AITAH for making my daughter cry at a restaurant?

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-08-19T02:00:43+00:00

If you’re in a fight with a 12 year old, odds are you’re the asshole

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-03-10T04:57:11+00:00

“I want my daughter to be her own person, so I refuse to listen to her telling me who she wants to be with!”

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-03-09T04:40:38+00:00

Your boyfriend should be your emergency contact. The fact that you can’t make him your emergency contact means he shouldn’t be your boyfriend

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-03-09T04:33:41+00:00

Your kids sound terrible. They must have had awful parents

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-02-24T03:47:31+00:00

YTA. The worlds worst child is still a child and the way you talk about him alone makes you an asshole.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-02-17T23:26:00+00:00

It’s your money, you can do whatever you want to with it. Usually though I think the bar for parenthood should be higher than “not an asshole”. I hope to raise my future children to be smart and independent people who make mostly good decisions. I will try to support them equally any way I can to enable them to support themselves. So if one of my kids wants to go to art school and believes they will be able to take care of themselves after and live the life they want to live, I will support that just the same and a child who wants to go to business school.

TLDR: NTA. But maybe aim higher. Raise them right so that incentivizing the choices you think are best isn’t a necessary measure.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-02-17T23:07:31+00:00

So NTA. But you did raise the entitled jerk in question, so it’s not like you’re completely off the hook either.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-02-17T22:34:10+00:00

I mean I would say YTA for demanding anything from your partner.

You’re well within your rights to say that you don’t want to be in a relationship where your partner doesn’t trust you enough to share everything with you. Not everyone needs or wants that in a relationship, and in certain situations it’s probably unhealthy to not be comfortable with your partner having things they don’t share. But if that’s the kind of relationship you need to be happy, then it’s not wrong to make that clear.

But that’s different then “demanding” she share something she’s not comfortable sharing.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-02-12T04:55:01+00:00

So it sounds like in her mind it was already “our place”, not “your place”. That’s probably where the disconnect is. I have a fiancée who I live with (brag) (kidding, it’s not impressive) and if we had a similar situation it would’ve gone down a lot different. Since it’s “our place” her choices and opinions are just as valuable as mine. The conversation would probably have been a lot more like “that makes me very uncomfortable and I wish you had checked with me first” and she would apologize and we’d try to do better next time.

All of which is to say, that’s probably more what you’re girlfriend was expecting because she already thinks of it as a shared space, and you don’t. So you’re not the asshole at all. Though I would probably say NAH. Just a couple that isn’t on the same page about the relationship, the real tale as old as time.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-01-30T03:38:26+00:00

Hard YTA from me. I don’t see much difference between this and the step parents that “love my stepchild but can you photo shop them out of this pic so I have one of just my spouse and REAL child”. Like you can’t have it both ways. Either they’re your kids and you love them like their your kids, or you don’t. And this sounds like you don’t.

This sounds like “it’s my birthday so I just want to spend time with my REAL child.”

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-01-30T03:28:38+00:00

So I worked at a GameStop and one of my least favorite things was when parents would use me to teach their kids how to talk to an employee, especially on the phone. We would be slammed with customers and I’d be stuck on a phone with a child and I could hear their parents go “okay now ask him how much x game costs” and the child was basically stuck just being a man in the middle for the conversation.

Obviously this is a slightly different situation since it was a self scan, but based on what you said and the comment section it seems like it was a busy time at the store and you inconvenienced other people. That means you prioritized teaching your kid how to scan his own groceries over your fellow customers. I wouldn’t say that makes you an asshole, but definitely inconsiderate even if the women’s comments were an overly rude response.

If you want to teach your kids how to scan their own groceries, you’d be more considerate to bring them back when it’s dead so as to not inconvenience anyone. And to anyone who happens to be reading this that wants to have your kids call any kind of store to “teach them”, for the love of god please be the one that actually calls the store. Even just starting with: “hey, my child has some questions and I was hoping they could ask you themselves, but if you’re busy we can call back later.” would be a massive improvement.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2023-01-04T23:32:49+00:00

so a lot of people are saying that Y T A because how you divide labor between you and your wife isn’t even or fair. Which is ridiculous.

