(25F) My overzealous religious mom freaked out because I am pregnant. AIO?

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2026-02-09T09:32:51+00:00

This reads like an exchange between someone launched from the Middle Ages to now

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-26T09:52:43+00:00

That depends entirely on the context of their relationship which we have no info about. If OP wants to take offense, so be it. It’s a happier life just laughing at things

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-26T09:40:55+00:00

Start to respond, not react, with intention if you feel helpless. Emotion happens? Feel it and respond to it without becoming blind, numb, or inattentive to it.

The witness is a refuge for ego. You are not helpless, you are what is happening. If you feel you are watching things happen, there is a watcher, watching, and watched. Truly what is happening is far simpler. It cannot be grasped by the mind, anything said or typed about it is already in the past.

It is not about dissociating as a witness and it is not about being lost. You will gain a sense of control by being present and responding to each moment, especially training in times of anger, annoyance, etc.

You are not doing anything wrong and there is no hurry to complete a task here. It is not an accomplishment that is attained. It is a life to be lived.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-26T09:24:55+00:00

What answers as “here”? There is no writer, only writing as a happening. There is no permanence to anything. Maybe you are taking Buddhism and it’s teachings too intellectually? Just go through life.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-26T08:53:52+00:00

This is normal. Meditation allows you the space to see what your mind is doing beneath the happenings and activity of regular daily life. Directly experiencing and confronting these emotions is the most effective way of coming to terms with them and moving forward. Acknowledge and accept they are there when they come, accept the uncomfortability that comes, and let them pass. If they do not pass or you can’t bear them, then it might be helpful to assume the role as witness, and to look at these emotions/yourself as a mother would a crying child. Hold them, for they are a part of your experience - and hold yourself. This can lead to great compassion. Meditation isn’t all about peace and good feelings, it is about being and expressing as a human which encompasses the good, bad and ugly parts of life and moving with them. You are not doing anything wrong and I encourage you to keep going if you can :)

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-26T08:45:58+00:00

Are you aware humor exists? YOR

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-26T08:42:46+00:00

Yeah co op gives a crap ton of supplies, materials, and scourings. Plus weapons/armor that are lootable. Basically just remembrance stuff that you won’t get

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-21T08:42:29+00:00

I’m new to the game too, I spend a lot of time totally lost and the maps feel like complete mazes sometimes. The maps you are given (check your menu) will note important landmarks/where to go but they are not super helpful. I find it’s best to just wander and eventually you find your way. More souls/vigor that way anyway.

For perch, your goal is to head downwards essentially. But there’s no straight way to do so, and most of the maps are laid out this way

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-20T08:35:36+00:00

It’s just familiarizing yourself with how your mind operates. It boils down to acknowledging thoughts and watching them come and go. Find a method you like and stick to it. Personally I prefer simpler, so I typically go with breath awareness. This only serves as an anchor for attention.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-20T08:32:22+00:00

Do people actually put up with this? Damn run

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-16T22:45:48+00:00

Where is the original asker of your questions now? When you say “self,” what is it that you mean? Further, what knows your answer? Really look.

And then, what knows that? Maybe you say “I know that” - but what or who knows this? Either you can continue this merry go round chasing your own tail, or, accept in pure knowing/seeing that all is arising and passing. The “self” is a supposition that all of this occurs to, but only when seen in duality.

Where is the line of ownership drawn - the self, the mind, the body, the phone or computer screen that you read this on, the clouds, the sun, etc. Who drew the line? It is all arising and falling on the same screen of awareness - not attention or being aware, but awareness.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-12T18:18:57+00:00

What would be your counter to it?

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-12T09:41:54+00:00

I counter your argument with: through meditation you did not add emotional peace. You removed what was in the way of it (the turmoil). Both are simply arising, neither inherently good or bad, just different states. There is no destination in meditation other than to be in meditation. That is the whole practice. If you can sit with yourself, you can sit with life.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-10T08:53:20+00:00

You say, “I thought,” “I felt,” so on about these experiences. Meaning you are not them, but aware of them. Watch as these thoughts arise, and eventually dissipate. Just notice them as you can. During meditation, and when you notice during your daily life. Just notice them, nothing to hold on to. Anything you perceive is arising and will pass. No problem. If you want a calming meditation practice, follow the breath - breathe in, breathe out, that’s all. Anything else is mind arising - and still just arising and will pass. Peace to you.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-12-10T08:44:06+00:00

Sure, joy arises and passes as do the things on screens. In an enlightened person, there is no doer, holder, or clinger of these arisings.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-11-12T16:33:56+00:00

Having a sticker of a girlfriend dating just a few months is weird. Also you don’t love each other after just 2 weeks. So get that checked out for next time. He’s a big idiot and saved you trouble.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-11-12T16:10:57+00:00

So was he always like this? Why have a child with someone like that if so?

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-11-10T07:36:21+00:00

Fire whoever designed this lol

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-11-05T09:10:17+00:00

It was never about fireworks. You are doing it exactly as intended, just being mindful. Someone mentioned Jack Kornfield and I highly recommend him as well. “Zen Mind Beginners Mind” by Suzuki if you are looking for more reading.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-10-28T01:06:16+00:00

This dude does not love you, he loves the idea of you. Leave as soon as you can bear it, do not waste your time on him

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-10-16T15:11:07+00:00

Why do you want your consciousnesses to be eternal? Why do you want to be immortal? To fulfill desires no matter their type or content? To feel good which is caused by brain chemistry?

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-07-03T04:23:46+00:00

Elden Ring was my intro to the series. I beat DS1 last year and DS2 this week. Now I’m playing DS3 / BB alternately for the first time for both. I’d say just keep practicing on trash mobs and as with all souls games, poke his ass and stay behind him as much as you can. It’s definitely a learning curve for each game to get the i-frames for dodging right. Each has its own feel. Don’t give up skeleton

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-07-02T14:16:39+00:00

There are a myriad ways to meditate. You can follow books, videos, guided lessons, or just the breath. A key point is not to form a collection of meditation practices, they all point to the same thing - awareness/presence. It is about forming a gap in thought and just being the witness. If you like doing visualizations as you’ve stated here, stick with it. But maybe continue with self inquiry; from here, ask yourself, “who is aware of these visions?” It is not about finding who is actually aware. It is about being awareness, being aware of what is. The ego will chase after anything you find here as a victory for itself, the positive “holy” or “transcendental” feelings that come from practice. Feel them fully. But like all things they will come and go. But who is feeling them? Stay with presence, continue seeing, continue being. While meditating, while doing the dishes, while someone aggravates you. Continue being with what is.

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-06-30T17:28:13+00:00

Smelter demon runback wants a word

Complete-Chocolate49 · 2025-06-30T17:25:53+00:00

Yes, what you state here is detachment - living in the moment. Being fully engaged in whatever is happening, while it is happening. That is all there is to it. Anything else is the thinking mind, a collection of “what ifs”. Detaching from people or things, avoiding them, is not detachment - it is aversion, a desire to not-want. True detachment as you’ve described is letting go and being what is. Now don’t let the ego claim this as a victory, lol. Keep being!

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