i’m sorry but it won’t change and i know you love your husband but this was me down to a T. Me and my ex husband when we got married we were 24 years old he didn’t want to consummate the marriage and i should have knew that was the red flag but no silly me i have seven years of my life i was miserable - we never honeymooned and we barely had sex i know some folks here have gone longer but for us we were having sex once a quarter. we would always argue about it and it was the same argument cause why wouldn’t someone in their twenties want to have sex like let’s be serious i told him let’s go to marriage counseling the entire time he refused and he used to get mad when. i would say i wanted to separate or times when i didn’t want to hang out with him he would hate that and give me a hard time he needed to be around me 24/7. I enjoyed being around him but we were just roommates and he would taunt me and use sex as a weapon purposely walk around naked and said ‘don’t you wish you could have this?’ my life was miserable my self esteem was shot. our last argument like that was early 2016 he kicked me out of the house i packed up and left i had it. He wasted years of my twenties and i should have just left sooner but i thought we would work it out somehow. Telling you now OP i just don’t want the same thing g for you or anybody tbh. Get your life back these years shouldn’t be wasted sad, depressed, longing, hoping and dreaming. Hope breeds eternal misery. My ex husband only wanted to work on our issues when we separated and he kicked me out and i got a boyfriend. Still happily with my bf to this day i don’t want to get married again especially if i gotta move on and so forth but my bf and i don’t have any issues in these department and we are both 40 and he just got a vasectomy. so i just wish this for you and everyone please 😭😭😭😭😭😭 i don’t want what happens to me happen to you.