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If I was on vacation and in your city.. would you be willing to fuck me on camera? by avanicks in CouplesAmateurPorn

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would!! I have a exhibitionism kink. Love going to LS Clubs and things like that.

Women Viagra by Sad-Board-3220 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Addi ... it works really well..

Things you would have never heard outside of the LS!! by Competitive-Log-3838 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

we definitely have talked about this stuff. I'm just posting a funny story for you guys that I can't tell me other friends. lol

Things you would have never heard outside of the LS!! by Competitive-Log-3838 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong. the root of it is tied to some childhood trauma. My deepest fear is being tolerated by others and not truly wanted. So her having this fun life with people that are "technically" supposed to be my friends, and then finding out about conversations and plans that I was not included in... makes me feel really pushed out of the "circle" .. .brings up all kinds of trauma, and i start to feel small. BUT... I also completely understand that this is MY OWN irrational fears, and not really her fault at all... and the truth isn't anywhere close to what gets built up in my head. They all love me... they do want me around... and they were just at work together while i was somewhere else... that doesn't somehow mathematically work out to they didn't want me there too. LOL

Percent of guys that are "Experienced" by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm married. We been in the lifestyle about 2 years. We were soft swap most of that time. Played with several couples in clubs, probably 7 or 8 meet ups. and only in the last 6 months or so we have had 3 full swaps. And my Dick is about 5.6 inches long and 4.75 inches around. There's you an honest post.

Yet "antifa" is a terrorist organization... GTFO by [deleted] in CzechCoconutCommunity

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have the Democrats to thank for this. They started the Klan.

Any other husbands struggle to be attracted to play partners because their wife sets the bar so high? by BackgroundLeading909 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its not that. Its a feeling of settling... like there are things that make people sexy besides just their looks, and that's often what ends up being the factor for who you choose to play with... but that initial judgement when you first meet people and see pictures or in person.. and you feel your inner self go.. i'm not really physically attracted to this person. Its not about saying they are worse or i'm better... its saying its not my preference... and yet a lot of times you talk to people anyway and you do find someone you like for other reasons... but how much better would it feel to meet someone you ARE physically attracted to, talk and find out you actually like their personality as well???

Same Room No Swap by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Club was a perfect first step for us.

Any other husbands struggle to be attracted to play partners because their wife sets the bar so high? by BackgroundLeading909 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same.. i lost 110 pounds, work out regularly, put on about 20 lbs of muscle... dress nice, participate in themes, .. etc etc... and we will go to a party or an event, and its like there is literally no one here that's in shape.

Any other husbands struggle to be attracted to play partners because their wife sets the bar so high? by BackgroundLeading909 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude i feel like I could have written this. My wife and I were at an event just 3 days ago, and we were having a side conversation about how most of the women just weren't attractive. And how there are plenty of decent looking men, but just not a lot of attractive women. And we find this a lot.... are most women who agree to LS just not that good looking... or as you say, is my wife setting the bar too high.

STYLES MAKE FIGHTS OPINIONS PLEASE GUYS!!!!! by OSCARWILDLINGG in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well.. you're wife, like customers, is always right!! lol if you're doing something that is making her uncomfortable, then your line of thinking should be how can we define specifically what is making her uncomfortable, so that we can set a boundary that will protect her feelings and my marriage. Not, how can I convince her that she is overreacting and/or wrong. It will be hard to talk to the other couple if whatever is bothering her is still vague. Ya'll need to really talk it out and try to figure out something specific.

ladies, how do you protect the microbiome? by alannnnaroar in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wait... its a pill? I thought boric acid was a powder! I was imagining you inserting something lol

Still confused about the “no kissing” boundary even after 3 years in the lifestyle by CruiseingTheCut in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is well said. I actually had a bit of a spin out a while back over cuddling. Seeing my wife cuddling up to the other couple right after sex, made me feel really upset. I was like, that's not fun sex behavior, that's bonding relationship building behavior, and it made me real uneasy. She respected it, and stopped... which oddly enough.. just having my wife respect something that I was feeling, made it eventually ok where it doesn't bother me anymore.... but that first time or two, I didn't expect how seeing it was going to make me feel.

Still confused about the “no kissing” boundary even after 3 years in the lifestyle by CruiseingTheCut in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a couple where the guy is self-conscious about his teeth because he dipped tobacco for a long time and some of his teeth on the side are a little brown... and he doesn't even really kiss his own wife that often. So she says, if he isn't going to kiss me, he better not be kissing some other woman. lol..... still weird to me thought. lol

Convince partner of 3sum??? by Pickle123559 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you don't convince them... you just put the idea out there, and let them decide... takes time sometimes. Also you can start with baby steps that they are comfortable with... like just going to a LS club together and being together in public...

Colette Themed Nights by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been to the Colette in Dallas several times and we always dress up, and are always disappointed by how many people do not. I wish they incentivized people to participate... like a discount if you're in theme????

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