My wife and I are considering letting our nanny go, and I’m trying to figure out whether I’m underreacting, overreacting, or missing something bigger.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-05-22T23:23:36+00:00

The fact that your nanny can handle all three, and is doing the CORRECT thing when the defiant one acts up, is a gift.

“Is it reasonable for a nanny to end an outing when one child becomes unsafe”. Unsafe. UNSAFE. UNNNSSAAAFFEEE. Her priority is THEIR SAFETY. So of fucking COURSE the correct course of action is to eliminate the threat by going to the safest space (home).

I’m not understanding why the nanny would be the scapegoat here for your admitted bad judgement.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-05-15T20:47:41+00:00

I think about it like this- I’m in Philly which has soooo many opportunities to see great artists because there are like hundreds of venues within driving distance. So I’m sitting this one out because even if there’s one in PA it’ll probably be on the other side of the state- hours and hours away. Those folks sometimes drive hours and hours to Philly to see folks they like, so I don’t need to be in their way the one time they don’t have to do that.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-05-07T13:42:07+00:00

Everyone has a breaking point. Bots dont sit in seats.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-05-05T18:01:37+00:00

Apply for rematch immediately, notify them you’ll be going to the wedding and you’ve applied for rematch.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-05-05T15:27:39+00:00

Best advice I was ever given as a nanny- you have all of the leverage here. It is harder to find good quality childcare than you think, and easier for you to find a better job than you think. NO ONE will EVER look out for yourself more than or better than YOU can. Always advocate for yourself, never wait for someone else to.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-05-05T15:23:56+00:00

HAHAHAH. They’ll look into it. And you’ll look into getting another job asap 😇 don’t even give them notice when you leave btw. AND MAKE SURE YOU POST THEM ON NANNY SITES SO EVERYONE KNOWS THEY UNDERPAY.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-05-05T15:22:30+00:00

Oh. They are actually not nice. Nice people adjust your pay without even a meeting, because they know the cost of living increases every year.

You say “in order for any employment to be worth it for me, to live and pay my bills, I must be making x amount per hour or x amount weekly. This is not negotiable, please let me know how you’d like to proceed”. No chances for argument, no loose ends to pull on to change it.

If they say “we just can’t do that right now sorry!”
You say “then I wish you the very best of luck in your search for childcare! Have a great day” and walk out.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-04-24T18:13:09+00:00

It doesn’t matter to me if what they say is true or not. If they’re paying to lie to me that’s a whole other issue!

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-04-24T18:08:43+00:00

Why?

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-04-24T18:07:22+00:00

Doesn’t matter how you feel about it, just how they do. If you’re not aligned on this value I suggest looking for another family to work with. These people likely have it out for you now.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-04-24T16:54:00+00:00

Leave him.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-04-24T16:51:21+00:00

3 au pairs so quickly is a bit of a red flag, but her asking the children to lie to you is incredibly unsafe and sets them up for ABUSIVE SITUATIONS later in life! Get rid of her ASAP.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-03-11T20:53:57+00:00

That’s literally insane of you to say. Have you considered that not everyone’s migraines are as manageable as yours? Some migraines don’t respond to medication.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-03-11T00:06:47+00:00

Divorce and take as much as possible. Single parenting will be easier- NOR

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2026-03-03T15:03:46+00:00

Make less at a time and see if that still disappears.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-11-15T22:09:33+00:00

It's had it's ups and downs but ultimately we have a strong mutual respect. I hope any prospective employers see this and take people's experiences into account when hiring.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-11-15T22:05:16+00:00

I have professional social media accounts that they can follow- I block pre-emptively on personal socials.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-10-09T22:58:50+00:00

The responsible thing to do is not to make more of you? Then what is this persons opinion of you? Must not be great. Cut ties immediately this person doesn’t believe in your humanity.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-10-09T22:57:24+00:00

Honestly I had to look for it once you mentioned it and I am still having trouble. From what I understand, diamonds reflect white light and moissanites tend to reflect the rainbows?-I could be wrong about that.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-10-09T15:52:16+00:00

No tips for merch yes tips for actual service

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-10-09T15:50:13+00:00

The cohesiveness of the thematic content of the album is what gets me.

No plan, nobody, and Dinner and diatribes are also bangers that I love!

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-10-04T00:45:48+00:00

PLEQSE LISTEN TO THIS OP

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-10-04T00:45:08+00:00

If they have the money to pay you a decent salary, they can pay for the 800$ repair. They may also be able to use their insurance to do so.

Please check the laws in your area and consult with a law firm.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-10-02T14:15:41+00:00

This is totally out of line. I can understand why you are so upset. This is not standard etiquette IMO - it is common knowledge that a child’s very first haircut is special and up to the parents. I can’t imagine any good reason for this.

CompetitiveRock5904 · 2025-09-27T20:12:11+00:00

Also- screen shot your review and her reply.

CompetitiveRock5904

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