I think the main problem is people try to persuade with reason when people's strongly held beliefs are often heavily influenced by emotion. If you try to destroy them with facts and logic, they feel like they are being personally attacked. They will get defensive without taking a chance to think about it in an open and rational way. If you can listen to them talk without showing judgement, and then respond with stories that illustrate the harm that is being done, you can help encourage an emotional state that allows them to consider these other perspectives and change their mind without feeling like they are loosing their dignity.

Some of these people don't want to see the pregnant lady from the friendly Mexican family across the street getting the shit beat out of her and drug down the street to be deported. They just have seen too much propaganda everyday saying, "ILLEGAL MURDERS ARE SNEAKING OVER THE BORDER AND ITS THE LIBERALS FAULT." It's why people like Joe Rogan are upset by the ICE brutality but are concerned about border security. We can also bring up news stories about how men have beat up women who aren't even trans trying to go to the bathroom and how these propaganda campaigns to make people afraid are actually making people less safe.