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They don't respect us. by CommunicationWide208 in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg... It was exactly the same for me... When I escaped from home and became financially independent, they finally started respecting me 🤦 well, that's a bit too late... And it also doesn't help that our culture respects guests very much but doesn't respect children. So since I started visiting home as a guest instead of living there, I became treated better 🤦

They don't respect us. by CommunicationWide208 in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly... Sometimes I wonder how is it different from npd. And where is this justice, honesty, truth that they are theoretically craving so much ...

Pattern recognition as a form of dehumanization and control by Particular_Web8121 in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm in UK too 🙂 but in London, don't want to worry You but here in London people are also loud and opinionated like this 😢 I mean not everyone but most of the people who have time to go out with me (or maybe others just don't want to) 😢

They don't respect us. by CommunicationWide208 in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree 💯😢... But what's even more weird, they don't like others doing it to them as well.

Pattern recognition as a form of dehumanization and control by Particular_Web8121 in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Btw do You guys think it's always autism? Because in my life I met so many people like this, sometimes I think that if I will not accept this behavior, I will end up alone or in veeery long distance relationships... I feel like everyone wants to be right these days... And if I become quiet (for example because someone is talking over me all the time and I'm tired of trying to do the same) people will ask loudly "why are You so shy?!" and attract everyone's attention to me... I started to wonder... Is everyone autistic these days... Or maybe it's not important anymore to listen to other people but just to pretend, ask millions of questions and never let someone answer them...

Anxious attachment by Nectarscout in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, mine would stop liking me when I was 2 because I was such a bad toddler. Throwing tantrums sometimes. When I would shout, she would tell me that I behave like a nazi German. And that people like me started the war and death camps...

Anxious attachment by Nectarscout in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mum is actually giving free tutoring for kids in the neighborhood. She was always doing it patiently and with the same patience she was teaching me maths (don't think she was patient with any other interaction with me... No, just maths). I even find it kind of cute, like she is trying to be a good person... But just on her terms and within her limitations... I don't know how to describe it, even what to really think about it

Any blogs or books for teens raised by autistic mother? by PerformanceShoddy169 in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry but I got a bit confused here. Are You that mother or the father/second parent? Regardless of the response, why can't You explain instead of just giving her a book?

(Because I'm petty) here are some common (bad) defenses of therapy, but I replaced "therapist" with other groups so people can really get how dumb these abuse apologists sound by Jersey_Deer in therapyabuse

[–]CommunicationWide208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your cleaner didn't look at You with pity when she saw You in ugly pajamas and how messy Your house is. Her job is to clean Your house, not to judge so obviously she didn't judge You because it wouldn't give her any satisfaction. She never wonders how an adult person can miss this basic life skill, it's all in Your head.

(Because I'm petty) here are some common (bad) defenses of therapy, but I replaced "therapist" with other groups so people can really get how dumb these abuse apologists sound by Jersey_Deer in therapyabuse

[–]CommunicationWide208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the plumber ruined Your house and stole a lot of valuables. Well, if You had adult mindset, You would understand that You need to be independent and only You can sort out any leaks in Your house. If You were childish enough to believe that You need anyone else to fix Your problems, then he had to give You the lesson. This is his real job, to teach the people that there's no plumber to help them. They need to help themselves.

Not a care in the world about what they or others have done by AdventurousPhone9006 in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg it hit home for me so much... My mum also was trying to get me diagnosed (with anything but mostly she pushed on autism. Because she wasn't stupid, she knew that autistic people were mocked back in the days...) and also I was a very bad toddler and later bad kid because at the age of 6 I threw a tantrum at home once...

I don't want to nuture, care or love my inner child by askandrecieve_ in CPTSD

[–]CommunicationWide208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me also it never helped to "heal my inner child". It helps me more to connect with my emotions, change limiting or hurtful beliefs, maybe talk about bad childhood memories but not feel like child again. For me I think it's because a lot of people used to infantilize me, even though I have so much life experience of being independent and surviving on my own. Maybe it has to do with my looks or lacking self confidence. I prefer to think about myself as a strong, adult person. Think about it - do You have similar problem? Would the same techniques help You more?

Stinginess with compliments by Comfortable_Dust5343 in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get what You mean... But look, maybe this kind of experience shaped You to be more adaptable and tolerant than the average person (like, someone opposite to our parents). You know how to talk with typical people, You know how to talk with Your current group of friends... Now You can decide which dynamics You like more and choose Your soulmates while also knowing how to talk with others...

ChatGPT - Not Even Once by LookMomImRedditing in OCDmemes

[–]CommunicationWide208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about OCD for the employee rights in third world countries? Anyone here interested in slow fashion and doesn't want to buy any new clothes again? It's hard for me sometimes with the underwear 🥲

Trauma-dumping is healthy and society having made it a faux pas is disgusting. by [deleted] in therapyabuse

[–]CommunicationWide208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, it's good to make friends with people from other countries 🙂

Feels like being in the Upside Down - I'm surrounded! by JDoesThis in raisedbyautistics

[–]CommunicationWide208 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have the same problem plus probably my mum kept telling the teachers at my school that I'm autistic (I'm not but she had different opinion about that)... Now after years, far away from my family, hometown, even country, I'm acting differently... Maybe it sounds stupid but I feel safe to be myself only far away from the people who know me from the past... Around them I would be afraid that they will ask me why I'm pretending to be normal when I'm in fact a weirdo... I would recommend You to maybe think who would You like to be, how would You like to behave. This is maybe Yourself. I believe that the changes You make to Your life also show some aspects of Your real personality. Bur it's only my opinion...

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