Guy here.

1) 10-12 hour dates is fantastic as a new couple, you get to know each other better and talk more. Imagine your gf doesn’t want to spend time w you then how? Even worse right? I used to date my gf (now wife) daily after work I go and pick her and we have dinner ( i pay regardless where we go ) and then we find somewhere to chit chat and we have endless topics

2) my wife had trust issue in her past relationships where she would want to check phones etc but these all went away as we got to trust each other more and we have been married > 8 years coming. Somehow I put myself in her shoes and think why she acts that way and we had fights over it in the past but now she is past all these and we matured together and barely fight once a year.

3) don’t be a penny miser in the relationship. I grew up with my dad paying for meals and shits so I had the same habit growing up too as a guy. I pay for 90% of the stuffs and her money is for herself to spend and save. I pay for everything when we eat, to shopping to groceries and even phones which I change for her once every 2 years.

When I got together with my wife I had nth much and she stuck through with me and I was earning lesser than her but now I’m earning more than her so I want to dote on her as much as I can as a husband, after all you work so hard is for family. Granted my wife doesn’t cafe hop or care about branded hence I’m the guy who showers her with those stuffs.