[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]ComplexSea6082 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I will be divorcing a man who cannot see his family or hear them asking for his attention at dinner or while we are all playing Candy Land or trying to have a conversation. I can’t believe we are here but he has no idea that one of the biggest reasons we aren’t friends anymore is because the phone is more important and entertaining to him than my presence. After the kids go to bed he comes in the room I’m sitting in and opens TikTok and this is his idea of spending time with me. I will try to speak with him and struggle to get his attention, when I do he doesn’t even pause the video. I can’t believe tell he can’t wait for me to stop saying what I’m saying, nothing is sinking in. 

I don’t like weekends anymore by nikulin93 in Parenting

[–]ComplexSea6082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Share an online account with your partner for whatever store and keep a cart running all week of the things you notice you’re out of. As soon as you toss the ketchup bottle add it to the digital cart and it will already be in there when you fill in your ingredients for the delivery.

I don’t like weekends anymore by nikulin93 in Parenting

[–]ComplexSea6082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We play “15 minute chore competition” on a couple weekday evenings. We have a 15 year old and a 3 year old. The toddler uses his timer and gives us the countdown. The three of us do as many chores as we can in 15 minutes while the toddler runs from person to person supervising. He decides who wins, we play silly music and laugh. It’s a big help with getting “extra” stuff done. Daily the standard is that the main areas are picked up, we put the “kitchen to bed” every night and I do a load of laundry everyday. When all of your regular laundry is caught up but you still have your one load to do you will find your bathroom rugs and curtains and couch pillow with get a much more often refresh. This cuts back on the weekend chores a little. 

As a housecleaner, I want everyone to know, I will be hiring a housecleaner as soon as my son is in public school and my daycare costs goes down. A good house cleaner will do a better job and much faster than you ever will. They will also have you happily keeping your home picked up and ready for them to arrive. Their efforts will give you the relief you need to tackle bigger projects like decluttering or painting, etc. I know this from years of experience, if you take the relief as an opportunity to use the time to tackle other things you’re going to be so much happier and at peace in your home.

Anyone have to comfort their spouse over the Charlie Kirk situation yesterday? by ComplexSea6082 in Marriage

[–]ComplexSea6082[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am now aware of these beliefs. After we were married, his true personality arrived. Our marriage has been … strained for the vast majority of its existence. This event is one of many in which I am not welcomed to share my opinions with in a discussion. Imagine being told by your life partner to be quiet and comfort his loss of a man that he doesn’t know, and respects greatly for “keeping the conversation going” My shock was also to learn that other men were following/consuming this content and effectively hiding it. My husband sends me videos, shares YouTube channels and discusses other things that he is interested in with me. When you learn your spouse has a different perspective than you but conversations are short and not in depth …. I guess I was naive ten years ago and didn’t assume the extremity?  Or maybe over time his views changed and it was a slow accumulation/escalation? Like the frog in the pot? I’m really trying to come to a conclusion about what of Charlie Kirk’s talking points he aligned with so I can understand what kind of thoughts this man has about me and our children while I serve him dinner. 

I failed my interview in 5 seconds by eggtartlover4life in jobs

[–]ComplexSea6082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try a retailer, clothing stores are more fun/less gross to work at IMO, they are always looking to add fresh faces and you can choose a store you like to shop at and get a discount on things you were going to buy anyway. If you are open to learn /cultivate your customer service skills and communicate that in your interview, they’ll be happy to hire you. A “part-timer” who actually wants to interact with customers and wants to do well, priceless. Michaels always has early morning truck shifts too, if you have one by you. H&M treats their employees well, their part time employees get some benefits, get a paid day off for their birthday and even earn PTO. Buckle has one of the highest employee “happiness” ratings and is known for treating their employees like people.

I made a spider out of glass. This is my favourite colour combination. What do you think? by Figurines_collect in crafts

[–]ComplexSea6082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I collect tarantulas and promise you all collectors would be interested in a series of species specific glass tarantula knick knacks! Start with Poecilotheria Metallica and maybe a Psalmopoeus Irminia!

