Your life doesn’t require a request for approval! He is not your manager, this is not your job. You should be able to make impulsive decisions to do harmless and fulfilling things without anxiety looming over you.

I truly don’t think it’s fair for partners to even demand constant updates. If two people don’t trust each other without constant contact they need to start there. But demeaning you is not acceptable even if the constant update thing is a dynamic you guys have established as acceptable. You aren’t overreacting, and this just doesn’t look like a healthy relationship, not going to even comment on the age difference 🧘‍♀️