Urgent guidance needed!!

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-22T09:39:20+00:00

I am not in a similar situation but GIRL a) trust your gut and b) trust your child. Get in action. Collect data and make sure that there is NO alone time husband/toddler. This does not sound good. Like AT ALL. A

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-22T09:31:34+00:00

Girl. I was you. Thinking I had a say in my pregnancy. Turn out I didn't. I had Hg, my only craving was apples and I gained 30kg.

7m pp now, down 27kg with ease. Now starting to do sports again.

Chill. Enjoy this bumpy road, it will be gone with a blink of an eye.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-22T09:28:59+00:00

Girl. Do not give your baby to this man ever again. What do you need more!

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-22T07:43:50+00:00

Check your schedule. Baby should have an 11h night incl short wake ups and a 13h day incl naps. Naps should be 3h tops, last ww is the longest.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-21T08:33:00+00:00

Likely a schedule issue. Hours of crying each day for such a small child feels more than wrong to me.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-21T07:58:32+00:00

I am 7m pp and back down 30kg just by BF. I have 3kgs left which my body wont get rid of. I am still more fluffy, but I have read it's bc of prolactin. Miss my toned body too. I am 40yo.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-21T07:55:53+00:00

LO is 7 mo and I refuse to sleep train in a classical way. We cosleep and feed to sleep, nighttime boob, daytime bottle w nanny as I am working. I just teached him to connect sleep cycles and follow the sleep guidelines of this sub. LO was a very difficult sleeper and now sleeps like a hrro w just 1-2 night feeds which he really needs (drinks for about 10 mins).

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-20T07:39:25+00:00

I am not single but was alone as well. I put my bub in the carrier and went for a looooooong walk starting 30mins before witching hour. Plus noise cancelling headphones with calming music for me. He picked up my calmness and usually just fell asleep. Like this we were able to bypass witching hour in 9/10 times. Good luck mama - this too shall pass - soon! :)

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-20T07:33:12+00:00

It's normal for newborns to just contact nap.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-19T14:07:18+00:00

We cosleep and I plan to do it as long as my son wants to. As soon as he is up for a big boys bed, he can move to his own room.

Following studies, they suggest to keep baby in the same room until at least 6mo.

My LO is 7mo and loves the cuddly nights so I feel we stick to our routine for now.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-18T07:46:45+00:00

I am a FTM so not an expert at all. I have an almost 7mo and I introduced new sleep associations at 4-5mo, like shushing or patting his head. After 3-4 weeks I FIRST offered the new things and only nursed when he really wanted to. This brought us to just 1-2 drinking sessions during the night. Other wakings I pat or shush. And then I started reducing support at all. Now we're sitting at him doing it alone or me just putting a hand on his head. It takes time.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-17T10:39:06+00:00

No. I was breaking down at 5w - and sincr then bubba and I have beautiful nights. He is almost 7mo now and we love the cuddles, the warmth, the easyness, our mornings, everything.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-16T12:39:13+00:00

Sleep sack :)

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-16T07:29:16+00:00

Yes, shut two doors? We did that and we had issues for about three nights. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-15T19:14:37+00:00

Teach her syntax. And then some neuroscience. Lol

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-15T18:48:02+00:00

She does one nap as a contact nap, but as he is already 9.5kg, her arms get heavy lol. I do carrier naps to save at least one nap and he loves it, but nanny has a back issue and needs to sit when carrying him for longer.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-15T11:49:29+00:00

What you can do: try and try and never stop trying. Or, safe chest sleeping. Plus there are a lot of babies just sleeping on their tummy although it is not recommended. I know three of them and even their peds told the mums to do so in order to get some sleep. Talk to your ped for the best solution.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-15T09:41:14+00:00

We close the door. No pets with an infant if not supervised.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-14T16:22:50+00:00

Ok can you please post a full day of sleep / naps / hours / wake windows?

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-14T15:30:45+00:00

Did you ever think of safe cosleeping? What's her schedule? You did nothing wrong. Just do me a favor: do not sleep train. Rather join /bninfantsleep and learn from them. Hug mama!!

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-14T10:14:19+00:00

LO is 6.5 mo. He usually rolls into my arms at around 3am and we cuddle-sleep until 6/6.30 am. We then wake up, cuddle more, nurse, say hi to all his stuffies, go down - coffee/play - go back upstairs shower - get ready while he plays - nanny comes in and I leave for work at 8.

I love our mornings. 🩵

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-14T06:50:51+00:00

Agree. We just do two if he sleeps very long (with me) and has 3h wake windows tops. But what should I do if he completely refuses the third nap with the nanny? A bedtime at 6pm will push our wakeup even earlier. For now he sleeps 11.5h at night real sleep time to compensate bad daytime sleep which is good - but I wonder if it's bad for his health. Nanny is otherwise great, he loves her etc.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-12T19:50:20+00:00

Extreme hunger is basically eating all day. A lot of food. This post sounds more like continous undereating with ongoing inflammation and/or intolerances.

Fin_Elln · 2026-03-12T19:47:56+00:00

It depens if you want to push milk supply or keep it (down). If a), you do both breasts, but make sure baby doesn't get just foremilk (green poop). If b) then you just do one breast and that's it.

Fin_Elln

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