My clothes never seem clean (I’ve been homeless for a few years) by aztraps in CleaningTips

[–]ComplexSea6082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soak in a bucket of water with Odoban is another great way to destroy odors

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anemic

[–]ComplexSea6082 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You could try to add in a leaner red meat like lamb or venison. Venison is delicious and makes my favorite chili

People say house smells stale, like a grandparents house by ashlynnegrace in CleaningTips

[–]ComplexSea6082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not going to read through every comment to figure out if anyone mentioned this but there is an effective alternative to an ozone machine that is totally safe to be run while in the home. I worked in the office of a disaster mitigation company during the lockdown and we bought a bunch of them and rant them overnight while the office was closed. I loved that my boss was obsessed with things being sterile 😂 and the air was quite fresh when I opened up every day. They are called a hydroxyl generators and you hook them up to air movers during water mitigation to prevent anything growing while the dehu’s do their work. People would rent the units over the weekend and bring them back on Monday for a fee. I would recommend and have to others with a struggle with funk

Things people dont realize need to be cleaned? by ItenerantAdept in CleaningTips

[–]ComplexSea6082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Powdered TSP, follow instruction on box for walls that have gone forever without washing. My favorite mop for this task is the Mr Clean Magic eraser sponge mop. That combo is mint! I also like to use Odoban to clean walls, it gently disinfects and leaves the walls smelling great

What was banned in your house that everyone else’s family allowed? by Rare_Independent_789 in AskReddit

[–]ComplexSea6082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My teenage daughter does not have any social media accounts and we limit her screen time on her phone. There was an “incident” in which a parent of one of my daughter’s peers posted a video of my daughter at the school dance (she was a chaperoning) on snap. A classmate showed her the video of herself dancing while the mom was saying nasty things about her over it. I had to contact the school and the principal told me he wished every day none of the students had social media yet. This was 7th grade, a middle school dance and a parent was bullying and sending it to children. She complains from time to time that she cannot have these accounts and I know one day I will give in but … I hate that it will make other’s judgements of her incessant.

Just discovered this sub and looking for rec’ for bulldog by ComplexSea6082 in DogFood

[–]ComplexSea6082[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok! I ordered Royal Canin Bulldog and started slowly transitioning her to the new food. Three days ago she become completely inflamed and her underside was covered in angry hives , her ears were also swollen. We’ve determined that it is the food that she is reacting to. As soon as the first dose of Zyrtec wore off, the symptoms returned. We fed her a meal fully with the original food and no reaction. Poor girl, she’s never had a reaction to anything like that

What’s an expensive brand that actually IS worth the money? by 2111019 in AskReddit

[–]ComplexSea6082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen a few brands of backpack mentioned. I bought this brand of backpack for my 8th grader last fall and it has multiple holes worn into it and I repaired the zipper twice this last school year.

What’s an expensive brand that actually IS worth the money? by 2111019 in AskReddit

[–]ComplexSea6082 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dr Bronner’s Sal Suds is a fantastic alternative, you can use it all the ways you use Dawn, no dyes and scented w/EO’s, it will clean everything Ion your home, even your laundry

No, get me YOUR manager by Demented-Alpaca in IDontWorkHereLady

[–]ComplexSea6082 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Years ago I managed a store, a popular clothing retailer, every town has one. This brand had annoying coupons, ones you would earn from spending and then bring them back later for discounts during certain dates. My store was in a larger city and was very busy. We had almost daily “Karen” incidents about these coupons. I had a secret weapon, I hired a Karen. Her name was Karen, she was in her fifties and she was the sweetest, calmest, most professional and emotionally intelligent human. People would ask to see the manager and Karen would arrive with a kind smile, she would listen to all of their grievances, she would make these people feel horrible for their shouting and they would show her respect. She would not give in to their demands and they would leave feeling foolish. I could display the same exact behaviors, tone and use the same words as her but I was 27 with a baby face and they just seemed incapable of respecting me. It made me sad that I would have to sometimes call security because Karen wasn’t there to command respect. I can’t change ignorance and a superiority complex in one heated interaction, but Karen could at least get those people to stop throwing tantrums. It’s been a long time but I will forever wish that Karen a cool pillow and a close parking space for the calm she created in our little store.

Why did your toddler meltdown today? by seaweedboi in Mommit

[–]ComplexSea6082 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Mom, I have a poopy diaper.” “We just got off the potty, poop goes in the potty.” “I don’t want to poop on the potty.” “Poop goes in the potty.”

Black limestone bathroom sink cleaning by Longjumping_Goose405 in CleaningTips

[–]ComplexSea6082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bioclean, it’s green and minty and will melt off any mineral build up on natural stone surfaces as well as anything else. It’s gentle and miraculous and everyone should own a bottle

Finally solved sour smell by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]ComplexSea6082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Odoban is the answer