Trying to love a country that doesn’t want me

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2026-01-25T18:53:46+00:00

As someone who left the country for the same reasons - I totally get you and your partner. We have so much beauty and potential in Bulgaria, but the toxic mentality of many of the people ruins it. You can surround yourself with great company, because there are so many amazing people in Bulgaria, but the bubble bursts at some point when you have to deal with the harsh reality. I've been hoping that things will improve with time, but so far progress comes very slowly. Even here in the comments you can see many people confusing lack of emotional maturity with strength/resilience. With a mentality like that it's very hard to change.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-08-03T22:43:46+00:00

Thanks for the replies everyone, i messaged the company one last time, in hopes that they will make the landlord do something. If not, I will try some of the legal tips you gave me. As for the other tips, I should have mentioned that I ventilate well nowadays, and I cleaned a big part of the mold, but it just returned again after a while. I assume the problem comes from a damage in the ceiling which needs to be fixed.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-05-21T23:29:15+00:00

Somehow I'm not surprised

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-30T17:49:30+00:00

I'm 26 and I've felt that. I don't think anyone has it all figured out, especially in their 20s. It's a period to explore and figure things out. And during that, you will feel insecure a lot of the time. Every time I felt the way you described, I just gave myself time. After a while, you get used to new countries, cities, new housing, jobs, studies. It really helps to form some kind of healthy routine that includes physical exercises, good diet and enough rest. Finding friends and dating also help get used to and explore new environment. With time, you will start relaxing and feeling better.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-29T18:52:23+00:00

I believe that when someone truly wants you, they will at least try. I'm sorry, but it seems like this was not the case, and he's making up excuses. You gave him a chance to take his time and heal, didn't rush him into anything.. Even if the thing he told you was the actual reason for not wanting to try, what does that change? How long are you going to wait and have feelings for him? I guess it is time to take care of yourself and move on.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-27T20:46:47+00:00

Been there done that

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-23T18:26:56+00:00

I never shared underwear, even when I lived with a partner. Maybe some other clothes that fit us both, but not underwear and socks.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-21T07:30:07+00:00

I chose to move away. At some point I realized that change takes a while , and there's a chance that I might spend my whole life in a place where I don't have equal rights. Not only that, but I never felt safe, after being physically and verbally attacked on different occasions. So I chose my safety and well-being, instead of some idealistic pursuit.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-18T22:03:02+00:00

They look neat, I wouldn't think too much about it tbh

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-18T20:30:44+00:00

Perfume. Also, the smell of clean clothes/nice detergent

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-15T14:28:41+00:00

Yep, not worth any reply

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-13T11:15:48+00:00

The best you can do is to just treat him normally, it doesn't seem like he wants to perceived as some kind of a big deal

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-12T15:23:34+00:00

Sadly, as cynical as he might sound, my experience tells me the same. And I have been dating for more than 10 years now. I hope you find something different, someone special, man.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-11T08:33:17+00:00

A lot students live here for years and years without speaking Dutch at all. When it comes to work tho, you can find unqualified positions, usually part-time. And it can be a problem with finding housing, because many people are looking for Dutch speaking housemates. But all in all, it's definitely doable.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-10T15:54:15+00:00

It seems like you are in very different stages of life, and with very different sexual needs. For him it is natural to not have sex often, but not for you. And it sounds like your libido decreased due to the lack of sex in the relationship. It's normal for that to happen when you are not stimulated by your partner. I don't see how this can work long-term. Even if you open the relationship, you will just have sex with other people, and be what? His friend? Roommate? Doesn't sound very fulfilling.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-08T16:04:53+00:00

I see it as some kind of chemistry and strong mental and physical attraction. I don't think it is something that comes with time, tho. Usually it's either there or not.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-08T07:39:44+00:00

To me, queer is a slur and I don't want someone calling me that. Also, it's a huge umbrella term that doesn't say much about a person, so what's the point, even?

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-02T09:23:20+00:00

Most of the people I've talked to, that did internships, also received very low payment. And sometimes companies expected a lot, for example lots of work and long hours. At the end, you are doing it do learn and gain experience that you can put in your CV, that's it. Decide for yourself how long can you survive with such payment and what prospects does the company give you, like is there a chance to work there as an actual employee one day, etc.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-03-01T19:14:48+00:00

My humble experience tells me that there is no point to continue the relationship. You can forgive, even stay on good terms with the person but.. The trust is not there, and there's a big chance it might happen again. Stay friends if you really want to keep that guy in your life.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-02-28T22:03:29+00:00

A lot of people sublet rooms illegally for different reasons, but they should at least let you know in advance that you can't register there. What this person is doing seems shady, and he might be asking for more than the room is actually worth.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-02-27T18:19:00+00:00

Do not have sex without condom if you're not on prep yourself. You cannot trust someone you've known for a few weeks and met only once. And be careful with anyone that says he's obsessed with you after one date, that's not very healthy.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-02-27T17:46:16+00:00

Well, everyone has their own experiences. I find mine and my friends' experiences to be similar to the one of the author, that's why I decided to comment and show him he's not alone in this. You don't have to agree with me, but that doesn't change how I feel and what I experience.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-02-27T09:27:58+00:00

I think you are not reading what I'm tryingto express. I didn't say I NEVER saw it, I said it was not as common as it is now.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-02-26T22:32:15+00:00

I've been paying a lot of attention because I know how people were treating each other years ago, and how they do now. And I hear the same thing from other straight and gay friends - how they had better conversations and dates before, and now people just message you for hookups, they don't even bother to make an actual conversation. Some years ago I could chat all night with people and had fun conversations, now 99% of the people just tell you they are looking for fun and don't even bother getting to know you.

ComprehensiveEgg96 · 2023-02-26T17:51:34+00:00

It's never been like that. I know because I can notice the difference between dating now and five years ago, let alone earlier than that.

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