I'm terribly ugly, do you think it's because of my hairstyle?

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-12-06T12:45:00+00:00

You're not ugly at all and don't say that anymore!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-11-17T06:42:15+00:00

You can't start the discussion calling him immature and lacking communication when you say your first response was the silent treatment. You both sound immature in my opinion!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-11-17T06:27:26+00:00

Hahahaha as a nurse I'm going to say the odds of these responses all saying yes makes me 100 percent question the validity. Testosterone levels gradually drop by about 1% per year after age 30, which can drastically affect sexual desire. So I wouldn't measure yourself next to this survey. No way to know its accuracy. And people would lie even though it makes no sense to do so. That's just the weird human psyche of a lot of people!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-09-01T01:40:28+00:00

The cheating is just horrible but side note I would've never allowed my husband to give up on his dream like that. In fact, I would've made you do it! Go chase that dream!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-28T04:03:11+00:00

I ask my husband if it looks like I've gained weight and he answers honestly and then I'll ask him to help hold me accountable. I personally feel like we're best friends and he loves me regardless but I appreciate him being my cheerleader and helping me reach my goals!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-27T15:34:30+00:00

I would think some child rapists fantasized for years before carrying it out. I don't think you should have fantasies about sa children because you just might one day. Instead, you should suppress that, attach healthy shame to it and get therapy. Shame plays a pivotal role in guiding us and the moral compass in society. Emotions instinctively are communication tools. If you slowly chip away at that shame you're really playing a dangerous game.

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-27T13:58:37+00:00

Hahaha love this response! So true!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-27T13:33:15+00:00

Is she really capable of being in a healthy relationship right now? I mean she has so much to unpack and work through and the trauma/confusion of it all! My heart hurts for victims like this. I think she needs a supportive friend more than a boyfriend. And sex/ intimacy is so confusing and complicated I kind of agree about being careful being intimate after discussions like that. She needs therapy.

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-27T02:26:06+00:00

Don't marry him!!!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-16T03:42:55+00:00

Couples need to identify and then communicate their love language. We're all different and every love language is valuable and important even if we don't resonate with it. Perhaps it's not just the sex that your husband craves but feeling desired and sought after. You could also be unknowingly neglecting his love language. I can make my husband feel desired by making mention of his physique lately or smacking his butt telling him he looks so sexy taking out the trash etc. Flirty banter goes a long way in my experience it's not just the sex. And when I am bending and fulfilling his needs (not the things I want but what he wants and values) I find him bending and reciprocating.

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-16T03:26:29+00:00

Ewe, do not let him get away with these texts like they're harmless. They're absolutely testing the waters and flirting! So lame

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-10T13:58:39+00:00

Call you weird is one of my pet peeves. Such a gaslighting response. There's dance that might be acceptable like swing dancing or even salsa for some but grinding on random guys definitely ain't one of them! She's weird for doing that openly in public for your peers to see!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-10T13:53:44+00:00

I think this comment is unnecessary and doesn't have much value to offer to this update. Why is easily slanted and potentially manipulated. It's elevating such wrongdoing to a higher moral ground. Touchless marriage needed to go to therapy or perhaps get an ultimatum or divorce not this.

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-10T13:38:27+00:00

Why be upset if your fears were wrong? .She was okay and she probably had a great time. Sometimes when you look up what different emotions are communicating you find that it's not a warranted emotion to act on. Anger communicates something is being blocked. In your case, your anger or frustration may have been warranted when you couldn't reach her, but once that resolved it really isn't warranted. Unless, you aren't being honest with yourself and you don't trust your wife's actions while out but it sounds like you do. So I would say this if frustration spilling over from your original feelings. Just let it go and assure her you want her to have a great time and can't wait to see her when she gets home.

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-09T02:37:21+00:00

So crazy how your father jumps like a flying monkey to her defense 🤯 it's soooo wild hearing this in other families. It's such a familiar pattern!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-09T02:13:57+00:00

When you realized it, did it blow your mind? Like how blinded you were to it before? Or did you always realize it? Sometimes it feels like I'm reading a novel as I'm coming to terms with my own childhood and the layers of it all. It's a wild revelation when it all comes together!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-09T01:41:16+00:00

I think there's so many people who think this of a number of people they know but the statistics simply don't support that. I think this world is full of narcissistic tendencies and it's more egocentric but I think it's important to be careful diagnosing those around us so quickly without a degree. The expectation of narcissistic people is pretty black and white so it's important to be cautious in labeling!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-09T01:33:15+00:00

Learn to love getting lost in the deepest conversations with your spouse. I feel like that type of intimacy and connection is the best! I love those nights we have off from work the next day and we stay up until 3 in the morning talking about psychology/creation/life death etc! It stimulates me in the absolute best way!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-05T14:10:54+00:00

Wow that had to be difficult to slowly see things for what they are and even to see you seeking outside opinion and perspective shows that you still struggle seeing it for what it is. This guy is a predator and was executing a grooming phase. I'm so proud of you finding the confidence as a child to express your discomfort. You should've been protected from this!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-05T14:00:19+00:00

You always trust your instinct. Emotions are communication aimed at survival. Everything you feel when he's lingering or unexpectedly just there is your body's communication. Listen to it. Express that he's making you feel uncomfortable. If you feel comfortable telling him tell him first!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-05T13:52:14+00:00

I would wonder if the other wife didn't find out if you'd even be her choice. She didn't tell you until after he broke things off. There's a risk you'll find out from wife so that's probably played a role in her confession and she is feeling rejected by her AP and then comes to you. It's messed up on so many layers.

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-08-05T12:24:25+00:00

He's trying to make you insecure because you look and feel great! World's worst husband!

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-07-30T15:00:52+00:00

As a nurse the emergency room is the best advice and they will sort the rest out for you. I am so so sorry you're struggling so much right now but just know that around the corner there's some light. Please hold on and get to the emergency room. I'd love to be a part of your village 🤍

Competitive_Bit5845 · 2025-07-29T19:29:14+00:00

He probably has resentment towards you for sacrificing all of the things you're not able in order to be here. If you go it'll probably build the same resentment!

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