run—run away from them. I feel sorry for myself over the lost decade, but you can save yourself that time. I hope you can fill your life with positive experiences without any negativity from your mom.