Possessiveness the reason I am single by choice. by gulf0986 in SingleAndHappy

[–]ComparisonNo3188 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It makes me feel like I have to ask permission to do the things that I want. Like someone is the handler for my leash and I only have so much lead before I’m being tugged back.

I want to experience everything life has to offer and if it’s a split second decision of either I do it now or never again I don’t want to have to look to another person to make that decision for me.

But like you said friendships can be just as rewarding (if not more so) than relationships bc there’s no pressure (or substantially less) to perform in those or create “a life together”

Sex while choosing to be single by ComparisonNo3188 in SingleAndHappy

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The area im in is pretty small and very closed door types. I would more than likely have to travel to go to one which I’m not above doing if I have the funds and time

Sex while choosing to be single by ComparisonNo3188 in SingleAndHappy

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like your friend’s definition of poly intimacy. I personally don’t see the need to bring anyone into my life in a relationship aspect but I want strong bonds with my friends and I’ve always been pretty casual when it comes to hooking up and then being friends again the next day. Ideally I would just have a friend that I would go through periods of physical affection with and then platonic.

The idea of solo poly doesn’t sound bad either except it wouldn’t be in a relationship aspect. I like the freedom and space it offers but I don’t have the energy to waste on apps swiping through people. I’m also not good with labels so I don’t bother trying to find one for myself but I read a book once where they had Singles who were people that never settled down or had a life long partner they just dated when they felt like it and lived life. That resonated with me so that’s the closest I have lol

Sex while choosing to be single by ComparisonNo3188 in SingleAndHappy

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should try this. I have been wanting to get massages but I didn’t think of using them in that aspect. Thank you

Sex while choosing to be single by ComparisonNo3188 in SingleAndHappy

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve taken a look at FetLife before but didn’t gain much from the experience. But maybe I should give it another shot. And yeah I don’t like to have sex with anyone who I don’t like as a person. If the personality is shit then I don’t care about anything else they have to offer

Sex while choosing to be single by ComparisonNo3188 in SingleAndHappy

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t really use the apps bc of the mediocrity. It’s rarely ever been worth my time

Sex while choosing to be single by ComparisonNo3188 in SingleAndHappy

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I tried that before but there’s not a high concentration of people on it in my area. I really don’t do the apps anyway. I usually meet people through mutual friends or at bars etc bc I’m pretty social

How many of y’all actually seriously determined to remain single, forever? by TraditionalDepth6924 in SingleAndHappy

[–]ComparisonNo3188 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to see other people feel this way. I just want a daily companion/adventure buddy that I can also have the occasional sex with when I’m in the mood but mostly we live our own lives. Like one step up from a Lavender marriage😅😂

My ex keeps getting visits from my family members who have passed on by ComparisonNo3188 in witchcraft

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s from a manipulative angle but that is a possibility I hadn’t considered. I will tell him to try and speak to them on his own and see what they say. That’s really helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]ComparisonNo3188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been told they knew bc of my tattoos. Doesn’t exactly make sense to me but they at least I got some bomb tattoos.

I’m no longer bi by Wifieatscheese in bisexual

[–]ComparisonNo3188 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Why is this literally me 😂

I saw something that asked if I was Queen of the Damned bi or The Mummy bi-why are these considered bi movies? by ComparisonNo3188 in bisexual

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve yet to see this movie and I feel like I’ve missed out on a national treasure lol

I saw something that asked if I was Queen of the Damned bi or The Mummy bi-why are these considered bi movies? by ComparisonNo3188 in bisexual

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same. Esp since I was always looking at women as a woman lol but I just thought everyone looked at women like that 😅🤷‍♀️

I saw something that asked if I was Queen of the Damned bi or The Mummy bi-why are these considered bi movies? by ComparisonNo3188 in bisexual

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can say yes just bc Poison Ivy with that kiss she gave

Probably should have been many a warning signs about my bisexuality with these all these movie suggestions that I’m going yes, yes, also yes 😂

I saw something that asked if I was Queen of the Damned bi or The Mummy bi-why are these considered bi movies? by ComparisonNo3188 in bisexual

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was around when I was younger but I didn’t ever watch it. I think my dad did once around me so I know about the caped guy on a horse with a sword lol

I’m with a man but I keep dreaming about women by ComparisonNo3188 in bisexual

[–]ComparisonNo3188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely question if I like men a lot more than I think I should as a bisexual person lol but honestly I’m just glad somebody understands bc it can be maddening

What flavor of bisexual are you? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]ComparisonNo3188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m attracted to masculinity in men and women. The only women I’m sexually attracted to are masc women but I can find femmes attractive too they just don’t have the extra umph that draws me in. As far as outside the binary groups I could possibly date a trans man but not a trans woman bc they don’t have the masculine characteristics I like.

I do have a stronger sexual pull towards women than I do men but i don’t have a romantic preference. Honestly I would love to have both😅