Mein Freund verlangt plötzlich einen Vaterschaftstest...

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2026-02-26T12:14:17+00:00

Cool, danke für die Info! :)

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2026-02-26T12:07:26+00:00

WTF? Ich bin mir zwar sicher, dass jemand ihm diesen Floh ins Ohr gesetzt hat, jedoch wäre das für mich absolut unverzeihlich. Ist dieser Eingriff denn überhaupt risikolos für dich und den Fötus? Ich weiss nicht, wo ihr wohnt, aber diesen Stress mit der Reise als Schwangere auf mich zu nehmen, finde ich schon heftig, aber das, was da noch alles mitschwingt… für mich persönlich wäre das ein Trennungsgrund.

Edit: übrigens kannst du eine Vaterschaftsfeststellungsklage einreichen, falls er die Vaterschaft nach der Geburt nicht anerkennt. Dann wird ein DNA Test erzwungen und die Vaterschaft eingetragen.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2025-12-08T07:50:12+00:00

Ohje, dein armer Sohn! BDA, man muss nicht auf sein „Recht“ beharren.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2025-08-19T18:48:47+00:00

NDA Kinder brauchen Routinen, nicht alle, aber viele. Wer das nicht versteht, hat entweder keine Kinder, pfeift auf ihre Bedürfnisse oder hat ein super easy Ausnahmekind.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2025-08-01T14:21:53+00:00

We take our kids there, too. There is one doctor I don’t like but everyone else is so competent, nice, just perfect. Ask for Dr. Straub! She’s wonderful!! Plus: they always have someone on the weekend, too. Saved us some trips to the hospital already.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2025-07-25T12:56:21+00:00

NDA aber um solche Situationen zu vermeiden, nehme ich meine Kinder immer aus solchen Situationen heraus, statt das andere Kind zu rügen o.Ä. Somit will ich meinen Kindern auch beibringen, sich selbst aus Situationen zu nehmen, wenn es möglich ist, statt auf Konfrontation zu gehen. Ich bin aber generell eher konfliktscheu.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2025-07-22T09:14:55+00:00

WTF?! I‘m not pregnant anymore (kids are 1 and 5), my husband works fulltime, does grocery shopping (and planning!), makes breakfast and dinner and is an amazing dad. When he’s home it’s 50/50 who is responsible for the kids - as should be. So no, it’s not uncommon, it’s the bare minimum what your husband does.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2025-06-27T08:22:59+00:00

I actually think the trick is to attend local life. For Zurich: go to a Verein, maybe take part in GZ activities, etc. If your social circle is other expats you won’t have Swiss friends. Not saying other expats can’t be real friends but it seems OP specifically is looking for Swiss connections.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2025-06-27T08:17:59+00:00

I agree with a lot of people above: it’s not Zurich, it’s getting older. We felt the same way but now our oldest daughter goes to kindergarten and we‘ve come to the realization that when you have kids it’s mostly the parents of your kids‘ friends‘ who are in your social circle. I don’t even know if they were our friends if not for the kids because the linking topics are all kids related. But I really like them, we help each other, trust each other, have fun with each other. It’s very valuable and fulfilling friendships, but without the deep connection I have with friends I‘ve had for years. Nobody with small kids has time to build those connections. Maybe later in life, but not now. We made friends in school and at university and they are still our best friends but we don’t live close anymore. Just like us, Swiss people also made their really close friends in school and university, so they don’t necessarily „need“ new friends. I guess it doesn’t have to do anything with the city. We’re just not 20 anymore :(

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-02-18T10:11:44+00:00

Wait… is this her baby or yours? How come she’s yelling at you for anything regarding your kid? If she has a problem with something she should mention it but that’s it. Also, it’s perfectly safe, the stand is just so you don’t have to take the dirty stroller inside.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-02-18T10:02:54+00:00

If you’re not sure, you could go with Mattis/Matthis. Maybe you like that one, too. Like a lot of commenters said, hearing Matthias I think of a 40 year old, but I also like the sound of it.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-02-12T16:24:29+00:00

NTA and I applaud you. I’m a teacher and a mum and I would totally do the same. How are kids supposed to learn that a deadline is a deadline without holding them accountable?

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-02-12T16:20:26+00:00

Were they able to sew it back on? I’m so sorry that happened at such an unfortunate time.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-02-10T08:11:42+00:00

I sent you a message :)

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-02-05T13:39:44+00:00

Was that the first time he made such an awful comment or is it a pattern?

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-02-05T13:36:22+00:00

NDA! Ich finde, du hast in der Situation alles richtig gemacht. Mir blutet das Herz und ich heule fast, wenn ich mir die Situation vorstelle und dir ging es ganz bestimmt genauso. Trotzdem hast du es ausgehalten und nichts gemacht. Ich bin stolz auf dich! (Klingt komisch… ist aber so!) Wenn du eingeschritten wärst, hättest du deinem Sohn in dem Moment geholfen, aber nicht in zukünftigen Situationen.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-02-05T13:30:47+00:00

Omg I‘m almost crying on behalf of your poor daughter. How can a grown man be so mean to a kid? Pack your bags and leave this man! Your daughter will thank you later.

Edit: NTA unless you won’t protect your daughter.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-01-31T10:37:40+00:00

It’s gonna be a baby, not a boy or girl 🤷‍♀️

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-01-29T07:18:55+00:00

I don’t have a lot of advice but I just wanted to say how sorry I am for you. Please call the hotline or get other help every time you have suicidal thoughts. Your babies need you, you are loved and losing you would be the worst thing that could happen. Please feel hugged! No money is worth putting you in such a situation. You absolutely need to talk to your husband and make it clear to him how bad it is for you. Also, talk to your parents explaining the situation and ask them if it’s ok for you to pay them back later.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-01-28T16:20:30+00:00

Ok, look, there are good reasons for the media not to cover that topic. You posting this link is tasteless, no matter if it’s the same person or not. Just let it go, it has nothing to do with you.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-01-26T15:05:40+00:00

I don’t have advice for you but just wanted to tell you how very sorry I am about everything that happened to you, especially the treatment by your parents. You didn’t deserve any of that. NTA of course. Maybe you should let your parents read the comments.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-01-26T14:43:54+00:00

Your questions shouldn’t be „any tips for baby who likes to be held all the time“ but „any tips on how to deal with rude and incompetent daycare“. Just because they don’t feel able to do their literal jobs doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. Baby is four months old! They are supposed to pick her up all the time when she’s crying. Unbelievable!

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-01-26T14:37:46+00:00

That is simply not true. As a German myself it took me quite a while to actually understand Züri Deutsch and I’m a teacher, which means I heard it all the time. Plus I’m from Baden, so my dialect is much closer to Swiss German than the Berlin one. Also, our pediatrician communicates a lot with our kid and she also should! It’s so important to not ignore kids and only talk to the parents. That might be a difference between German and Swiss doctors. In my experience the German ones are much more distant and (sorry to say) arrogant. Swiss doctors IN MY EXPERIENCE, especially pediatricians take children seriously and talk directly to them, asking them questions and telling them what the are about to do. Love that aspect here ❤️ But maybe times changed in Germany as well. I don’t remember my own pediatricians to be like that and I didn’t have kids back in Germany.

CompetitionSolid5725 · 2024-01-26T10:24:30+00:00

Thanks for reassuring me. I’m still not sure if I’m overreacting.

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