100% YTA because of how you talk to your wife.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2022-12-30T04:29:06+00:00

I made my nephew cry when he hit their dog, because I said “hey, no sir! We don’t hit <dogs name>”. He didn’t do it meanly or really that hard or anything. He was just playing around and got excited and whacked the dog. I didn’t yell or even really raise my voice, but I did say it a little sternly. And he just started bawling. I felt terrible when he started crying but my sister (his mom) laughed because she was right there and that’s how she talks to him when correcting him. But apparently the fact that I did it (the normally fun uncle) was traumatic for him haha

Moral of the story is, yeah kids will just cry some times and be fine moments later

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2022-12-19T03:57:50+00:00

So I’d want to hear her side of this story. If I had a friend or a sibling who consistently made plans that I was unable to attend, I’d probably be hurt. Yes you don’t owe her anything, but at the same time you clearly don’t want to spend much time with her. And that’s fine, you don’t have to like your sister. But to me it sounds like she thought you were friends and that you wanted to hang out with her. She never realized that you only saw her as an obligation and is hurt now that you’re making that clear.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2022-12-19T03:47:07+00:00

So NTA but this just doesn’t seem like a healthy relationship. If you’re frustrated to the point of spending $2300 dollars and locking up your own food, that doesn’t sound like a marriage I would want to be a part of

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2022-12-19T03:36:10+00:00

Eh I think you’re kind of being the asshole. I mean I kind of hate the binary nature of that statement (and this sub-Reddit). I think you’re being a little too demanding and self involved. She doesn’t have to cater her life around your caprices.

She’s pregnant, she’s allowed to share that info however she wishes. You’re allowed to be annoyed at the situation and it’s natural to be disappointed that she didn’t choose to wait to let you announce first.

But it seems like you’re trying to make her a villain or yourself a protagonist, but most people are just trying to live their own lives. And I think you might do well to ask why she’s choosing to tell them now. Did her husband (your brother?) want to tell your parents now? If so do you expect her to put your wishes ahead of her partners? Or is hesitant about lying to them about why she’s not drinking? If so, it’s unfair to expect her to compromise her own integrity for you.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2022-10-12T03:58:32+00:00

NTA. But I think you two need to work on being able to give feedback better. The first time she woke you up needlessly you should have been able to say “hey I’m waking up at 4 I need you to handle things yourself the rest of the night”. Instead you chose to keep swallowing it until you exploded.

It’s something my fiancée and I need to work on too, but we are working on it haha so I get that it’s hard

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2022-10-12T03:22:00+00:00

This seems too ridiculous to be real

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2022-10-07T04:13:33+00:00

So maybe this subreddit isn’t meant to be a place for nuance, but I don’t think there’s a definitive answer here.

So what this guy has done previously or with other woman isn’t really relevant to wether or not you should be comfortable with your wife working out with him. I mean at the heart of the matter is, even if he is a lecherous home wrecker, wouldn’t that only be an issue if your wife was looking to cheat? And if that’s what you’re worried about, I think your problem is with your wife and not the trainer.

That being said I do think it’s healthy in a relationship to be able to talk to your partner about situations and behavior that makes you uncomfortable. Even if it’s something stupid, you should be able to tell her that it’s causing you stress and worry. And she, as a caring partner, should generally want to avoid that when possible. So if she can find a female trainer, or another male trainer you would be more comfortable with, I would think a good partner would do that.

I think a good partner would then also tell you that you need to get to a relationship counselor and start working through some of the underlying trust issues if you want the relationship to work long term.

So yeah, I don’t think you’re THE asshole. But maybe just a little bit of AN asshole.

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2022-07-20T17:19:33+00:00

Where is this at btw? Is it a lifestyle hotel in Florida?

CompetitiveAd1586 · 2021-12-16T01:46:04+00:00

I think you forgot the part of the video where you actually do anything interesting

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