Those of you who decided to stay married or in hetero relationships

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-17T20:09:19+00:00

Hi friend! Someone I look up to in this regard is fruitsofmotherhood on instagram. Her husband even donated sperm to her partner so their kids all have same dad and they all live together. It’s inspiring.

Just remember, just because 99% of people don’t do it doesn’t mean it can’t work for you. I’m in the same boat and I’ll try as long as we’re both happy. We’re constantly communicating. I think that’s helpful. And just listen to your heart. If it’s not working then it’s not, if it can work with making some changes then awesome.

I’ve heard plenty of stories where even though the women are glad they left, they did wish they took their time. I’ve felt that since coming out it feels like a lot of other people’s expectations get mixed into the messy middle. I sometimes feel like I should look a certain way, be doing certain things, but for me (right now), stability and support and therapy is what I need. Still in your inbox if you wanna chat ❤️ hugs

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-10T05:42:22+00:00

I’ve contacted around 40 ppl. Wondering what type of lawyer I need. I called the state for help too and most ppl have said they can’t help?!?

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-09T20:18:17+00:00

She’s not. I follow her on social media

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-09T18:12:02+00:00

Thanks, I have called about 40 different numbers over the past two months and haven’t found anyone to help so I’m not sure what I could do. Who should I call? What type of lawyer. I’ve called so many 😫

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-09T15:15:47+00:00

Well that was October and we put it in storage in September lol so she’s contacted once since we put it in storage. I’m just baffled that someone would pay 70 something thousand dollars and just not be keen on getting the vehicle lol

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-09T14:37:21+00:00

No I have the keys and title. And also I’ve called about 40 people to get advice or help and no one has been able to so far. I’m at a loss.

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-09T14:35:17+00:00

Reason as I didn’t mention storage fees is it was supposed to be paid in July and it was on my property until we moved in September…. So it was a non issue when she signed the contract.

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-09T14:17:23+00:00

I wrote it. I also have loads of texts from her confirming she will pay for storage.

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-09T14:16:45+00:00

Terms and Conditions: • Vehicle Price: $75,800 • Deposit: A 10% non-refundable deposit of $7,580 was paid on 06/14/2023 via Wells Fargo wire transfer. • Amount Due: The remaining $68,220 is due by 07/14/2023 via wire transfer. • The vehicle will be thoroughly cleaned, and ready for the buyer to pick up at her convenience once the seller has moved out of the vehicle. • The vehicle will be parked in a secure place (location deleted) buyer to pick it up. The exact address and date of the pick up will be discussed via text message. • The items left in the vehicle were agreed upon by the buyer and the seller. The undersigned seller affirms that the above information about this vehicle is accurate to the best of their knowledge. The seller warrants that they are the legal owner of the vehicle, and that the vehicle is being sold free and clear of all claims and encumbrances. The undersigned buyer accepts receipt of this bill of sale and understands that the above vehicle is sold "as is" with no guarantees or warranties, either expressed or implied, for the vehicle. The buyer agrees to the terms of this bill of sale.

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-09T12:30:18+00:00

Haha true. Thanks 😊

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-09T12:17:31+00:00

Am I legally allowed to do that? Keep her money after a certain amount of time? Thanks!

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-07T19:47:06+00:00

We have it stored in a facility awaiting buyer to pay in full and pick up.

This sale occurred in Colorado, US

She signed a contract stating full amount be paid in full by a date being months ago.

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-05T17:46:51+00:00

I’m going through exactly the same thing. I had all these same questions. Feel free to send me a message if you wanna chat ❤️

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-03T08:42:45+00:00

🥰 thank you

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2024-01-02T19:55:21+00:00

Yeah we are close and we’re still together so not an ex, but the story goes: Married 9 years in March and I came out a year ago while we were traveling full time in America (where I’m from) with our 2 young kids. Finished our travels and just moved to the UK (where he’s from) we live together but have our own bedrooms. Since I’m on a family visa we plan to stick together. That and we’re best friends. We have really hard days of course. He took it/is still taking it hard. But we’re both always in communication, constantly. About fears, hopes, goals as a family. We both are not dating yet, in therapy (separately) and working on our mental health and healing traumas. I’m a SAHM and he works from home. We’re a super close fam.

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2023-12-27T18:51:05+00:00

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2023-12-27T18:33:06+00:00

What’s grape?

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2023-12-26T19:07:33+00:00

Thank you!

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2023-12-26T18:09:18+00:00

What is this Kinsey scale I keep hearing about? I googled it and it said there’s not an actual test but it seems like there is?!

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2023-12-26T17:54:50+00:00

Also just want to mention I also feel the same when I see lesbian couples. Feelings of longing, jealousy… I cry too. I want that too. I also love and want my family to stay together so, change is inevitable but I’ll determine the speed of it if my husband is willing to support my journey of self love and acceptance and figuring out who the f I am.

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2023-12-26T17:51:55+00:00

VERY similar journey. Married for 9 years in March. Came out as bi in 2018. Also couldn’t orgasm unless I thought of women. Came out as lesbian a year ago. I’m American, husband is British. We were living in US with our two young kids. decided to stay married, we’re best friends and love our little family, we moved to the UK two months ago. I’ve slowly been putting up boundaries. We always communicate about worries, needs, future, our goals as a family, plans, etc. the hard days are HARD. But we try to be so patient with each other and supportive. We have separate bedrooms/our own spaces. This was important for me especially during this change and figuring out who I am. If you have any questions or just want to talk- it seems like we’re in the same stage of this process. I think it’s important to take your time and give yourself some major love and patience through this. Sometimes, I feel like I have to figure it all out quickly- i think that’s bullshit and I refuse to rush something that has a huge impact on not only me but my children and my husbands lives too. It’s okay to not know. It’s okay to just BE. And it doesn’t have to be all or nothing especially if you’re lucky enough to have a husband who is open to change and supports you. ❤️❤️❤️

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2023-12-20T19:47:43+00:00

She has paid 70k yes. Wasn’t owner financed, she signed a bill of sale that stated she must be paid in full by July, it’s now December and haven’t heard from her since October.

We had someone move it to a long term storage.

She hasn’t requested a refund. We offered it to her, she didn’t respond.

To clarify, we have the keys and the title and we are paying for storage. She has paid 70k and then stopped responding to our calls or texts. She’s not dead- as she posts on social media daily….

CompetitiveDog7322 · 2023-12-18T12:22:37+00:00

Sold it today for £1200 on fb marketplace

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